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Tiredofwhataboutery · 04/10/2025 14:46

Nameychangington · 04/10/2025 14:28

As hard as you seen to find it to believe, I was doing absolutely nothing wrong. Just driving a friend home in my taxed insured car within the speed limit driving safety with no alcohol in my system. The officer who stopped me said 'just a routine stop'. How many of the white middle class women on this thread have had the police stop them for a 'routine stop'? Some people don't realise what life can be like for people who aren't them.

I’ve been pulled over for a routine stop, am white. It felt really odd as police officer said my name in a questioning way which I wasn’t expecting, must have pulled insurance, asked my dob to confirm his colleague checked my tires and that was that. I’m insured, taxed, mot’d etc. so no reason to flag the car.

LastTrainsEast · 04/10/2025 14:49

TheRavenKingsDaughter · 04/10/2025 10:04

Well, determinism is maybe a different topic …

One would think that an experience such as he had in Dubai would make someone very risk averse and unwilling to leave the house. But perhaps his friends have been excited to have him back, and keen to help him enjoy life.

Or perhaps the police just didn’t like the look of his and the driver’s faces …

"perhaps the police just didn’t like the look of his and the driver’s faces"

A politician recently tried to use that one, but usually you can't see faces that well until the car has stopped.

I'm not a great fan of the UK police forces these days, but when the police tell you to stop, you stop and don't die in a crash. It's not rocket science.

You don't decide your convenience outweighs the chance of ending the lives of drivers and pedestrians, mothers with babies, toddlers and children on the way to school, all presumably keen to enjoy life too.

cardibach · 04/10/2025 14:51

HRchatter · 04/10/2025 14:43

I drove a golf GTI convertible when I was 19 proper boy race the car that I absolutely couldn’t afford in the eyes of most police officers or anybody else for that matter.
Never stopped once, And you’ve got no idea what colour I am.

And? Like I said, I’ve never been stopped either. You don’t know my colour, sex, car or where I’ve lived over the years. That the two of us have never been stopped doesn’t mean it’s not common knowledge that not all stops are justified and that people do get stopped for spurious (or non-existent) reasons.

cardibach · 04/10/2025 14:52

GeneralPeter · 04/10/2025 14:44

What facts do you think I've stated without evidence?

You of course can be sad for this man and his family. This is absolutely horrible for them. That's a separate issue to whether this man was very culpable, somewhat culpable, or not culpable at all for what happened. Which neither of us know. You've worked backwards from your sympathy for the family, which I recognise is a very human thing to do. To me, I see them as separate. This is a horrible time for his family whatever their son did or didn't do. We don't need to jump to fact claims to feel sympathy.

We do know. He wasn’t the driver. The offences which took place were driving offences. How on earth can he be culpable?

powershowerforanhour · 04/10/2025 14:53

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cardibach · 04/10/2025 14:53

GeneralPeter · 04/10/2025 14:46

Do you know what happened that evening? I assume neither of us know more than what has been reported. The question is whether we recognise that we don't know, or insist that we do know. I think the former is better.

Edited

I know the only offences were driving ones. Ergo the passenger is not responsible. If other offences had been committed by the two of them, the driver would have been charged with them.

Meadowfinch · 04/10/2025 14:55

Most people get stopped at some point. I rode a m/bike when I was a teen and got stopped 13 times in one month. Seems the local constabulary had never seen a girl on a bike before. Boring but no big deal.

I got stopped at 11.50, NYE on the M25 one year and in Trowbridge at 5.20 am on Christmas morning. Bored coppers looking for something to do.

If you're legal, as I was, I really don't see the issue. Just pull over, say hello, breathe in a bag if that's what they want and on your way. Why do people make such a fuss about it?

Lampzade · 04/10/2025 14:56

We don’t even know the exact circumstances of the incident . We don’t know if Marcus told the driver to stop and he ( the driver )refused.
We don’t know if Marcus was even aware that the driver was uninsured
I am shocked by the posters maligning this young man without hearing the full facts .

cardibach · 04/10/2025 14:58

Meadowfinch · 04/10/2025 14:55

Most people get stopped at some point. I rode a m/bike when I was a teen and got stopped 13 times in one month. Seems the local constabulary had never seen a girl on a bike before. Boring but no big deal.

