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Things I haven’t said out loud this week

209 replies

YorkieTheRabbit · 15/12/2025 17:21

I politely told you last week that I didn’t want to involved, I haven’t changed my mind.
You’ve sidelined your dad for over a decade , in favour of your mum.
Are you really surprised that he’s moved on with his life rather than being hung on the back of the door for you?
You can’t expect him to change his Christmas plans because yours have gone wrong. You’re an adult, act like one, the world doesn’t revolve around you.

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Maidenjourney · 14/01/2026 09:00

Snippit · 16/12/2025 00:37

I feel your pain, also have a 30 year old daughter (no grandchildren) and I pretty much receive the same attitude, and I’m bloody fed up with it. She is also condescending, we have done so much to help her over the years and it’s just not appreciated. I exploded at her today, there’s only so much I can take, if she doesn’t like it she can bugger off 🤷‍♀️

Same situation. When she struggling she’s in the phone to me every day with me acting as an unpaid therapist. When things are going well I rarely hear from her but when I see her she often belittles me and is condescending. I feel used .

Maidenjourney · 14/01/2026 09:00

financialcareerstuff · 14/01/2026 08:55

Do I have to do EVERYTHING?????????????????

This is me. Over and over again.

NormasArse · 14/01/2026 09:50

You’re trying to make yourself her Most Important Person now she’s dead. You’re changing her history and that’s not fair to her. Accept your place in her life, as everyone else has done, and stop attention seeking.

CleanSkin · 14/01/2026 12:29

Take some bloody responsibility Dad. This will not sort itself out.

shhblackbag · 14/01/2026 12:33

Stop sending me cards when you ignore my messages for the rest of the year. It's completely pointless.

queenofwandss · 14/01/2026 12:55
  1. It’s just not that big of a deal and you are making this about you, when it is not. Deal with your actual issues properly so that you don’t ruin relationships you care about.
  2. I want to be more supportive towards you but you are so rude to me sometimes that I keep my distance to avoid having my feelings hurt.
Catpiece · 14/01/2026 16:25

What the fucking fuck are you playing at? I’m not going to bite so you’ve wasted your time. Yet again

Gotback · 14/01/2026 17:36

When have I ever answered the phone to you? Exactly. So why the fuck do you keep phoning me?

itsneverdullinull · 14/01/2026 17:53

If you had any skills of self-reflection at all you’d be able to see that you’re the problem. But doing a job for 38 years in the same office has made you completely self-absorbed and you’re enabled by a culture of ‘be kind’. I sincerely wish you could have two weeks in a normal company where you weren’t protected by weak managers and sycophants. You can’t shout and complain people into respecting you, only into fearing you and avoiding you.

bushproblems · 14/01/2026 17:56

I’m not cut out for this job and I’m scared of being fired.

You really should give your children the same, not one more than the other because you think they’re ok with less.

I wish you would just die already

AtomHeartMotherOfGod · 14/01/2026 18:08

"Behaviour in schools is falling off a cliff because Millennials have procreated" (not voiced as I know many great exceptions to the apparently entitled norm).

"Why is she always fucking ill?"

DamnFineWoman · 14/01/2026 19:18

Maidenjourney · 14/01/2026 09:00

Same situation. When she struggling she’s in the phone to me every day with me acting as an unpaid therapist. When things are going well I rarely hear from her but when I see her she often belittles me and is condescending. I feel used .

This resonated! DIL from hell, her way or no way and her way tends to be utterly without thought or consideration of others.

So no, I don’t care that you have cut us off, I can live with never seeing you again.
I know you hate the fact that our DS calls us and face times the DGC with us.
You are batshit crazy and one day you will reap what you sow!

TinselTina · 17/01/2026 07:53

My mum is a bitch
My ex has the confidence of a mediocre man. Mate you're boring as fuck and no where near the dad you think you are
Stop telling me my son is short
I know you're jealous of me. .

Mistyglade · 17/01/2026 12:45

You’ve been a total cunt of a dad since you remarried when I was a kid but I’ll never give you the satisfaction of a retaliation. Now you’re old and your siblings are dead and dying I’ll be extra nice to you. I hope it fucks your head up because you don’t understand people who don’t do tit for tat. I’m kind, and will continue to show you love. Let that befuddle you you hideous old bastard.

Mistyglade · 17/01/2026 12:45

God I feel better writing that down!

Gribouille · 17/01/2026 13:47

Young woman in the Tetley advert 'The Crush': when a strange man interrupts you when you're clearly busy to force a drink on you - do NOT drink it! What the hell are you thinking?! What is he?! It's potentially DANGEROUS to drink something that you didn't see made! Would you do it in a nightclub?

Derrr... 😬

Shayisgreat · 17/01/2026 13:51

You are shit at your job and I can't do your thinking for you. Please do us all a favour and fuck off so we can recruit someone competent who is willing to do what they are being paid to do.

You are all adults. Sort it out yourselves for fucks sake.

Just do the fucking work and stop complaining about having to do your job.

Lardychops · 17/01/2026 13:54

I don’t want to look after you children if you die in order to keep the sibling group together, and I don’t want you to make me beneficiary of your life insurance policy to help me do this.
I want them to go to their dads and I will visit.
I love my grandchildren but o do not want to bring up any more children when they would have another living parent, even tho I would probably do a better job with your SEN son.
I work to travel and pay off my mortgage to finally put myself first and do what I want when I want. Full time care for 3 small children does not feature in this.

FancyNewt · 17/01/2026 14:10

You are a selfish prick who was a shit husband to my mum and step dad to us. Funny how I've never heard you say 'I love you' until my mum died a week ago. Don't attempt to line me up as your carer in old age now that she's dead. It ain't happening. The only glimmer in her recent death is that she doesn't need to spend another minute with you.

Lovelyview · 03/03/2026 16:48

You've joined the Green Party? Morons.

Caledoniadreaming · 04/03/2026 08:43

(personal) I'm so glad you enjoyed cuddling up to me this morning, as did your son. Did it ever cross your mind I might want some space without at least one person needing to be close to me?

(professional) I'm delighted to hear about your pregnancy, but that does not give you an excuse to be shit at your job.

theressomanytinafeysicouldbe · 04/03/2026 22:07

I’ve got a week off after asking for months, so I’m going to doom scroll, maybe clean the bathroom at the end of the week but I wanted this week off to do so much and I’ve done 20% of it

Bonkers1966 · 04/03/2026 22:09

I had a 🤝 moment of brain fog and really confused a colleague and she was too polite to say. Mortified.

Pricesandvices · 04/03/2026 22:13

You should know how to pronounce that name by now FFS. Don't you watch the bloody news or hear how everyone else is saying it at work? Why haven't you twigged and is it going to have to be little me that tells you before you look like an even bigger idiot.

TheWeekOnTheDalymountSeat · 04/03/2026 22:18

You’re 24 stone. Your bad back would significantly improve if you a) ditched Uber & used your legs b) ate some vegetables c) took your medicine with the water I gave you, not the can of irn bru. You don’t need an ambulance, you need to start taking care of yourself.