DS just bum shuffled and I could cry

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I desperately don’t want him to be a bum shuffler but I knew it was likely to be on the cards because he has always hated tummy time and was pretty late to roll.

Bum shuffling is linked to all sorts of developmental delay, dyspraxia, dyslexia etc. I’ve just read a study that stated half of bum shufflers went on to be diagnosed with ASD.

I just feel very sad that I can see a tricky future mapped out for him. I will forever ask myself if we could have done more to encourage tummy time but in the early days he just screamed and screamed and in the later days he was just not fussed about it and would roll onto his back.

Crawling is so important for developing visual acuity, handwriting, visual spatial skills etc. I am just absolutely heartbroken for him.

DH bless him doesn’t have a clue about the implications and is sitting there cheering him and proudly videoing it 😔 I’ve had to come out of the room I just feel sick and so gutted.

And FWIW, I actually opened this post thinking you were proud of your son for bottom shuffling.

My son didn’t crawl at all. Or bum shuffle and he didn’t walk until he was a month shy of his 2nd birthday. There is absolutely nothing wrong or delayed in his development. He doesn’t have any learning difficulties at all in fact he’s doing extremely well at school. He’s 14 and the only thing in school he dislikes is PE.

Please don’t worry! And this is from someone who worried about lots of things, but honestly, bum shuffling ??? It’s fine.

ASD is very strongly genetic , and also: it doesn’t condemn anyone to a life of misery either .

My LO scooted. I panicked and specifically remember a YouTube video from a 'dr' talking about how'd theyd be delayed walkers and have all sorts of physical problems. He walked the following month no issue.

My sibling bum shuffled apparently the rest of us crawled, the bum shuffler is the most ‘normal’ out of all us.
Highly successful in their chosen career, tons of friends, very well off, very stable home life etc
I honestly wouldn’t worry

I thought the OP was going to say that their child had a disability and they didn’t know if he’d be able to move independently but he’s just bum shuffled and she’s so happy she could cry!

Goodness me! Its incredibly common! My autistic son cralwed and walked and the bum-shuffling babies I know went straight to walking and have no developmental issues whatsoever!

Do you have ANY idea how often mums (always mums) of children with significant health or developmental issues have their concerns dismissed as ‘mum is anxious’?!

Rubbish.

This is next level catastrophising. DD bumshuffled. From about 15 months. Started crawling at 19 and walking at 21 months. Zero developmental concerns and she's now nearly 8.

She saw a paediatrician when she was about months for a few hours when she had a chest infection that needed some steroids. Came up in chatting to him because she wasn't walking and he just laughed and said all bumshufflers are slower to walk, as both his were. No mention of any correlation between it and ASD or it being a marker for anything at all of concern.

What a load of guff. You can’t possibly map out his entire future on the basis that he bum shuffled. Can you link to the research you claim to have found that supports this hypothesis?

This is true. A far more likely indicator of whether your son is ND is whether you or your husband are ND.

A tricky future mapped out for him

I think you need to book an appointment for the GP, for you. Crying and forseeing his "tricky life ahead" with ASD/dyspraxia/dyslexia is not normal at all, unless you are going to give a significant drip feed about you having a family history of the above.

I never crawled as a baby, only bum shuffled. Got up to quite a speed on my bum apparently! I’m NT and achieved all the other milestones. I can’t see how being a bum shuffler has affected me negatively or is linked to anything although we are just anecdotes. I was not aware of any link so I wouldn’t read too much into it if it were me

It’s a marker , it has been noted as being common in people with ASD. Your child either is or isn’t autistic. If you managed to get them to crawl it would not change anything.

My child didn’t bum shuffle. He is a maths and computer genius and has ASD.

Me too, thought this was a fellow SEN mum delighted with some progress!

Hi OP,

my 4 yo was a bum shuffler that never crawled. He eventually walked at 22 months and was running after a week of walking. He had loads of tests as he was so late to sit, bum shuffle, walk etc, He has mild developmental dysplasia of the hip (DDH) diagnosed by an xray. No surgery recommended as it’s mild. He also had a couple of sessions with a physio. She advised me to encourage him to crawl as it’s important for balance and for some of the skills you mentioned. She also advised me to get the whole family crawling and having crawling races to encourage him. A few other things that she recommended were doing wheel barrow races with him being the wheel barrow so you holding his legs and him crawling with his hands. Also using a balance beam and getting him to walk on it. Using stairs a lot and getting him a balance bike. He seems like a very clever 4 year old so far with no signs of add, dyspraxia or anything else. Hope that is helpful to you, try not to worry

These sort of posts are incredibly offensive and invaribly driven by misogyny. Why don’t you come straight out and say she is hysterical and should get her wondering womb removed?

One of my DDs has an ASD diagnosis, the other is on the pathway. We were never asked if they crawled or if they bum shuffled. DD2 currently on the pathway is dyslexic and probably (according to dyslexia assessor) dyspraxic but crawled at 6 months and walked at 13 months. You can drive yourself crazy reading too much into these things.

He may have ASD, who knows at this stage. Getting upset now won’t help and you are going to need to develop a lot more resilience if he is, or for any of the other challenges that will come your way as he grows up. Deal with it if and when it happens. Feel happy and proud he is on the move and is exploring the world.

Oh for god’s sake. I am just back from a lovely day with my fabulous adult daughter. Who in her 20s earns more than me or her DH ever have and has bought and renovated her own flat as a single woman. She bum shuffled. Maybe take a deep breath and try and get some perspective- then join your DH in celebrating a lovely milestone.

My dd was a bum shuffler and has ASC. She is also at university, got outstanding GCSE and A level results. She holds down a part time job, does voluntary work and is in a serious relationship.
You need to chill out op. It really doesn’t matter.

There are so many random things kids do and when you Google it, it tells you everything it’s linked to. I was going to come on and tell you not to be ridiculous then I remembered googling tongue ties when my eldest had one and seeing all sorts of reports of links between tongue ties and ADHD. He doesn’t have adhd. Two thirds of my kids were bum shufflers they also don’t have autism!

Well none of mine were bum shufflers and all had/have SNs. I think you're making something out of nothing.

All three dd’s were crawlers.
all three are dyslexic
the one with dyspraxia as well went to Oxbridge.
it’s going to be a LONG parenting journey if you get this worked up over everything your child does to this extent so early on!

To be fair ‘hysterical’ does sound an accurate description of the OP’s posts.