What age did you all get engaged, married, have kids and buy your first house etc?!

[Benny91]

Just wondering really, what age you did all these things?

Also is there expectations in life to do these things?

I think if anything it’s become much more common to make a big thing out of being engaged these days.

I find it odd, but I know plenty of people (and see it discussed online) where couples have seemingly decided to get engaged, buy rings but then somehow don’t consider themselves engaged until there’s been a big fancy proposal.

The ring doesn’t get worn until this fancy ‘proposal’ even though they’ve already agreed to get married, but this all appears to be for show, even with photographers etc.

In the past I think it was much more couples decided to get married, so while they planned the wedding they were engaged, without all the to-do of thinking an engagement was a formal thing.

First house 22, engaged 26, married 28, first and only child 33, separated 41. I think there are fewer expectations now than a generation or two ago for these things. The main thing is being happy with your own choices as far as you can I think

Bought flat at 21, child and married at 25, separated at 45 remarried at 51

First child at 17
Bought my first house (alone) at 26
Married at 36.

I bought a house on my own when I was 28.
Got engaged when I was 35, married 36.
No kids.
Soon to be divorced at 48!

First House: 25
Engaged: 29
Married: 29 😆 It was a short engagement
First Baby: 32

I’m 32 now😊

Didn’t get engaged, just married at 28, bought first house that year. First baby a year later.

Finished my graduate degree at 32, engaged at 36, married at 37, bought our house at 40, had DS at 41. Nearly 71 and still in the same house and happily married. I feel very lucky.

As for engaged, both times we decided to get married but made no big deal of engagement, was married a few weeks later

I think the opposite now... big social media announcements of being engaged... but never actually get married.

But everyone I know had an engagement ring. (Well the women).

Engaged 20
Married 23
Bought our first house 23
First baby 25

Im 36 now.

Engaged 29, first flat 29, married 30, first child 33, first house 34, second child 35. Now 42.

Bought house alone at 25, house together 28, baby 30, engaged 33, married 34.

Bought a property at 31 by myself. Haven’t done the rest.

First property 24, engaged 28, married 30, babies 31 and 35, divorced 43

I think if anything it’s become much more common to make a big thing out of being engaged these days.
I haven't really noticed this. Maybe it’s things going in circles and engagements are having a bit of a come back. It was a massive thing when I was very young and I just hated it.

Deciding to get married is being engaged, even if it’s not for long or not a big proposal.

My mum and dad decided to get married, rang the registry office and booked the next available possible date about a month later. They didn’t tell anyone until afterwards.

They were still engaged for that month, it’s just a description for deciding to get married.

Absolutely this, the concept of getting engaged with younger generations is a massive thing now.

Bought our first house aged 25 & 26, engaged aged 26 & 27, married aged 28 & 29, first child aged 32 & 33, second child aged 35 & 36. We’d have happily got married and had our children a bit younger if we could have afforded to. We did really enjoy our 20s working and travelling a lot together before children though.

Different things work out for different people at different times in their lives though. Good luck to you 😊

Engaged at 27.
Married at 29.
First child at 30.
Didn't buy first house til I was almost 40.

1st house at 32 (alone). Kids at 40, 41, married at 62. Not one for doing things in the 'right' order

Bought house at 31, married at 33, first child at 36, second at 38. Divorced at 44.

Bought my first flat on my own at 24

Met DH at 28 and married at 30

First and only child at 38

Bought first house with ex (not married) mid 20s.
Met DH aged 39, married aged 41. Had only child aged 42. Bought second house aged 44.

Engaged 21(DH)/24 (me)
Married 22/25
Child 24/27
First house 26 (on his birthday)/28

Will celebrate 12 years of marriage this year. Looking back on it we were very young but I am glad we did it this way. Everything we have done as adults pretty much we have done together.