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Things I haven’t said out loud this week

209 replies

YorkieTheRabbit · 15/12/2025 17:21

I politely told you last week that I didn’t want to involved, I haven’t changed my mind.
You’ve sidelined your dad for over a decade , in favour of your mum.
Are you really surprised that he’s moved on with his life rather than being hung on the back of the door for you?
You can’t expect him to change his Christmas plans because yours have gone wrong. You’re an adult, act like one, the world doesn’t revolve around you.

OP posts:
Puffalicious · 15/12/2025 19:22

Stop being the performative 'head of the family ' trying to be all things to all people. You just come across as a bit fake, really. Are you afraid of just being home & happy in your own company/ that of your family? Others who do this are not lacking, we're content.

Why don't you EVER bloody host? The rest of us take turns, & you have plenty space. Be honest & give a reason rather the rest of us seething in annoyance!

Brendahollowayjustlookwhatyouhavedone · 15/12/2025 19:26

Some of these unsaid things well most of them show how much crap is piled on women.

TinselTina · 15/12/2025 19:52

Im so glad I've stopped doing work collections, organising xmas nights out etc. Less mental load and the world didn't end.

hoodiemassive · 15/12/2025 19:54

I am devastated you are an alcoholic - I thought I’d always adore you but this is your last chance and I think you’ll fail.

Sunnysidegold · 15/12/2025 20:06

Ooh I need this.

Stop dragging me into your nonsense at work. I have told you my position, maybe do some work and you'll be less stressed about it.

FFS it's only a cold. It is not the flu. Stop laying the foundations for being sick on Thursday when we know you requested the day off and it got declined. And I'll flipping well have to cover you. Again.

Stop giving me all your crap. I get it, you're clearing the attic so I won't have to do it when you die, tha k you, but I now have ten tonnes of crap lying around my house that you think would be a sin to send to the charity shop.

I am not made of money. Stop moaning that you need new shoes that are £130.

TinselTina · 15/12/2025 20:16

I think sometimes work colleagues comment negatively on my looks because im attractive and shes trying to bring me down

NormasArse · 15/12/2025 20:17

cosimnotwhereitsat · 15/12/2025 17:28

I am scared

What are you scared of? Would talking help? X

StripedVase · 15/12/2025 20:21

The symptoms of the common cold are known to me, wholly uninteresting, and will pass soon whether or not you keep lovingly detailing them to me.

NormasArse · 15/12/2025 20:24

You aren’t his fucking mother- you’re his partner. The reason he behaves like a child is because you encourage it.

Sheepondrugs · 15/12/2025 20:27

Why should I do all the things things for Xmas that nobody appreciated last year ?

Dearg · 15/12/2025 20:28

No dear friend, you do not have flu. Nor Covid. You have a minor snuffle. If you can’t wait go for Sunday Lunch and a gallon of wine, you are not dying.

SIL, it costs me just as much to call you as it does in reverse, so if you say you will phone me, do that. Do not text and ask me to call you . Likewise, petrol costs me the same as you, so no, I won’t be driving 20 miles to you every other day.

CagneyNYPD1 · 15/12/2025 20:36

He’s a dickhead. And a user. He’s only got back in touch with you because he’s sniffing around for money, sex or both. You know this.

You’ve been free of him for 2 years. If you entertain him again, do not come running to me when it all goes tits up again. I don’t want to hear it. You are your own worst enemy.

Prelim · 15/12/2025 20:36

“I really love that you’re my MIL, you don’t judge, always willing to help out, great with the grandkids, are fun to be around and you’ve brought your son up to be the most caring, considerate, assertive and confident man I could ever wish for as a husband”.

I thought this when she was talking about her own MIL (who sounded awful to her). Felt embarrassed to say it as we both aren’t gushy people, but I will tell her how I feel about her in my own roundabout way when she hosts us for Christmas (if I can find the words!).

DelilahBucket · 15/12/2025 20:36

CatrinVennastin · 15/12/2025 18:00

There are so many rude and entitled people coming into work (retail) it’s a wonder I haven’t told someone to fuck off yet.

I feel your pain. A customer tipped this very tired retail business owner over the edge on Saturday after a ridiculous complaint. I even had someone ask for a paper bag last week, upon giving her a paper bag, that wasn't what she meant, she wanted a paper bag. Turned out in the end she didn't want handles on the bag. I wish I had just cut them off instead of politely saying, sorry our bags have handles. Don't even get me started on the "where is my order" messages for the online side of things.

So what I haven't said:

"Fuck off" and "Did you not notice the delivery date given to you three times during the purchasing process? It's pretty accurate and still a considerable amount of time away from today."

