Do you go out much in evenings these days (age 40/45+)

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Just that really!

I’m mid 40’s now and hardly ever go out of an evening - in fact I mostly dread the idea of having to go out to anything ‘social’ after 8pm as staying up late will mean I won’t be able to wind down in time for bed around 10/10.30pm.

I tend to see friends for lunch / on day off or at weekends, during the day if possible. I will attend ‘big’ evening events if it’s important (big birthday, wedding etc) but I’d never sign up for an evening group activity or just a random dinner.

My parents (in their mid 70’s!) are always out in the evening for dinners, bingo, friends over etc. They’ve always done it and I remember friends parents being the same.

Is this a menopause thing, just me!?

I’d like to feel more able to, I just can’t hack it!

I tend to have a night out every few months with friends but am always relieved if it's on a Friday or if no one has planned anywhere great to go dancing so I can nip off 🤣

I used to love nightclub dancing and there's a trend for the 30 / 40 age group to have events that end by 10/11pm, which is good but by the time you factor in travel, it still means the next morning is a write off.

I mainly go gym or netball in the week, I can do a one off later night, but if it was a regular thing it would need to be on a Thursday or Friday I think. Or maybe a Monday when I'm still weekend fresh. Does get more complicated 😂

I don't drink alcohol so that helps a bit, hadn't had a drink in about 18 months I think. Am 45.

33 and I dont go out. Im in my pj's about 5, and in bed about 8

Do you work and/or have children? I feel quite mentally exhausted in the evenings after work and sorting kids out. I do enjoy evenings out when they do happen but it's not a regular as it used to be.I hope I do more in the evenings when I'm not as tied up in the future :)
I do have a couple of friends with kids who are out frequently but it seems the exception rather than the rule.

I’m 50, and I dread nights out. I’d prefer to go for a nice lunch than for dinner. I’m knackered by the evening and just want to get into my pyjamas. Even my ILs (who are almost 90) take the piss out of us for being old farts as we get excited if we’ve got a matinee at the theatre. 😂

I mostly can’t be arsed. I work full time and I’m tired. I’d rather have a few drinks At home and go lie in bed at 9pm!

I'm out5 evening s a week chauffeuring my teenagers about if that counts!

Not often, every few months. I do have very young children though.

I have young kids and probably do one work thing until 9/10 every couple of weeks and one friend thing to 10/11 every couple of weeks. So about once a week. Husband does similar

I go out every couple of weeks maybe? I would go out more but we have no family support and can't afford that much babysitting/have to juggle with DH and the kids activities

No I hate going out at night but I always have. I make an exception occasionally for the theatre or special occasion but otherwise I’d much rather go to matinees or meet for lunch.

Absolutely not - only to be mum's taxi although I have to give DH his dues, he does most of it... and recently rock and roll to go see my osteopath

I'm toying with joining a gym, but then I'd have to go out one evening and one weekend day really to make it worthwhile

We never go out in the evening except when we are on holiday. We live rurally and have a son who cannot be left alone at home, and I work alone, at home. My DH meets a friend in the village pub occasionally. I am fine with the situation. I did plenty of partying when I was young! I have lived half an hour from a city renowned for its nightlife for over 5 years and I have never been into it at night! On holiday we go out every night.

I'm 56 DP 60 and we avoid going out in the evening if we can.

I prefer to meet friends for brunch, coffee or lunch. Only time I go out at night is if it's a gig or the theatre but I actively avoid it now if I can.

I used to love partying, but now I have young dcs, quite honestly I like being tucked up in bed by 9 with my ipad! It is exhausting by the time bedtime routine is complete. I just want to lie down in bed, knowing downstairs is tidy, and everything's prepped for morning.

We don't have childcare, but even if we did, I still couldn't be bothered. Maybe dh, and I will find a new lease of life when they're teens and more self sufficient. Saying that, dh does do late football matches, and drinks with work colleagues sometimes, so it's probably just me (at the moment). I much prefer lunches, and day stuff.

Nope and I dont miss it.Ive done it all hundreds of times before.Last night out was end of July and next one is in 4 weeks.

No we haven't really been out since the girls were born 30 years ago.

This week coming i’m out twice and I enjoy it when out, but love getting into my warm bed early and snuggle up with my dog. Prefer a matinee now or afternoon out!

Regular rehearsals.

i wouldn’t meet friends on a weekday evening.

I’m 49 and go out in the evenings regularly. Often theatre/sports event/cinema/dinner with partner but often out with friends. I don’t consider getting back any time before midnight a particularly late night. I may be rebelling from feeling stifled in my marriage of 20 years though!!

Not that often but not an age thing, mainly because its just not that pleasant out (horrible people) now

No, not really. I never really enjoyed big nights out though beyond about the age of 18! I’m quite jealous of my parents’ social lives, they have lots of local friends which seems to make socialising relaxed and local key rather than having to figure out dates and go for a big meal or blow-out.

Do yoga class/ pcc meetings/ rehearsals count ? If so a couple of times a week. Out, out more like once/twice a month though obviously loads more in December

WFH, grown up DCs nearly 50.

I’m 53 and I go out a lot in the evening/at night. I’m not necessarily dancing on tables, but out for drinks or a meal or a gig — over the last fortnight I was at an exhibition opening, two films (film festival, had discounted tickets), went for drinks after a choir rehearsal, met my sisters for dinner, followed by a friend’s gig.

Friends and I almost exclusively do brunches, lunches, matinees, daytime events - all of us prefer to be at home in the evening. I’m generally in bed reading by 9pm (although don’t go to sleep until 11ish). We have a brilliant time and still have a drink, etc. We are in our 40’s. I think it probably varies person to person and it’s important to find friends who want to do the same as you.