What would be your life tip?

[dazedandblue]

I am slowly approaching 40, which obviously means I’m having a bit of a pre mid-life crisis. With that, I’m taking stock of things and seeing what small changes I can implement for the next 40 years.

So give me your best tips and tricks and life advice.

For younger me, I would have said just do the thing (whatever it is in the situation), put yourself out there. You’ll love it.

For me now, I’m working through and putting together my financial plans. They’re ok, but need optimising.

But I don’t plan to stop there - the last maybe 5-10 years I’ve lost myself a little so now I’m ready for my revival.

So I’m ready to hear all your wise words!

Ive never married and do sometimes feel that life must in some ways be easier with someone else to help etc Single life is blimmin hard..financially/all the jobs that need doing.

Check your breasts

@BitOutOfPractice my mums favourite was ‘money can’t buy happiness but it sure allows for misery in comfort’

Two things
NEVER give up your financial independence ,it's to much to loose
NEVER get fat ,it's almost impossible to get of after it's gone on

Always keep a good sense of humour. See the funny side of things even in dark times - it helps defuse stress.

Don't worry about anything. It doesn't achieve anything & you lose vital sleep.

Two from my late father.
Do everything while you can.
Don’t put aluminium in the dishwasher.

This is oddly specific but if you have kids who lose things tie a hairbrush to a shelf/radiator/cupboard in your bathroom. No joke this has halved my morning stress. My kids are primary aged but my friend with teenagers swears by it too!

This. I married badly and then I married well. The 2 situations couldn't be more different.
Work as a team in your marriage. Pool resources.
Pay as much as you can into a pension. If you want to retire early you can. If you love your job then it is a choice to carry on with it rather than a financial necessity

Train the dog you get
Train the dog you get.
TRAIN THE DOG YOU GET.
So many stressed , badly behaved dogs about that have no idea how to behave.

Don’t drink alcohol!

●Don't focus on what others are doing it doesn't effect you.
●Remember nobody starts life on a even playing field so its unfair to compare yourself to others.
● Achievements are different for different people but they are still an achievement whether that is getting a promotion at work or getting out of bed and getting dressed.

Grab opportunities with both hands.

look after your neck (moisturise)

Believe nothing you hear and only half of what you see," attributed

Thank You Edgar Allan Poe

If someone doesn't want to be with you anymore let them go. Don't waste time turning yourself inside out to be the person you think they want. Focus on your life and make it the best you can .

In a nutshell, pretty much a fail safe mantra 💛

I once saw an 80ish old lady in her swimsuit in Centre Parcs. She was obviously a pretty active lady but still stooped, was a bit unsteady, was very wrinkly and had a decent amount of weight on her hips and stomach - not fat, just woman shaped.

For the first time, I looked at my 40ish year old body with a newfound respect - that old lady would have killed for my knees / back / thigh muscles / strength / skin etc.

Who cares about a stone or even 2 stone over ideal if you’re fit healthy and strong.

Ever since, that’s my new goal. Not a size in my clothes. Not a number on the scales but fit, healthy and strong. I feel so free.

My tips would be leave someone after the first red flag and don’t squander your money on ‘stuff’.

Priorotise exercise. Keeps you healthier for so much longer so you can actually live well and dont spend the last part of your life immobile (depressing I know). Also prioritise sorting out your sleep and mental health •.

Remember that your age shouldn’t stop you doing anything. So many people have so many blocks they think need to happen/shouldn’t happen because of their age. For example I know two 65 year olds. One couldnt possibly go to the gym because she’s too old and tired and has changed herhair and style to be older because she thinks that’s what you do. The other one works out multiple times a day, travels constantly, tries new hairstyles as that makes her happy. She genuinely looks ten years
youngerand is great fun to be around. There’s no reason why that should be unusual.

And spend time with those you love. Don’t be afraid to challenge yourself

Wear sunscreen

Read about the ‘sunk-cost fallacy’.

Never, ever stay with someone because of
the time youve put in. Don’t stay with someone because you feel like you’ve invested time, definitely not before children (after children it is more complex).

Always look after your own contraception.
Don't have children unless you really, really want them, can properly take care of them, and give them a good start in life.