Do you go out much in evenings these days (age 40/45+)

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Just that really!

I’m mid 40’s now and hardly ever go out of an evening - in fact I mostly dread the idea of having to go out to anything ‘social’ after 8pm as staying up late will mean I won’t be able to wind down in time for bed around 10/10.30pm.

I tend to see friends for lunch / on day off or at weekends, during the day if possible. I will attend ‘big’ evening events if it’s important (big birthday, wedding etc) but I’d never sign up for an evening group activity or just a random dinner.

My parents (in their mid 70’s!) are always out in the evening for dinners, bingo, friends over etc. They’ve always done it and I remember friends parents being the same.

Is this a menopause thing, just me!?

I’d like to feel more able to, I just can’t hack it!

I’m ten years older and I go out much less than i used to. It could be to do with some medical issues, but also CBA esp in winter.

It’s easier for me to meet friends in the day on weekends for lunch or a walk/coffee or I’ll have them round to mine and I’ll cook.

I’ll go to parties but I don’t drink now so don’t feel as relaxed. I do still like a dance so that helps! I also like gigs/shows but that’s usually just me and dh.

I used to not like being on my own at home, but now I pretty much wfh and it suits me. I def feel I’ve changed.

Occasionally on a Thursday with work colleagues, see a friend either at hers or mine for a mid week dinner every couple of weeks and try to book gigs etc at the weekend. Me and DH did go out to see a DJ on a Sunday recently which was very random and Monday at work was horrible, but it was the only night he was playing locally! Most mid week evenings I'm in PJs and drinking tea on the sofa. 48 and DH 50.

I’m out one afternoon a week with a friend for a drink but usually home by 5. Actual nights out…maybe once a month or so, except December when I usually have 2-3 Christmas parties.

I'm 47 and like to go out of an evening even in the week. I usually do work things in the week both social and business. I like getting to go to flash restaurants and bars in my city or London. I'm less keen on organised activity places: bowling, flight club, but had fun st crazy golf recently.

I come home at 11. I don't stay out late with the youngsters.

I'm 55 and hardly ever have an evening in.

Two/three nights a well I'm out training with my sports club, at weekends I'll be out seeing a concert or a show, a band in a pub and other midweek evenings I'll meet friends or go to the cinema.

In my 40s when I had school age children still, I didn't do so much socialising but I was still out training.

Im 48, I hardly ever go out socially in the evening, probably 6 times a year! (aside from birthdays/special occassions)

Not because I dont enjoy it, just because it doesnt really happen. Some friends are mooting going for drinks next month which im looking forward to.
I get home ftom work around 6.30pm and go running twice a week in the evening, and we dont go to bed early, I just dont go out socially. DH is similar that he does his sport twice a week, he used to go for a beer afterwards but hes cut back drinking so he doesnt do that now

This is the thread for me !
I'm 51. Up until probably around a year or so ago I would be out on a Fri or Sat night with friends in the eve, until late.. FF to now and I no longer want to go out in the eves. I have a friend who I meet for dinner/drinks every few weeks, we stay at the same table all night. Perfect. If we meet in the week we are home by 9.30pm at the latest. Again, Perfect.

But, I have another friend who still wants the mad fri/sat nights .. pub crawl, drinks, late. NO THANK YOU. She's my age. I've taken a massive step back from the carnage she likes. She's probably wondering what's going on, i don't want to have the awkward conversation with her that i no longer want to do messy nights out. When she suggests a pub with DJ till 1am I CRINGE

Yes, but rarely’out,out’ anymore. Was at a play last night, to a friend’s for a party at the weekend. Out for dinner and drinks with friends last weekend but I was heading home on the bus at 10 and in bed by 11. I like seeing people and catching up.

Nope. Only go out in the evening a handful of times a year. Live rurally though, so anything more than a pub meal and drinks usually involves travelling 18 miles plus. If I lived in a large town or city, I'd probably go out more to evening events.

I’m 47, I tend to meet friends for dinner after work during the week or go to the gym, I prefer that and then keep my weekends free! If I do go out on the weekend it’s normally for lunch or some sort of daytime activity.

DH and I go out for a drink Thursday evenings around 6 pm. If I meet girlfriends it’s lunchtime or afternoons only. I see no point in heading to busy bars where we can’t hear each other. Nope I would rather be home.

