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Speeding teen driver - DS a passenger WWYD

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DeadMansBones · 11/10/2025 13:10

My DS was out with friends last night, DS is 17 driver of the car is 18. I get a notification via life360 app that the car is driving at 102 mph and 67 risky incidents. The route driven was down back roads that are unlit and dangerous. WWYD?

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DeadMansBones · 12/10/2025 11:23

BeachLife2 · 12/10/2025 10:26

No one should be driving at that speed (if he really was).

However, I do find it ludicrous that we’re now in a position where parents are tracking every movement of 17 year olds.

DS1 moved out for uni at 17 (as is normal in Scotland) and I had no idea where he was at a given moment. This level of control and mollycoddling is going to cause serious issues.

Having now had this app installed for a few months I actually agree, I think it may have caused more problems than it has solved.

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DeadMansBones · 12/10/2025 11:24

Shade17 · 12/10/2025 11:11

You must be a very nervous passenger, there’s nothing terrifying about doing 100mph.

I must be ridiculously nervous then because I feel uncomfortable with speeds lower than that

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Shade17 · 12/10/2025 12:03

GirlonaCloud · 12/10/2025 11:21

You are joking, surely.

Of course not. I still remember the first time I exceeded 150mph as a passenger when I was a child.

GirlonaCloud · 12/10/2025 12:04

Shade17 · 12/10/2025 12:03

Of course not. I still remember the first time I exceeded 150mph as a passenger when I was a child.

Was the driver in the UK? Were they Lewis Hamilton?

Or are you confusing miles and kilometres?

Shade17 · 12/10/2025 12:29

GirlonaCloud · 12/10/2025 12:04

Was the driver in the UK? Were they Lewis Hamilton?

Or are you confusing miles and kilometres?

Edited

Yes in the UK, back in the 90s.

MessEveryWhere · 12/10/2025 12:45

Its so hard, my son has started going out with new drivers. Ive bought a pile of these

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Breaker-Emergency-Vehicles-Seatbelt-Multipack/dp/B0F2YY1TB4/ref=asc_df_B0F2YY1TB4?mcid=9fa7a559525e3a4aa98023a63ba122e1&hvocijid=4369254144320616494-B0F2YY1TB4-&hvexpln=74&tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=696285193871&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=4369254144320616494&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9045402&hvtargid=pla-2281435177178&psc=1&gad_source=1

So that at least they can get out in an emergency. When my son passes his test, I will be getting an emergency pack of dressings etc for the car. And potentially getting him to do.a first aid course.

It might help in an emergency, and hopefully they will have a chance if the shit hits the fan.

Its such a worry, but we just have to hope for the best and educate them on staying safe. I would try and keep.an eye out for the number plate/get on his social media and find out who his parents are.

I would also try and catch him when he picks your son up and have a word with him. He sounds like a bit of a dick, and needs telling.

GirlonaCloud · 12/10/2025 12:59

Shade17 · 12/10/2025 12:29

Yes in the UK, back in the 90s.

If the person was on a public road then they were a complete idiot. They'd be banned for many years if caught.

And more of an idiot to be doing that speed with a child in the car.

Maybeitllneverhappen · 12/10/2025 13:06

I was a teacher for over thirty years and saw a shocking number of pupils die as a result of driving or being passengers in a friend's car. They think they are invincible. When my son passed his test, I sat him down and talked to him a lot about the dangers and responsibilities of being an inexperienced driver. I told him he had to get specific permission from parents before driving his girlfriend or friends. Fortunately he was a sensible boy and a bit of a scaredy cat anyway.

PGmicstand · 12/10/2025 13:36

Shade17 · 12/10/2025 11:11

You must be a very nervous passenger, there’s nothing terrifying about doing 100mph.

I was 16 at the time, with a group of people who should have known better, on a public highway.

prh47bridge · 12/10/2025 13:44

GirlonaCloud · 12/10/2025 12:59

If the person was on a public road then they were a complete idiot. They'd be banned for many years if caught.

And more of an idiot to be doing that speed with a child in the car.

