Visiting a school run dad when he is on his own

[Eastie77Returns]

I know MN has strong opinions on this so thought I’d ask😅 Would you consider it inappropriate for a woman visit a school run SAHD she is friendly when he is on his own at home during the day? It is for a coffee and chat about a work related matter. All DC are at school and his wife is at work.

Are you single?

If that's literally all there is to it, then of course it's not inappropriate.
Though the fact you are even asking makes me think there must be something more to it.

It's only inappropriate if you plan on doing something inappropriate.

It's absolutely fine imo.

Rightly or wrongly, I’d find it a bit weird. I have male friends and my husband has friends who are women but I feel like this is a bit different because it’s an intimate setting for (new?) acquaintances. I’d not be overly impressed if my husband had a random (to me!) woman in my house while everyone was out! I’m usually fairly chilled out too, promise!

Is this a trick question? Why would this be inappropriate?

I would probably meet in a coffee shop, just to maintain a boundary.

No. We had a sahd at our old school and he made friends with the other mums and yes met up on occasion, be that at his house, a mum’s house or cafe. He’d get kinda lonely if he was only ‘allowed’ to see other men during the day! My DH worked and I was a sahm, but he had female friends he’d meet for lunch just the two of them, and I had male friends too. Trust is surely the tenet of a good marriage.

Is he hot?

Does his wife know?

Unless you plan to seduce him - I can't see what is wrong with this?

Is his name Kevin, and do you live in Motherland?

I would do this.

I also have no issue with DH meeting up for coffee and a work related chat with a single female work colleague (they both wfh).

My ex-husband was constantly on the hunt for his next affair partner I think as long as you bear that in mind it’s a possibility and watch out for any signs

No plans to seduce him😂

Context is he is going to do some freelance work at the company I work for. We’ve chatted quite a bit on the school run about work stuff as we both work in the Tech industry. I put him in touch with a hiring manager in my office who is looking for temp workers and he was offered a contract He has invited me over for coffee as I offered to help get him up to speed on some aspects of the project he will be working on.

My friend raised an eyebrow when I mentioned the coffee and asked, as a PP mentioned, why not meet in a coffee shop, it’s not appropriate etc. She also thinks the messages he sent me thanking me for introducing him to the manager are over the top.

@Eastie77Returns "He has invited me over for coffee as I offered to help get him up to speed on some aspects of the project he will be working on."

I bet he did. Personally I wouldn't. If nothing else you don't know how his wife might react. If you really need to go over the project one to one, then meet him somewhere neutral.

I’d feel a bit weird about meeting someone for coffee in their own home unless it was someone I already knew well. And in the case of a married / partnered man, I’d also want to know his wife / partner and know she was ok with it.

Unless there’s a particular reason you can’t discuss work in a coffee shop, I’d do that.

No, it's fine. It was inappropriate when my DExH's current partner did it as she also fucked him, leading to our divorce. Or rather, they fucked each other.

It was the fucking that made it inappropriate, not the coffee!

I probably wouldn't, only because I can't be bothered to be the school gossip when his wife gets the hump/someone nosy spots you going in and spreads it around/he has less than honourable intentions.
If he wants to talk about work, do it as a phone or video call.

Are you living in Saudi Arabia?! When I read your post I thought how ridiculous it was you were even asking…then I read all the comments saying it WAS weird 🤣 Heterosexual people are so weird! I’m a lesbian married to a woman and have loads of female friends, gay and straight. My wife wouldn’t bat an eyelid at me going round for coffee at another mum’s house during the day. Do people assume just because two people both happen to be each other’s gender preference for attraction (couldn’t think of an easier way to word that!) that they’re immediately going to start shagging the minute they’re alone?! That must be a horrible way to live

It’s absolutely fine. I’m really surprised that anyone would have a problem with it. Some people must watch too much TV drama or something; in real life this sort of meeting would be completely uneventful.

In a coffee shop would probably make me feel more comfortable tbh.

This exact same thing happened to someone I know, she insisted it was all legit but we noticed something very peculiar with her attire ( I can't go into details) after a 'work catch up coffee' on more then one occasion let me tell you. I hope you've packed birth control op.

Birth control 😂😂

What were the thank you messages your friend thought were over the top? Were they?

I’d mert in a coffee shop, keep it neutral.

Peak MN 😆

You have been warned @Eastie77Returns

Go forth and meet at your peril 😂