£3 million liquid net worth at 28, depressed and unable to relate to anyone

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I am sorry in advance if this sounds insensitive given how some are struggling but I don't know where else to post. I'm at £3 mil liquid now (mainly own business started at 20, if I sold this it would be a considerably higher number) and don't know what the hell I am doing with my life anymore.

Split from DP a few months ago, don't work anymore (I used to work as a medical doctor), spent christmas alone other than a visit to brother. It's almost like life is too easy now and there's no reason to get out of bed anymore, I have little passion for anything and I've still got another 60 years of this to go. When I was younger I was an extremely driven person but now I'm just a shadow of that.

My childhood wasn't bad enough for me to be taken into care but it was terrible and I don't see them anymore. I'm only close to my brother who has always had mental health issues but they have worsened significantly since he was signed off with "fibromyalgia" and does nothing all day.

I want DC but am still in shock from my ex-leaving, it was related to money even though I never criticised/cared about his income at all (consultant dr so not low at all) he kept being insecure and making issues whenever I wanted to do anything expensive and pay for him. I am lucky to have close friends who don't care but have had plenty of nasty/catty responses from random people for no reason whatsoever.

I don't really know where I'm going but I just feel so lost. Wondering if there's anyone here who went through the same thing? Merry christmas.

I agree with this. My younger sibling has a life long condition which society is also learning may probably stem from early years stress triggers. Myself being a couple years older got the emotional trauma instead and i became the fixer.

Also agree- just keep doing stuff. Connect the dots. Figure out triggers. Give yourself stability and remove stress.

There are no good deeds in life. There is however kindness and connection. I would highly recommend VSO/MSF. I worked with them in my twenties/thirties and just loved it! I absolutely got more out of it in many ways, but I was teaching in medicine and I never think that is wasted.
Work on you as best you can, I just found go back to basics and the things that make us really human mattered more than anything. wishing you so much luck!

It probably is harder, but it sounds like you need something hard?
Basically you really enjoyed the thrill of starting to earn money but don't get pleasure from having the money itself. However, you also can't recreate the initial joy from earning money since you already have it.
You need to have some difficult to achieve goals that you can care about. People are suggesting Philanthropy/setting up a charity because it's the most obvious route since it isn't about earning money for yourself (as you already know earning more money won't make you happy.) I fully understand that if you grew up without feeling safe then giving the money away isn't a good suggestion because it's your safety net. I think also, if having it makes you feel safe then that might also be why you feel depressed now. Because it's the first time you have the space to think in a sense. Like people that are lost in the jungle for months and when they finally get rescued they become very ill because their body collapses. It's also actually healthy that you aren't seeking out chaos/unsafe situations to recreate your childhood. But you do need a challenge that isn't self sabotage. And probably more therapy since if you are feeling really bad now its likely because you are "secure" enough for new issues to come to the surface that weren't there before.

What made you stop being a doctor?
It's usually a calling so it's got to be something big. Ignore the money. You need a job. I would strongly suspect you've gone from being a person whose self identity was 'doing good' to doing nothing and this has led to loss of self identity. At 28 you can't have reached consultant level. I think you should look at trying to find a new calling within 'being a doctor.' whether that is teaching, mentoring, research based, academia or finding a different specialty (mico / path / the niche rarer specialties spring to mind). You talk about NHS 'bullshit'. This simply means you haven't found the right place to work yet. Yes there's NHS bullshot but when I compare that to the complete ineptitude I see in my partner's finance area actually I realise my colleagues are much easier. It's all about the team. And it sounds like that's what you need to find in your working environment. I have moved cross country twice to work where I do now. It's got problems yes (mainly lack of money ) but it's not toxic. The NHS also has a high level of ND people and lots of great stuff about it too. Look for joint research jobs / change your viewpoint. If your self identity is 'i want to make the world a better place' then do it.
(I know alot of people who are multi millionaires and their self identity is 'why should I help the plebs, I stepped on them to get here.' some of the most self nvolved self indulgent. Its much less admirable and they are all pretty sad people , don't become one of them).