What’s the most batshit thing your DIL has said or done recently?

[CurlewKate]

Mine came to lunch on Sunday and expected me to cook her a separate vegetarian meal.

What a pointless thread 🤷🏼‍♀️

At least you've proved some kind of point - your DIL can certainly chalk this thread up to the most batshit thing her MIL has done recently...

If she didn't know you were vegetarian then that is batshit. But if it's something known and discussed then YTA.

I am vegetarian. My beautiful daughter in law always includes vegetarian dishes when I am at their house for dinner. Does this make me, or her, a terrible Mumsnetter!!

But that’s the age demographic of this place, more daughters. I don’t see the angst about it.

we always get one side on every single post, not just from daughters in law. How could we not do, only one person is posting.

it’s like being astonished the sea is wet.

Feels way around but can't find the exit

Why on earth would that make a difference? A vegetarian is a vegetarian and it’s really easy to buy something meat free these days.
you’re horrible if this is how you treat your MIL

What?!?! Surely you’re joking?? Rice in the bottle is REALLY BAD advice! Why do people think they can give advice and that new mums should just automatically be oh so grateful….. your advice and following attitude about her being disrespectful because she wants to raise her baby without excepting your advice is what is really disrespectful!! You sound like the type of grandparent who gives a child things the DIL has specifically asked you not to just because you think you can … the ‘well i’m the grandmother’ attitude is really shitty and actually you should be respecting the new mums wishes whether you agree or not… because well she’s the babies mum… and as much as you don’t like it you are JUST the grandmother…. Grandparents have no say or even legal rights over their grandchildren… so stop being so disrespectful and entitled and respect your son & DIL’s decisions on how to raise their baby… if you 100% go along with what they ask if you your relationship will be better… if you go against their wishes and disrespect them you’ll have limited contact and only under their supervision!

It’s pretty obvious it’s a copy of the ‘batshit MIL thread’ people. OP pointing out the different standards of responses.

But its backfired on her…. People say crazy things all the time, be it mil/dil etc. the “batshit things your MIL has said” obviously came from a person who had a MIL with the tendency to say crazy stuff, and looking for people in likewise situations. And that is absolutely fine. There wasn’t really any need for a made up story from the OP, she could have simply started a thread like, “lets talk about the difference in standards of responses when it comes to in -laws” if she really wanted to look into it 🤷🏻‍♀️ That way she could have gained a really interesting discussion with varying view points.

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Wow! You don't like your daughter in law do you?

You obviously get a lot more hours in the day than me.

I agree with the sentiment of this post. I’m a Dil and I must say I don’t have a great relationship with my mil. I could have posted a lot of AIBU posts about her behaviour over the years.
HOWEVER, I’m now a Mil myself and I have more empathy for her. It’s tough. Especially when you have sons. My mil didn’t always get it right, I don’t add leats get it right and my dils don’t always get it right. They are tricky relationships to negotiate and you often don’t appreciate the other perspective for years.
All the women out there judging their mil. If you have sons, watch out ….

I always good using veg oil then add in veggie sausages but do lots of veg options too so it’s not difficult.

But Re MiL I imagine DIL can be a complete nightmare at times but this example doesn’t work

They are 100% tricky relationships to negotiate, and the fact that you recognise this makes you a good person and therefore a good MIL. You are making an active effort to work on the relationship and get it right, you are trying. Some DIL’s have MIL’s who do not actively try, they bulldoze their way into their DIL’s life , and quite frankly make their lives utterly utterly miserable . I have a son, and I will be making an active effort to know my place when he will marry, I know that she will come first, I will ask HER about HER advice on HER own babies, I will be there if needed and if asked, I will not push myself onto her. i will not snatch her babies away from her, or creep into their room in the middle of the night and take her baby to sleep with me. I will ask her opinions and ask if it is ok for me to do things. I will communicate with her in an adult manner and not sulk like a bloody child.

I don't get it.
We cater for Dairy Free son, Gluten free parents, Veggie daughters - I thought it was "normal" in this day in age to cater for dietary requirements?? We even have someone n our occasional guestlist who is allergic to dairy, eggs, fish, gluten and nuts and cannot have may contain, so he is a real challenge but why invite if we cannot feed him??

i don’t understand this? Is it sarcasm?