Page 7 | I had a total Meltdown at my child's Christmas show last night

thetallfairy · 2025-12-19T11:12:42+00:00

Ahhhhh gosh What is my life I had been n the go all week Sleep deprived Single parent Working 12-14 hours a day It all so much for me last night All on my own trying to help the kids No one else to back me up Kids would not come home with me when the show was over Stepped into the corner of the hall and was in floods of tears No one there to help Friends from school sitting there with husbands and their parents they don't care My parents dead Sibling dead Just got so much last night and we all left with me crying my eyes out it 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔

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thetallfairy · 21/12/2025 12:01

Bayroot1 · 21/12/2025 09:34

Morning @thetallfairy . I hope you're feeling a bit better today 💗
I echo others that it's much bigger to you than those present. Someone should have checked on you. I can't imagine not checking on a tearful stranger never mind a friend.
We're here for you and you have your dcs to cuddle. Be kind to yourself.

So kind

Thank you

All these kind words have helped so much !!!

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thetallfairy · 21/12/2025 12:01

cornflakecrunchie · 21/12/2025 01:24

Just thought I'd share what my autistic daughter said tonight, @thetallfairy
I was a bit miserable & she said 'it's ok, we (me & kids) are in a snow globe, & even if someone shakes it, we're all safe & ok!' xx

Ah my god

Thank you so so much !!!!!!!!!

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thetallfairy · 21/12/2025 12:02

Su9 · 21/12/2025 08:05

So tough. Can you get on line counselling?

I need to asap

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thetallfairy · 21/12/2025 12:04

Willweeverfindout · 20/12/2025 22:15

i feel you. You’re not alone. It’s a fucking lot. I’d like to say it’s only for a bit, but currently it feels a life time every day. Much love.

I will get there eventually

My plans now are

Cutdown on the stress
Less caring with others think

Less work
Less beating myself up

Counselling from early Jan otherwise I will implode

Ask for help when I need it

Say no at work when others refuse to do things I don't need to pick it up

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blobby10 · 21/12/2025 12:19

@thetallfairy I only got to the end of page 2 of your thread but bloody hell you are AMAZING. Unless there's a huge extra bit to the story on pages 3-7 you have nothing to be ashamed of - you saved yours and your children's lives. You are still standing. You are providing for them. You are bloody brilliant and I wish I knew you so that I could give you a massive hug and tell you in person.
Please be kinder to yourself - you have done so much this year, use the little down time you have to pat yourself on the back, hug your children and tell yourself "I'm doing OK". I'm sorry the ''justice system' failed you and your children so badly xxx

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thetallfairy · 21/12/2025 13:18

blobby10 · 21/12/2025 12:19

@thetallfairy I only got to the end of page 2 of your thread but bloody hell you are AMAZING. Unless there's a huge extra bit to the story on pages 3-7 you have nothing to be ashamed of - you saved yours and your children's lives. You are still standing. You are providing for them. You are bloody brilliant and I wish I knew you so that I could give you a massive hug and tell you in person.
Please be kinder to yourself - you have done so much this year, use the little down time you have to pat yourself on the back, hug your children and tell yourself "I'm doing OK". I'm sorry the ''justice system' failed you and your children so badly xxx

The system is a joke really

But what can I do

Chin up and keep going

Fck the judgemental people

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thetallfairy · 21/12/2025 13:25

What pains me is that for many of the people there I was a friend to them over many years and I did them lots of favours along the way
Not one text
Or one check in since

Lesson learned

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Mcoco · 21/12/2025 14:45

You are doing an amazing job sending you hugs 🫂

Dollybantree · 21/12/2025 19:06

cornflakecrunchie · 21/12/2025 01:24

Just thought I'd share what my autistic daughter said tonight, @thetallfairy
I was a bit miserable & she said 'it's ok, we (me & kids) are in a snow globe, & even if someone shakes it, we're all safe & ok!' xx

Aww 🥰

Radiator981 · 21/12/2025 19:48

thetallfairy · 21/12/2025 13:25

What pains me is that for many of the people there I was a friend to them over many years and I did them lots of favours along the way
Not one text
Or one check in since

Lesson learned

Well don’t give them that power over you they clearly don’t deserve it.

