I'm having the holiday from hell...

[Appalonia]

I'm on a 2 week holiday in America. A male friend booked himself this holiday by himself and then said, if I could just pay my airfare, he'd love it if I came with him just aa friends, as it would be more fun. I thought about it and since I thought we got on pretty well, I'd go for it. However it's turning into an absolute nightmare!

One example he hired a Mustang car for a road trip and then had a meltdown that my big suitcase wouldn't fit in the boot
Without checking if it did, he then threatened to leave me on my own whilst he went on this road trip. , I was so upset I left the hotel room and desperately looked fir a room for myself, but it would have been over £1k. He also keeps throwing it back on my face how much he's paid for his accommodation, even tho, it would have cost the same if I wasn't there.

I feel very vulnerable and annoyed at myself for going on this holiday. He's acting like he's on the holiday by himself, with no consideration for me, like not caring if I need to eat or anything I would like to do. We're in Vegas and all he wants to do is gamble. There's so much more going on, he's like a child constantly having tantrums raising his voice at me telling me I'm ridiculous if I sit down because my back hurts or that I don't feel safe in the car as he's such a nervous driver etc. I'm spending all my time placating him and I'm so upset and fed up.

I don't really know what I want from this post and I feel like it's my own fault for putting myself in such a vulnerable situation but I feel really alone and I can't say anything to him as I know he'll just kick off again...

Where are you? You can look on booking.com for a cheap motel or try Airbnb.

You can also book day trips through Airbnb. They pick you up at the hotel.

I went to grand canyon and red rock national park. Very easy

Exactly this

A very similar thing happened to me about 25 years ago when I went on holiday with a very good (I thought) male friend. He spent the whole trip being a total arsehole - putting me down constantly with awful, deeply personal insults, forcing me to sleep on the sofa rather than in a bed, refused to go out in the evenings to places where people were actually having fun...

We never spoke again after we came home. I was sad about the previously close friendship we lost, but pretty shocked to see his true colours. God forbid any woman who ended up in a relationship with him.

you don't have to do everything together?

if he wants to gamble all day, why do you go out into town. book an activity, use the pool?

He sounds vile and I would not expect his behaviour to change. Go home asap and you will not regret it.

I was in a similar situation years ago but on a much shorter trip in Europe. I moved rooms but couldn't get a flight much earlier so stuck it out (moving from being extremely upset to really angry) and had to fight the urge to give him both barrels right up to the point he got out of the cab from the airport when he got back. I happily never spoke to him again.

He sounds like a total C.

It might be you are just on completely different pages and what you expect.
Do your own thing. Take it from there. He wants a holiday very different from you.
Maybe you'd have more fun doing something else. And so would he. Life's too short😊 not to enjoy your holiday.

Plus … if he’s a golf fan, of course he’s going to watch the Ryder Cup live, if he can. It won’t be at 4am local time, surely? It’s in the US. My DH oth will be up until the early hours watching.

Are you sharing a bed/room? How does this impact you?

TBH it sounds like you’re just not compatible as holiday friends.

I’m confused as to what’s stopping you from leaving? Grab your things and leave him wherever the hell he’s at, he’ll sort himself out.

When is your flight home?

Yes, don't believe a word on this thread. If intellect grew on people are money grows on them, this world would be such a better place

Change your flight. Call the airline, tell them your situation. Come home.

Is he still planning on hiking in Death Valley? If so, I'd be getting the next flight home.

Assuming that OP is still in Vegas and wants to get her own room, Circus Circus (two pools and..errr..roller coasters and circus) has rooms at £79/night for this weekend (it took me <2 mins to find on Hotels.com - other websites available).

I've not been to Vegas for about 30 years, but remember there being plenty off attractions along The Strip (I am sure you can get a guide/tour on Airbnb/Tripadvisor).

A day trip to Grand Canyon starts at around £65 (overnight £161).

Have you misunderstood his offer?
He paid for it, and he's irritable because he was expecting sex, which he didnt get.
Can you book the next flight home?

Just do your own thjng. He polite he wants to gamble you go on them flights they do.

He wants to gamble you see a show.

Marijuana is legal there as well might help relax a bit.
Be polite nice and as soon as home block delete done

You can find some really cheap places to stay in Vegas if you come off the main strip

do you have anyone you can borrow money from

lots of buses and Ubers and I walked a lot when I went if you are able to, perhaps go off and leave him to it

This is a "yes, but…” thread.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Comfort yourself with the thought that you can cut off all contact with this childish oaf once you get home. Don't let your resolve weaken by accepting his apology. Tell him to do one and don't look back.

I love America but Vegas is somewhere I've been and never seen the attraction of. Would you be able to afford to go to the likes of Sedona in neighbouring Arizona or California? If not - I'd just try to do your own thing. I wouldn't be able to occupy myself in Vegas though.

Stop enabling his behaviour by going along with whatever he wants. Either book another room or get yourself home early.

Either go home, or pull up your big girl pants and start planning your own days and meals out. You are on a cool trip and it could be amazing.

This.

Though being by myself and doing my own thing wouldn't be my first choice I would do some googling and start trying to salvage something from it or cut my loses.

Americia is english speaking and intenet research should help you sort some viaable options out - if you give more info I expect people here can suggest some.