Toadsrevisited · 15/12/2025 20:38

Yes, we can smell your weed, neighbours.
Yes, we can see you son dealing.

Chinsupmeloves · 15/12/2025 20:44

Sorry darling teenagers, I'm so sorry you have to do this practice exam this week, yes another one, in preparation for your real exams in 6 months time. I would also rather be having some fun learning and if we have time we can watch a nice Christmas video and have a singalong. Meanwhile, silence and get to it!

Own mind; sick of all of these practice exams, as are the kids. They're switched off, hostile to never-ending prep we have to enforce and spend all weekend marking! We haven't learnt the next few months of curriculum to be able to answer some questions. Strewth, when I was their age all we had was our notes and turning up to the exams without the extra classes after school and at weekend.

On the one hand i sympathise because the pressure is beyond what I experienced and the continuous 'bell tasks, starter, objectives plenary' system is so uninspiring. Also the modern builds of walking one way in goldfish bowls with little time to chat, wee, eat, ever mind some fresh air, is horrendous 😫

On the other hand, lessons are the only time many students will receive an education and so so much is put into the utmost learning for them. Not all will have parents who support them at home so the knowledge needs to be instilled. They will simply go home, game and watch TV until the early hours, be tired and be unengaged.

It's such a tough gig teaching, we care so much about our students but have to follow the academy protocol which is designed to thrust as much knowledge for those who will only learn in the classroom, while at the same time offering challenging progress to others.

I do believe the last week before Christmas should be more fun and topic based. When engaged there are so many opportunities to offer learning within every subject.

FamingolosForDays · 15/12/2025 20:46

The reason I was in a foul mood is because of your incessant nosiness into things that are no longer your fucking business. I do not care that my father is seriously unwell (given that I have had no contact from him in 30 years), but I don't need other relatives interrogated. I accept that there are things that will never be said but this is nothing to do with you!

Ahhhhh. That feels a bit better.

petitpasta · 15/12/2025 20:47

To an acquaintance - I work full time and am away 2 nights a week which you know. I also hold two volunteering roles which you also know. You also know that I am supporting DH to look after his recently widowed mother's affairs while processing his own feelings about his dad who wasn't exactly a lovely man. So you can pack in judging me because I prioritise going to the gym on Saturday mornings instead of supporting your fecking coffee mornings. Oh and while we're at it, if you've got something to say to me say it to me, don't get your equally out of touch husband to message me to tell me you're disappointed.

The only reason that text isn't getting sent is because they are both now blocked.

That feels better

TheonlywayIcoulddothatwasifyouwantedmetoo · 15/12/2025 20:47

AAAAAAAaaaaAAAaaarrrrrrrrgHhhHHhhhH. That is all.

Chinsupmeloves · 15/12/2025 20:47

Brendahollowayjustlookwhatyouhavedone · 15/12/2025 19:26

Some of these unsaid things well most of them show how much crap is piled on women.

Please read my post on here, all the crap and more with teaching lol 😆

Luckyingame · 15/12/2025 20:51

cosimnotwhereitsat · 15/12/2025 17:28

I am scared

Sorry, wrong answer.
Scared too, due to general anxiety.
Hope you are not in danger.

HoppityBun · 15/12/2025 20:53

Prelim · 15/12/2025 20:36

“I really love that you’re my MIL, you don’t judge, always willing to help out, great with the grandkids, are fun to be around and you’ve brought your son up to be the most caring, considerate, assertive and confident man I could ever wish for as a husband”.

I thought this when she was talking about her own MIL (who sounded awful to her). Felt embarrassed to say it as we both aren’t gushy people, but I will tell her how I feel about her in my own roundabout way when she hosts us for Christmas (if I can find the words!).

Write it in a card and tuck it into her present. It’s so moving and life is sometimes too short

Fionasapples · 15/12/2025 20:54

Cousin, I have sciatica, you know this, but you still try to guilt trip me into taking your infirm mother to a hospital appointment, which involves lifting and pushing her wheelchair. I don't believe you have arthritic hips, because you've never mentioned it before (and you would). I believe you would rather spend the afternoon watching TV and drinking wine.
I'm going to help you as much as you helped me when my parents were ill- i.e. not at all.

2025mustbebetter · 15/12/2025 20:57

It's not that you don't know how to revise it's just that it's hard and you're too lazy to make that effort.

2025mustbebetter · 15/12/2025 20:58

2025mustbebetter · 15/12/2025 20:57

It's not that you don't know how to revise it's just that it's hard and you're too lazy to make that effort.

I'm have actually said this out loud but not to any individuals.