I got stopped at 11.50, NYE on the M25 one year and in Trowbridge at 5.20 am on Christmas morning. Bored coppers looking for something to do.

If you're legal, as I was, I really don't see the issue. Just pull over, say hello, breathe in a bag if that's what they want and on your way. Why do people make such a fuss about it?

Edited

Because people no longer trust the police after (as examples) Sarah Everard and the recent Panorama programme.

AlecTrevelyan006 · 04/10/2025 15:00

picture of crash scene on BBC https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c3e7yyjw77qo

a very big expensive BMW for a 19yr old to be driving. The photo shows all the damage is on the driver side so I'm going to guess that Marcus was not wearing a seatbelt and possibly sitting in the rear of the car.

RIP.

Marcus Fakana is wearing a dark suit, white shirt, and tie stands indoors against a beige wall. He is facing the camera with his hands clasped in front of him. A door and light switch are visible on either side.

Marcus Fakana: Teen jailed in Dubai dies in London police chase

Marcus Fakana, who was jailed for having sex with a 17-year-old girl, dies after a pursuit in Tottenham.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c3e7yyjw77qo

GeneralPeter · 04/10/2025 15:00

cardibach · 04/10/2025 14:53

I know the only offences were driving ones. Ergo the passenger is not responsible. If other offences had been committed by the two of them, the driver would have been charged with them.

We don’t know the only offences were that. We know that offence that has been charged is a driving one. We are unlikely ever to know the full circumstances. And we can’t draw any conclusion from the fact that Marcus has not been charged with anything, for obvious reasons. So, we can’t know.

AlecTrevelyan006 · 04/10/2025 15:02

cardibach · 04/10/2025 14:53

I know the only offences were driving ones. Ergo the passenger is not responsible. If other offences had been committed by the two of them, the driver would have been charged with them.

to be fair, even if the police suspect that the passenger was committing an offence there seems little point in charging him given the outcome of the crash.

Lalaloope · 04/10/2025 15:06

I honestly think we need to stick to what we know here and not speculation. I'm sure if the passenger was a woman, people wouldn't be talking about possible offences she may have committed.

The driver was driving. He was the one committing a crime. Full stop.

vonHammersmark · 04/10/2025 15:07

Lalaloope · 04/10/2025 15:06

I honestly think we need to stick to what we know here and not speculation. I'm sure if the passenger was a woman, people wouldn't be talking about possible offences she may have committed.

The driver was driving. He was the one committing a crime. Full stop.

Edited

still interested in what he was doing in the car though

Lalaloope · 04/10/2025 15:10

vonHammersmark · 04/10/2025 15:07

still interested in what he was doing in the car though

Casual interest, of course. But that has nothing to do with the fact that he was killed due to dangerous driving.

He was in a friend's/relatives car. It's not unusual to be a passenger in a car. Who knows where they were going or coming back from. Again, all that would be unnecessary speculation at this point which I'm sure wouldn't happen if the sexes were changed.

Meadowfinch · 04/10/2025 15:12

cardibach · 04/10/2025 14:58

Because people no longer trust the police after (as examples) Sarah Everard and the recent Panorama programme.

That still doesn't mean you refuse to stop. If worried, you park up, keep your doors locked and call the non-emergency number. Give the call handler the reg of the police car and check they are on patrol. Then set your phone to voice record, wind down the window and ask the police patrol what they want.

justasking111 · 04/10/2025 15:18

TheRavenKingsDaughter · 04/10/2025 10:10

Maybe at least read the news article before maligning this boy’s character, @PersephonePomegranate.

(Frankly, I would ask MNHQ to delete your post.)

Edited

Me too. Misleading headline and information. It's nothing to do with Dubai, nor his driving skills.

