Would you accept a lift from a nice man in the middle of nowhere?

[Angelic999]

Out on a remote countryside walk alone as a woman, it starts raining. A man stops in his car to offer a lift. Would you say yes?

This happened to me recently. I said no thank you. He then proceeded to question me about where I was going. He seemed nice enough but I wasn't willing to take the risk to get in a car with a complete stranger (Ian Brady anyone?!)

Part of my female conditioning has been to then feel guilty that I have offended him! But then surely he should have more awareness. Although maybe it's just friendly country folk being genuine!

Nope

Definitely not.

No way. YANBU

Definitely not! That's potentially very dangerous.

Fuck no. And any man that offered and didn’t understand why you said no is either delusional or stupid (or a predator).

BTW I have been places where I would accept. But in the UK, hard no.

Of course not.

How can you possibly know if a stranger is ‘a nice man’? Sometimes a man you think you know well proves himself to be not ‘a nice man’ so you definitely can’t make that assessment of a stranger.

The idea of getting into a car with a strange man just makes me think of poor Sarah Everard and the horrendous final hours of her life.

Definitely not.

I would but then I’m able to defend myself if he tried anything.
EVERY woman should do a police self defence course and strength training.

If I was a weak woman with no idea how to subdue a potential attacker then yeah, I’d run a mile instead of getting into the car.

@Angelic999The fact that this man didn’t immediately take no for an answer and asked questions about where you were going rather suggests he had the potential to not be a nice man at all.

Not in a million years. Nor give him any information about where I was headed to. There are loads of nice men out there - far more than horrible ones - but women have to be safe rather than sorry.

How exactly do you get out of a moving car?

Absolutely not. If a man really just wanted to be nice he'd offer a brolly or something, not ask where you're going.

No!

@ImThePr0blem It’s great that you have self-defence skills, and I would never discourage anyone from learning those. But (genuine question) might they be of limited use inside a locked moving car?

No. And that’s sad because I think that most offers are innocent and well intentioned. But I wouldn’t take the risk.

Wow.

What if he wasn't alone? What if he had a knife or drugged you?

Nope not a chance in hell. Wouldn’t matter how strong or safe I felt in my own ability. There are other ways to get power over someone.

That’s awfully close to victim blaming there. No woman should have to do anything she doesn’t want to. It’s men that need to change their behaviour.

Nope!

No way.
Would not care if he was offended.

You might be strong but you don’t sound very intelligent (or humble), that is a weakness.

No. How do you mean “nice man?” Like how would you know?

No way.

No and the extra questions would get my guard up. I’d probably re route

I'm curious to know where in the world getting in a car with a stranger is less risky than in UK?