What’s the most batshit thing your DIL has said or done recently?

[CurlewKate]

Mine came to lunch on Sunday and expected me to cook her a separate vegetarian meal.

But there are plenty of posts on mumsnet about difficult relationships in general, relatives/ non- relatives saying batshit stuff. Obviously the ones posting about difficult MIL’s, HAVE difficult MIL’s. There are plenty about difficult mothers/fathers/brothers/children/neighbours etc. The wife complaining about her difficult husband, is complaining because she HAS a difficult husband, she should hardly be labelled as someone starting a thread for the sake of “bashing husbands everywhere” I believe OP was wrong to do what she thought would be clever . People DO have difficult relationships with people, and if it happens to be a MIL they should NOT be labelled as someone bashing MIL’s, being unpleasant DIL’s etc. and a “clever tongue in cheek” post did not work.

You are insane. If you invite a vegetarian for dinner you cater for them!

I had 12 over for Christmas dinner one year, 1 was vegan and 1 was vegetarian so I bought in separate mains for them and prepared separate roast potatoes without parmesan and sprouts without pancetta. Neither were my DIL or MIL, it's just what you have to do if you invite a vegetarian or vegan to dinner!

This is not a serious post. The OP is trying to mock a similar post aimed at someone who has an issue with their MIL’s and wants to talk about it on mumsnet. Its very unkind of her to be dismissive of others very real feelings and experiences and it has backfired on her. (Assuming she is a “her” seeing as though we are on mumsnet…)

Of course people can post for help, support and advice if they have a difficult-or worse-relationship with a family member. But putting MIL in the title gets you unquestioning, unconditional support. Which is horrifying. There’s one today where a MIL who likes buying her grandchildren clothes is described as “urinating on her spot”. Some mils are awful. So are some dils. In probably about equal numbers,people being people. But we only ever get one side of the story.

If you were trying to make an annoying point, you could have at least used another scenario.

The response is unanimous because it is culturally expected that a host caters for the guest's dietary requirements (within reason). It's v easy to prepare vegetarian options for a guest, regardless of whether the host is the MIL.

@CurlewKate yes some people are awful and yes some ignore and overstep boundaries and some put in ones that are far to rigid

yiur example isn’t one of them. DD is vegan and all of her friends and parents make allowances for that even if sometimes it is requesting me to provide an ingredient (vegan cheese for making pizzas)

Oh cut the crap and stop using the excuse that you put MIL as the reason you’re being called out unanimously.

You are being called out because your behaviour and attitude is mean, look at what you wrote about her in one of your last posts, stop using the blanket people blame MILs to pretend you haven’t done anything wrong.

“No “She should have brought her own food” or “she should have just eaten the vegetables” or “what a CF to expect special treatment” or “she should just eat what’s put in front of her” or “don’t pander to her entitlement”? “

When did expecting to be served appropriate food as a known vegetarian an entitlement? When people host they make the effort to make accommodations for their guests but you can’t even bother for your DIL, at least now she knows and can plan ahead and bring her own food or even better stay away from you.

Putting MIL in the title does NOT give you unquestioning , unconditional support AT ALL. Nearly all threads about MIL’s that I have read have had others questioning the other side of the story, wanting more information. I have not really seen any where other posters say “oh yes what a bitch” with the OP untill more info has been given. So your point and this thread holds no water

Just for clarity. My dil-or my son’s lovely partner-is not a vegetarian. And if she were, I would happily cook for her. As I would
accomodate anyone who came to Sunday lunch with me. The examples I used were all things that Mumsnetters have routinely said about vegetarians on other threads. And would say, I bet, if I had complained about my MIL coming to lunch.🤣

But if someone has a difficult relationship with their MIL, your assumption and your tone is somewhat mocking and “no you don't your a batshit DIL and should not talk about what your MIL does to you to anyone, you are too sensitive” its not nice, seriously. If someone was not having a hard time they would not be writing on here! They really would not. Its not up to you to decide that they are not having a tough time.

In sorry thats very very childish of you.

Are you having some sort of breakdown?!

So your point is that MIL are treated in a way that DIL aren’t?

So essentially you made up (lied) for some weird attention seeking reason. 🙄

This entire thread is one of the most batshit MIL behaviours I've ever encountered!

What a peculiar thing to post 🤔

Something's going on because I've read posts by this poster on other threads and normally she posts well-reasoned, interesting stuff even if I don't always agree with everything she says.

Have you genuinely got nothing better to do? 🤣

But the MIL in question doesn’t just "like buying her grandchild clothes". She changes him out of the clothes his mother has dressed him in, into clothes she has chosen and bought herself. She is taking over the role of his mother.

That’s not crazy? I mean, she is your DIL, so you should know that’s she’s vegetarian and if you have offered to cook dinner, you SHOULD have made her a separate dinner?

I don’t know this is a real post lol 😂

I'm confused. Have you made this story up or are you the veggie? This is weird and I think you're off mark if it's just to prove a point somehow.

There's fair bit of MiL bashing on Mumsnet (some very justified) but even so, I still think most would disagree with you. I'm not my MILs biggest fan and even if we fell out but had to engage for politeness and DH/DDs sake I wouldn't even consider not making her veggie food if she was veggie.
Or just making us all
Food she could eat like a veggie pasta. It's not exactly difficult.

You’d soon provide your own child a vegetarian meal. You are awful. And what a way to make her uncomfortable.

Every time my DM vista DIL they go out to eat and then my DF ends up paying. DIL refuses to cook.

Do you struggle to cook a meal with just veg and no meat? Keep a vegetarian gravy/sauce there for her when she comes over, a frozen nut-roast. Would you be so vile if she was coeliacs instead of vegetarian?

I've grown up with a celiacs, and my friends are vegetarian - I'm a carnivore. I can suck it up and make veggie for us all to eat, because believe it or not...you don't just eat meat with a Sunday dinner. The majority is veg.

Poor DIL having a cow of a MIL.

I had a curry night for 6 friends and one is a vegetarian and I made her a vegetarian curry - because I invited her and I know she’s vegetarian. I also did meat curry for everyone else. It wouldn’t be hard to cater for a vegetarian for Sunday Lunch, especially such a close family member.