Asunciondeflata · 04/10/2025 15:23

The 19 year old driver had no licence, no insurance, failed to stop and has been charged with causing death by dangerous driving.
Marcus seems to have been in a car with a reckless person driving, unfortunately.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 04/10/2025 15:27

I can remember an aggressive ‘routine stop’ when I was in my teens. Late at night due to picking my mum up from a late shift at her second job as we were in huge financial shit at the time. The copper had his head in my window smelling my breath as I talked then kicked all my tyres hoping to find a bald one. Wanted to know why I was out and where I was going. This was thirty years ago and was very intimidating. I’m not surprised people don’t want to stop. Particularly if they are from a minority group.

Asunciondeflata · 04/10/2025 15:29

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 04/10/2025 15:27

I can remember an aggressive ‘routine stop’ when I was in my teens. Late at night due to picking my mum up from a late shift at her second job as we were in huge financial shit at the time. The copper had his head in my window smelling my breath as I talked then kicked all my tyres hoping to find a bald one. Wanted to know why I was out and where I was going. This was thirty years ago and was very intimidating. I’m not surprised people don’t want to stop. Particularly if they are from a minority group.

Yes, unfortunately, trying to outrun them is a dangerous game, especially in an urban area. Better to have a few minutes worth of annoyance and inconvenience, surely?
Anyway. It had a tragic end for Marcus.

Lampzade · 04/10/2025 15:32

vonHammersmark · 04/10/2025 15:07

still interested in what he was doing in the car though

Why?

Lalaloope · 04/10/2025 15:32

I disagree. Not stopping for the police is a stupid move especially when he could have recorded or asked the passenger to record the interaction for proof of anything untoward towards them. Many people now also go live recording while dealing with the police.

Engaging in police chase is suspicious behaviour, no excuses. It has now resulted in his friend's/relatives death which he'll have to live with for the rest of his life. He was extremely irresponsible.

justasking111 · 04/10/2025 15:33

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 04/10/2025 15:27

I can remember an aggressive ‘routine stop’ when I was in my teens. Late at night due to picking my mum up from a late shift at her second job as we were in huge financial shit at the time. The copper had his head in my window smelling my breath as I talked then kicked all my tyres hoping to find a bald one. Wanted to know why I was out and where I was going. This was thirty years ago and was very intimidating. I’m not surprised people don’t want to stop. Particularly if they are from a minority group.

My mother and friend had a similar experience to yours both mid seventies, had been to the theatre, were stopped and treated very unpleasantly. Breathalyser and interrogated.

What the hell he thought he was doing with two septegenarian Welsh ladies god knows.

Nameychangington · 04/10/2025 15:34

Meadowfinch · 04/10/2025 14:55

Most people get stopped at some point. I rode a m/bike when I was a teen and got stopped 13 times in one month. Seems the local constabulary had never seen a girl on a bike before. Boring but no big deal.

I got stopped at 11.50, NYE on the M25 one year and in Trowbridge at 5.20 am on Christmas morning. Bored coppers looking for something to do.

If you're legal, as I was, I really don't see the issue. Just pull over, say hello, breathe in a bag if that's what they want and on your way. Why do people make such a fuss about it?

Edited

The Met are institutionally racist and misogynist. Anyone who would be at risk from racism or misogyny may well be concerned when they are at the mercy of a person in authority who is from a known racist misogynist organisation. Not everyone is able to assume that a police stop is no big deal and nothing to make a fuss about. It might be, but not everyone can assume it will be.

Unacceptableinthe80s · 04/10/2025 15:34

Far too many young people die on our roads like this, rather than argue about who's to blame we need to look at prevention. Huge sympathies to Marcus's family, and to the family of the teen boys killed near me recently, and all the families of all the teens before them killed in car accidents. I cannot imagine anything worse than losing your child like this.

We need to talk to our teens about this stuff. I'm not lying when I say I always bring these tragedies to my teen's attention. He's just started lessons and we've spoken about the stats, the reason for the astronomical insurance, why it's a bad idea to get in car full of teens and how just a moments distraction when you're a new driver can end your life. I take this stuff seriously and I hope the end result is he will make sensible choices.

Education and a change in the law is what we need. My son's school recently took all the 17 year olds on a young driver awareness course. This sort of thing could be rolled out across schools for starters.
I'm also a huge advocate of the Australian system whereby new drivers are not allowed teen passengers.
Too many young people die this way and so many deaths could be prevented.

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