Radiator981 · 21/12/2025 19:48

Is your support back? The person who helped you when you went away with work? Can you call them ?

TheGreenUser · 21/12/2025 19:50

thetallfairy · 19/12/2025 11:20

My kids are 3 and 7

They are picking up on my anxiety

Plus I was away for a few days for work so they are out of kilter too

They were over tired and had too many treats with their friends

I prob should have done a better job

My brain can't work right now m

I'm know lots of mums out there in my shoes
It was my final straw and there were so many tears

My god !!!!

Some of the teachers were like wtaf

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At least one of the teachers should've checked youre okay. I cannot believe people, heartless.
Life's tough, but you're tougher. Everyone has a little cry every now and then.

Rippleok · 22/12/2025 08:57

You are going to Disney day after Christmas… that’s a lovely thing for you and children to look forward to.

The person who you are clearly very close to and they are supportive enough to have both children for a few days whilst you were away with work…. That’s a real positive too

Rippleok · 22/12/2025 08:58

TheGreenUser · 21/12/2025 19:50

At least one of the teachers should've checked youre okay. I cannot believe people, heartless.
Life's tough, but you're tougher. Everyone has a little cry every now and then.

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Loads of parents were crying when I watched nativity plays (including me). They are pretty emotional!

Rippleok · 22/12/2025 09:00

thetallfairy · 21/12/2025 13:25

What pains me is that for many of the people there I was a friend to them over many years and I did them lots of favours along the way
Not one text
Or one check in since

Lesson learned

Really? These were close friends and not a single one of them has come through for you?

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thetallfairy · 22/12/2025 10:08

They were school friends

Meet up once or twice a year

Been there for loss, wedding
Hen dos

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Rippleok · 22/12/2025 12:05

thetallfairy · 22/12/2025 10:08

They were school friends

Meet up once or twice a year

Been there for loss, wedding
Hen dos

And how about close friends… did they support?

who had the children?

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thetallfairy · 24/12/2025 12:35

I dont think I understand the question to on sorry ?

Thanks all

Wish you all a merry Xmas

I no longer care what some people think

We are safe and happy and we do not do things perfectly all the time
No one can it's just not possible !!!!

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lilkitten · 28/12/2025 16:58

I'm so sorry, I can totally understand. I once reached the end of my tether at the leisure centre, and cried in the entrance while trying to get my DD ready so she could run in (late) for her swimming lesson. Staff members looked at me like I was a problem, but two other customers were lovely and helped me.

Nantescalling · 03/01/2026 18:56

thetallfairy · 19/12/2025 11:45

Thank you so much

I can't keep up with it all

They all have Xmas day big celebrations

Then grandparents cousins all over Xmas

We have nothing really

But keep it simple
Calm down a bit so they don't pick up on my horrendous state and start afresh 2026

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You don't have NOTHING you have EVERYTHING, you and them - your little safe self sufficient happy, warm unit. Lots of us have lost parents and siblings and it always hits hardest at Xmas even worse than Birthdays but we dust ourselves down and muddle on, we have to. It's our Mumsy role and you were doing fine until this hiccup. Forget all about what happened,it happened but that was before. Now is now and tomorrow is tomorrow. Let us know how the rest went, please?

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thetallfairy · 03/01/2026 19:24

Hello all

Thank you

We had an amazing holiday to Paris
Highly recommend it at Xmas
But so bloody expensive

We have had a lovely time

I'm not drinking anymore as booze was making me think I was a terrible person

Kids are happy
Had a ball

They got so many gifts at Xmas
Lots from me and lovely neighbours too

Friends sent a generic happy xmas to all message
Didn't respond just left it

Can't be bothered giving energy to anyone who doesn't Check in when someone is clearly having a bad time

Screw them

I no longer care to be fair

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thetallfairy · 03/01/2026 19:40

The laptop came with me and I went ahead with flights I had booked

Part of my was ready to cancel el it

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Bayroot1 · 04/01/2026 14:56

@thetallfairy yay what an amazing update! Good for you. And fuck those non friends.

Getdne · 04/01/2026 15:09

Well done you.
Happy 2026 to you and your children.

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thetallfairy · 04/01/2026 16:22

You were all super kind and I am so glad I posted

I was at an all time low

Just could not cope

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