There are things you can do in the evening that are not going to the pub or a bar. When I tell people I am out 2- 3 times a week, they always assume I am drinking. I don't drink and I never go to pubs or bars.

There are far more bars where you can hear each other than those where you can't. Fine if you prefer an early night, but don't pretend it's becuase you can't have a quiet drink on a weekday evening 🤣

Mid 60s -go out most nights, as after my divorce my social life became much more active, dating and lots of friends/hobbies/ sports. I moved to an area with lots of pubs /line music/cultural events in walkimg distance. Don’t watch TV so if I am in for an evening will read.

I’m out doing something nearly every night. Between caring responsibilities, work that often keeps me till midnight, gym and running club, choir, walking group, seeing friends, taking the kids out, going out for food and to the amusements, all the community groups and meetings and events. I’m barely at home and never asleep before 1am unless I’m sick.

Going out tonight for a birthday, tomorrow for work, Monday I have an event, Tuesday is running club, Wednesday is a local festival, Thursday is walking group, next Friday seeing a friend in town.

I go out to the gym or to yoga or to play sport but try and avoid any other kind of social activity, especially in the winter! To be honest, I don’t really like going out for meals or drinks anymore so try and avoid this even at the weekend if at all possible 🤣 I was a party girl in my teens and twenties so I feel like I’ve done all the going out I need to do. I don’t drink much now and restaurants are generally overpriced/ not great. I much prefer to meet friends for lunch/brunch/ coffee.

This thread has reminded me of when, a few years ago, I posted on Facebook that I was at a theatre matinee, and someone commented "how indulgent, at the theatre in the afternoon!" (when they've never said anything like that about me going to evening performances). I really couldn't work out what was supposed to be indulgent about it - apart from anything, it was cheaper than the evening shows!

I definitely think there's been a shift to it being a bit easier/ more acceptable to go out earlier in the day - when I was younger 'day drinking' was probably a bit frowned upon and not something we'd do very often (although I did really enjoy it - even then I quite liked being home early), but nowadays there's loads of people out at bottomless brunches etc.

to also add .. I do a lot of running in the week and prefer my eves to be running (if I am not being mums taxi/doing DC dinners late/anything else for DC), dinner and then a soak in a hot bath in the winter then bed knowing that downstairs is 'closed down' ie clean, tidy and ready for the next day (thanks to the other poster who reminded me to add this!). I like to keep my weekends free these days, or as much as possible, for time with family/chill. I like going out for dinner but happy to go home early afterwards, plus restaurant prices are too high these days and the quality poor. Happy to do random weekend dinners with friends every 6 weeks or so but def not every weekend and only if we are staying in the same placed all night ie no clubbing/clubby-bar afterwards.

I’m 46 and find going out midweek a chore As we have work to do to pay bills. We spent lots of time living it large over the last 20 years of our relationship- so we just do things differently now, like making a weekend of it when we go to gigs so the travel isn’t so hedonistic and tiring. We do more theatre and cultural stuff x

Your parents are retired so why not go out, you are working so its a different ballgame…

I like to go out but it's not drinking really anymore. I go to a weight lifting class once a week and sometimes a Zumba class. I also like to go to the theatre or cinema and do that a couple of times a month. I also meet with friends for a meal or coffee but that can be evening or lunch or whenever we can fit it in.

I hate TV though. I find it so dull. Same old boring programmes and I don't want my life to be work, cleaning and watching TV. Summer is lovely because at least I can sit in my garden.

Hardly ever, I’m just not a night owl at all. I also don’t really drink. I much prefer to be home early, watching Netflix with a cup of herbal tea!

Pushing 50 and still go out in the evening. I have a hard time persuading my slightly older boyfriend to leave his neighbourhood, but we'll go out to a local pub or restaurant.
Actual nightlife as in clubs or city centre bars is way behind us, but local pubs and cafes definitely still a thing.
During the week, there are nights I go to bed at 9pm, but that doesn't stop me having a quick drink after work or going out a bit later on the weekend.
I think it's important not to age before your time.

I'm older but I've felt much the same for years. I dread being invited out for dinner, particularly if it involves travelling there, and would much rather go out for lunch.
When I was working I was just too tired during the week, now I just can't be bothered.

I’m out 4-5 evenings a week and I don’t drink. I’m 48