Do you go out much in evenings these days (age 40/45+)

[NCmuvva]

Just that really!

I’m mid 40’s now and hardly ever go out of an evening - in fact I mostly dread the idea of having to go out to anything ‘social’ after 8pm as staying up late will mean I won’t be able to wind down in time for bed around 10/10.30pm.

I tend to see friends for lunch / on day off or at weekends, during the day if possible. I will attend ‘big’ evening events if it’s important (big birthday, wedding etc) but I’d never sign up for an evening group activity or just a random dinner.

My parents (in their mid 70’s!) are always out in the evening for dinners, bingo, friends over etc. They’ve always done it and I remember friends parents being the same.

Is this a menopause thing, just me!?

I’d like to feel more able to, I just can’t hack it!

Most weeks I'll have an evening out, depending on my shifts at work. Pub on a Friday after the football runs, or a night out on a Saturday if I'm not working the weekend. Or a date night, meal and pub. Or bingo with my mum. We're quite sociable people and enjoy a drink. My Mum is in her 60s and regularly goes out too.

Like pp, I would feel claustrophobic ans bored if I stayed home. Plenty of time to do that when I am older. I am not a homebody.

I try not to. I have fibromyalgia and I'm carer to my son so physically and mentally I am not interested. Once dinner time is done, I'm done.

I don't go out much, maybe once a fortnight with friends just to a dinner or something, which feels very minimal. I really miss my old life where I was out pretty much every night, eating, dancing, going to the theatre, seeing friends... and hope that one day when the kids are older a version of that life will return... Don't know if that's wishful thinking or not...

Mid 40s. I’ve been out 3 times in the evening in the past 4-6 weeks, all meals out with friends. All enjoyable but I prefer a brunch or lunch.
Also sometimes go out in the evening for sporting events and the theatre but they cost a fortune so cost limits it a bit.

I actually think now my kids are getting a bit older (youngest is year 6) my social life is starting to pick up.

I’m a homebody at heart though and love being sat in my warm living room with my family watching tv.

I used to be like this in my late 30s, but when I turned 40 I found some new energy. I'm now 46.
The kids got older and are now adults. I found new friends and wanted to enjoy life more. I have new interests and hobbies and some of these are in the evenings. I'm a bit of a night owl anyway but now I'm happy to go out in the evenings too. I've been out 3 nights this week and I'm out again on Saturday, but I don't do that every week.

I'm 46 and I love a night out!
That said, DH and I do love an afternoon club "night" - start at 3, finish at 7, home with a kebab by 8pm 😂
I really like going to gigs so I am out at least once a month at a gig which is always a late finish. Absolutely love it but my heart does sink when a fave band announces a tour and the gig closest to me is on a week night 😣

Mid-40s and at this time of year I really can't be bothered with it. A bit more so in the summer but even then I prefer a lunch meeting, a matinee at the theatre etc. Have been afternoon clubbing a few times the last couple of years - a good dance and home by 7 or 8pm!

I’m 56 and go
out once a week on random nights. The longest I can stay in is 13 evenings without going I bit stir crazy. I’m away about 1/7 of the year and go out every evening then.
I don’t really drink but do like to go for meals, cinema and socialising with friends.

Yeah once a week because I have a hobby and drinks. Other. Other nights out maybe once a fortnight. Always feel better for it

Late 40s

Mid 40s is a difficult time - many people will
be tied up raising family and keeping food on the table

the older you get the more free time you have - you don’t need to be in bed by 10 if you don’t need to be up at 7

Nope. 48 here and I’m physically and mentally done by six which is the time I get home.

I attend a craft evening twice a month on a wed in a pub, home by half nine and that’s enough for me.

I rarely go out anyway these days, have no one to go out with even if I wanted to. I have 2 teens at home still.

I’m in early 40s and usually go out 2-3 evenings a week. One of those a yoga class. The others out with partner or friends, stuff like to the pub, meal out or cinema.

We are mid 60s and go out regularly...but during the day. Always home by 7. I prefer to eat main meal by 5. We only go out at night to a gig or theatre.

I go to the gym two nights a week, go to band one night a week, and usually go for after work drinks one night a week. I'm always back by 10:30 pm as I get up at 6.

It depends if you work/have other responsibilities. I work full time and have young children so don’t have the freedom/time/energy to socialise much in the evenings. You’re more likely to be retired in your 70s and have the time.

I go out occasionally to meet friends for dinner. Mainly though I will meet people for breakfast / coffee.

I have been to a few daytime clubs which I like - main one being in Chinatown so do the club 3-7, grab some food and home
by 10.

i do go to theatre sometimes evenings and do have a few Xmas events coming up so this month is quite busy.

I’m retired. I have to make an effort to go out a couple of times a month because I get so fed up in winter, home alone every evening. In summer it’s better because I can go out for a walk.

I never go at night now, haven’t for years. I like to have a shower and be in PJ’s at 8pm, then relax before read in bed at 10pm. If you want to see me then it’s for coffee or lunch.
Im finding it harder to drive in the dark now, especially if it’s been raining. Not sure if it’s the new headlights or my eyes.

I'm 57, I was out Monday night to a quiz, Tuesday & Wednesday out, playing my sport & socialising after...in Thursday & Friday evening as I have to pack for a big trip Saturday but I do normally go out Friday or Saturday, generally not both but sometimes. There is always something going on to get involved with. I enjoy being social but I also enjoy staying in with the TV - if you are happy staying in, go for it. You are seeing friends in the day so not isolated. I've been on HRT for 8/9 years and I'm definitely in a really good place. I lost 40lbs last year on mourjano and that's helped 100% with my confidence. Do what works for you, no size fits all 😁

I’m 54, tend not to go out on weeknights. After cooking and cleaning up and walking the dog, bit of exercise there isn’t much time. I like to be in bed by 10pm. I will go out on a Friday or Saturday but rarely late unless it’s a party or get together. Last Saturday DH and I went out for dinner at 6 and were home watching The Crown by 8.30. It’s the cold, dark nights.

50 and probably about 3 evenings out a year. Partly because one child has SEN so I'm tired and need to keep an eye on them. Partly because the streetlights have all been turned down and it's just too creepy out there now.

I'm 45. I go to big events and maybe see a friend for dinner or go to a book club 2/3 times a month. I don't drink but since giving up booze 2 years ago actually enjoy going out more as even a couple of glasses of wine used to make me feel tired and anxious the next day. My full time job require me to be present and I do lots of one to one sessions (psychologist) so I need good quality sleep and really appreciate a quiet personal life!

I started HRT 3 months ago and that has helped hugely with brain fog, confidence and better sleep.

I had pretty wild, social time in my 20s which was really fun but my 40s are calmer and I'm happier than I've ever been. I think different people need different levels of social interaction - each to their own.

Yes and at different times in life. I used to be a night owl but I really appreciate my sleep now.

I’m 52 and really cba going anywhere at night. If I ever book the ballet or theatre I always get a matinee performance. Friends know I don’t do things of an evening if I can help it. I think this all started as my sleep became awful as I got older so a late night really doesn’t work for me anymore.