I hope the poster is confusing mph with kph (or simply making it up). There were very few production cars capable of 150mph available in the 1990s, and they were mostly supercars such as the Jaguar XJ220, Ferrari F50 or Porsche 911 Turbo. Doing that kind of speed on a motorway or dual carriageway means your closing speed on a car doing the speed limit would be 80mph, i.e. you would be doing more than double their speed, which is dangerous given that they wouldn't know you were coming and could pull out on you unexpectedly. Doing that kind of speed on any other kind of road would be positively suicidal.

Of course, if she was a passenger in a car on a racetrack such as Silverstone, that is another matter.

Shade17 · 12/10/2025 13:52

prh47bridge · 12/10/2025 13:44

I hope the poster is confusing mph with kph (or simply making it up). There were very few production cars capable of 150mph available in the 1990s, and they were mostly supercars such as the Jaguar XJ220, Ferrari F50 or Porsche 911 Turbo. Doing that kind of speed on a motorway or dual carriageway means your closing speed on a car doing the speed limit would be 80mph, i.e. you would be doing more than double their speed, which is dangerous given that they wouldn't know you were coming and could pull out on you unexpectedly. Doing that kind of speed on any other kind of road would be positively suicidal.

Of course, if she was a passenger in a car on a racetrack such as Silverstone, that is another matter.

Absolutely not. For reference, it was a blue 1994 E32 BMW 750iL, limited to 155mph. As it happens I’ve since owned and driven other 90s cars at 150mph+. Regular trips to Germany mean I’ve exceeded 200mph on a public road on several occasions.

Munchyseeds2 · 12/10/2025 14:12

Shade17 · 12/10/2025 11:11

You must be a very nervous passenger, there’s nothing terrifying about doing 100mph.

I wouldn't fancy being driven by anyone doing a 100 miles per hour let alone by a very inexperienced 18 year old!!
Things go wrong VERY quickly at that speed

Simplyrewarding · 12/10/2025 14:28

Shade17 · 12/10/2025 11:11

You must be a very nervous passenger, there’s nothing terrifying about doing 100mph.

@Shade17 = twat

Ritasueandbobtoo9 · 12/10/2025 14:32

Although I have done 100mph on foreign motorways where it is allowed back in the day when roads were much less busy it is not appropriate for UK roads now so stop the idle bragging about speed as this is what encourages kids to act like twats and injure and kill people. It isn’t the 90’s anymore.

Makingspoons · 12/10/2025 15:10

Shade17 · 12/10/2025 12:03

Of course not. I still remember the first time I exceeded 150mph as a passenger when I was a child.

I want you to start a thread @Shade17 ! How old are you? Do you have children?

because I can’t fathom anyone aside from an adrenaline junkie 17 year old with no grasp of risk (and a bit thick) to have posted your two posts on this thread

i am going to guess you’re a man though?

Makingspoons · 12/10/2025 15:27

Is your son wanting to learn how to drive op?

peakedat40 · 12/10/2025 15:38

^^ troll back again

Makingspoons · 12/10/2025 15:44

peakedat40 · 12/10/2025 15:38

^^ troll back again

Reported

DeadMansBones · 12/10/2025 16:41

Makingspoons · 12/10/2025 15:27

Is your son wanting to learn how to drive op?

No, not interested yet. With older DS we waited until he was working and could pretty much cover the cost himself, it's seems to have made him appreciate the value of the car more and be a bit more sensible, he was 20 by the time he passed so couple of extra years maturity. Will do things the same with DS2

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Balloonhearts · 12/10/2025 21:15

Shade17 · 12/10/2025 13:52

Absolutely not. For reference, it was a blue 1994 E32 BMW 750iL, limited to 155mph. As it happens I’ve since owned and driven other 90s cars at 150mph+. Regular trips to Germany mean I’ve exceeded 200mph on a public road on several occasions.

It really feels quite easy when everyone is doing that speed. I found it really quite relaxing, although you are hyper-aware of the reduced grip on the road and the car is super light so you have to steer carefully.

Doing it on a UK motorway where almost all other traffic is south of 80 would be very different to doing it on a foreign motorway designed for those speeds and keeping pace with the other traffic.

Doing it on a single carriageway and maintaining control is nigh impossible.

I really don't think the app was anywhere close to accurate. Even doing 60 on those lanes can be hairy. There is no way they were travelling anywhere near 100mph and walked away. I would be putting this one down to the app being inaccurate.

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