What’s the most batshit thing your DIL has said or done recently?

[CurlewKate]

Mine came to lunch on Sunday and expected me to cook her a separate vegetarian meal.

Totally.

lol 😂 wtf

OP, you aren't coming across as a nice MIL and clearly are picking opportunities to find fault with your DIL which isn't very nice.
You need to reflect and reframe your minds.
DIL's grandma is a very important person and seeing her on Christmas day is important.
You are coming across as vindictive
STOP

You should accommodate your guests' dietry needs so they can eat. A meat eater can it vegetarian but vegetarian won't eat meat. I would cook an amazing vegetarian meal so no one comments on the lack of meat. My go to would be spinach and tofu lasagna. It's a party pleaser and good because you do everything in advance.

this is seriously backfiring on ya hun 😂 crazy is crazy and sorry to tell you alot of MIL’s are just crazy, and particularly cruel to their own DIL’s for no good reason other than they cannot stand not to be the queen, or main woman anymore.

Why would a mil requesting a vegetarian meal be any different? 🤔A vegetarian doesn't eat meat or fish whatever relationship they are to you and there is no such thing as a partime one either before anyone says so.
I'm vegan but everyone I know knows that, I take my own food if needed.

Problem is on this platform ,the age demographic, replies are always more likely to be from a woman who is a daughter and has a mother or mother in law than a mother who has a daughter/daughter in law. Also given the platform is to help people with problems they are going to be women with problems with parents in laws etc.

that coupled with the fact that when we reply we do so with our own bias means that people on here will generally be in favour of the daughter/dil as we all project.

on gransnet I assume it’s skewed the other way.

having said that, always good to think about our bias when posting but I completely agree with you that the ops posts I suspect were a bit too cryptic to hit the mark for a lot of people.

It was apparently the MIL who actually requested the vegetarian meal as the OP was doing some kind of weird reverse thing to prove a point (no idea why as it's not nice behaviour to be a dick to someone who's a vegetarian whoever it is if you're hosting them)

Well, I have always thought you’re a reasonable poster on many threads and often agree with you.

So I’m guessing your DIL didn’t just want a veg dish (which would be fine) but a variety of veg dishes?

It was apparently the MIL, not the DIL according to updates. Some kind of weird reverse thing, I dunno

there is no vegetarian DIL. OP wanted to demonstrate alleged MIL-bashing, and claims that vegetarian MILs in same situation would be told to shut up and bring their own food. Which really isn't the case.
There was indeed one thread, in 2013, where such things were said - but MIL there wasn't actually vegetarian, but only demanded veggie food when she was in the mood.
But generally everybody agrees that it is reasonable to cook something your guests actually eat.

Did she expect you to cook a separate vegetarian meal? Or did she expect that the host who invited her would provide a meal which she could eat?

I’m vegetarian and my mum cooks me a veggie option or I bring my own. We converse about it first…

Sunday dinner is surely one of the easiest things to do a veggie version of - just stick a veggie pie / slice / quorn lump / sausages in the oven with everything else and don't cook the potatoes in animal fat or add animal to the gravy etc.

Did MIL know DIL is veggie? I was veggie for 25 years - I ate exactly the same Sunday dinner as everyone else, but family would ask me to bring the "meat subsitute" of my choice, or they bought some, if sufficiently pre planned. Otherwise I would just eat the lunch, without the meat. For other get togethers, there were always veggie options. This still happens now eg. A meat curry, and a veggie curry. I definitely wouldn't rock up to SL expecting a totally different meal prepared fir me. SL is SL.
More detail needed re the "slight change" at Christmas.

You are going to lose your son.

God I love how this completely backfired on you. Feeling VERY sorry for your DIL.

Vegetarian expecting her MIL to provide a vegetarian option for Sunday lunch is batshit? Come on OP, you're being an arsehole and you know it.

I love how so many posters have completely missed the actual point of this thread....I wouldn't be surprised if the OP hasn't even got a DIL.

I expect she has a perfectly normal MIL though and doesn't feel the need to launch attacks on female relatives.....

Most pointless thread ever.

Can you appreciate though that quite a few women do not have perfectly normal MIL’s? And that they feel the wrath of their comments every single day ? And therefore DO feel the need to “attack” as you call it their “female relatives” aka MIL’s on a mumsnet forum as it is not safe for them to do so in real life? It is the case for a-lot of young women in the battlefield of early motherhood with the added pressures of a non sensical mother in law! OP is in essence shaming these poor DIL’s who are already having a bloody hard time from their mother in laws which isnt really supportive is it.

My mum in law always makes me a vegetarian alternative when doing a roast, and I love her for it. She doesn’t have to, I’d be quite happy to cook for myself but she loves hosting and I super appreciate what she does for me.

Same as some of those crazy DILs.

this is true, but here the OP is obviously trying to shame DIL’s who have issues with their MIL’s though, as its written in a very similar way to a “craziest thing your MIL has said” thread. If someone is having a tough time with a family member causing difficulties, they should be able to vent about it here, and not be told that they are “bashing their mother in laws” If their MIL’s / DIL’s were decent people, there would be no need to vent now would there?

OBVIOUSLY lots of MNers do not have supportive / kind / normal MILs. But given that many of us also have difficult parents / FILs / family members of all ages and sexes. there is a very high proportion of MIL threads and criticism - even when both ILs are involved, frequently MIL takes the flack.

And threads like 'what's the most batshit...' etc. Why MIL? Reltives and non relatives are all capable of saying batshit stuff.

It was a simple ironic post about this. Not shaming posters seeking help about sensitive / difficult issues.

All I am doing is pointing out the nature of the OP here. And how so many have missed it.

Fine to argue against that.