What’s the most batshit thing your DIL has said or done recently?

[CurlewKate]

Mine came to lunch on Sunday and expected me to cook her a separate vegetarian meal.

? Why are you so mean to her?
I'd be happy to make something special for her and show I care and respect her, like my own daughter.

And of course she should see her grandma at Xmas, no problem.

Sorry but I think you are wrong, very harsh, not loving or kind to her. I feel sorry for her. Maybe the answers you're getting here will make you consider this, but sadly I doubt that.

My OHs ex, who I was once friends with (they split up about 9 years before we got together) is a vege. She treated my oh appallingly and pissed my now MIL off something chronic. They once went for Sunday dinner there and my MIL made a whole vegetarian meal for the ex. Then, accidentally put the meat gravy all over her meal. The ex raved on about it being the best gravy she had ever had, told everyone how good it was and even asked for the recipe. Once her and my now partner had split up, his mum gladly gave her the recipe….. she was mortified. My MIL only wishes she’d have done it on purpose!! (She wouldn’t do that though to be fair) but it tickled the whole family for a very long time!!!
So far though I’m 9 years in with this lovely lot and I’ve never been for Sunday lunch lol!! MIL prefers to come to me as I “serve real meat!”.

What about if the vegetarian was hosting? As a veggie I don’t cook meat for my guests.

Being vegetarian for 30 odd years. I'm not what I would consider fussy. You don't need to cook a separate meal really. If the vegetables are cooked in no meat oil, I would just serve her vegetables , carrots, swede, potatoes, parsnips or what ever veg you have to serve everyone else. Vegetarians eat Yorkshire puddings and you can get quorn roast if you want or not. But I would just be happy with veg, and potatoes and everything but the meat. There is no need to shop especially. The only thing might be the gravy. Most instant ones can vegetarian if you check the label. But I've gone without gravy and meat while served with everyone one else. Its only a fuss if you make it so. Do you mind making the slight adaptions? Its no more fuss than the ones who don't like stuffing or sprouts.

My batshit DIL expected me to walk to a vegetarian eatery and get her a take-away, despite the path being blocked by a Dad with his toddler on a potty.

I tried crossing the road but there were another two Dads with toddlers on potties on the other side. There was nothing for it but to try a little-known shortcut, but looking down that street, a whole line of Dads, toddlers and pots were already in place or looking to position themselves.

Finally, in despair, I tried walking on the road but soon came to a traffic jam, as a small army of Dads were pottying their toddlers in the middle of a major intersection.

Returned home to find the DIL cackling at my efforts, and revealing that she'd brought her own packed lunch anyway - beef vindaloo, as she's not really vegetarian.

My DIL Whatsapp me numerous times a day with photos of my grandson laughing and smiling...I'm going to block her, honestly the cheek of the woman 🤔😂😂😂

Come on, people. I don’t think this is meant to be taken seriously.

This thread reminds me of the awful mil jokes that used to circulate.

For Xmas I bought my mother in law a new chair. She wouldn’t plug it in!

If your MIL is a vegetarian then yes, she should expect a vegetarian meal. You don't serve meat to a vegetarian. Ever. Anyone with an IQ above 20, no - 5 even - knows this.

Would you invite a Muslim or Jewish person to lunch and serve them pork?

Would you invite someone with severe nut allergies to lunch and serve them a meal with nuts in it?

Would you invite a person with Celiac disease and serve them a lunch full of gluten?

Would you invite a diabetic to lunch and serve them a lunch of only sugar?

If you genuinely can't see that you are selfish, vile and wrong inviting a guest to lunch but serving them a meal you know they cannot eat, and expecting people to agree with your selfish, vile and batshit behaviour, you have another think coming. You should be ashamed of yourself.

If this was posted in AIBU it would have a 100% YABU vote.

My SIL is very sweet, but at the beginning of their marriage, my brother started in with the, “My mother does it this way,” and “My mum cooks it that way” - only over and over and over.
Finally, my SIL began calling our mum “Saint Beverly.” lol
Whch the rest of us absolutely loved and continued to call her until she died.
I miss both SIL and Saint Beverly.

Humans are omnivores

Being a vegetarian is a choice, not remotely the same as being a diabetic.

Having dietary restrictions as part of a religion i.e part of a culture. Being vegetarian is an individual choice.

I am really adverse to some food (including tea and chip and crisps!). I wouldn’t expect someone to accommodate this but I would be very grateful if someone made the effort. If they chose not to. I would bring my own food as far as it was reasonable.

If you invite a guest for over to eat you cater to your guest, that would asking what they're comfortable with upfront. The MIL knows her DIL is vegetarian, and has clearly known her DIL for some time. She's playing vindictive games. OP could have told her DIL to bring her own food. I am sure DIL would have, if she had known MIL wasn't going to serve her anything substantial. She is just being hateful and spiteful.

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Really? Cause I sure as hell didn't

I've been on Mumsnet on and off since about 2011 and I don't recall ever seeing a thread where the consensus was that a vegetarian mother in law should be asked to bring her own food.

Nonsense!

It’s different - you’re not providing something they can’t eat (though I know some people wail about it “not being a meal” without meat 🤣)

Same? I don’t know why the OP and clever posters don’t just post a link to the thread! All this cryptic nonsense

Agreed 😅 this thread has backfired magnificently on the OP and the persons embarrassing attempt to be clever. What a silly example to use in the first place, of course if a person is vegetarian you cater to their needs weather they are mil/dil/sil/bil not doing so does make you batshit, no matter what your relationship. This thread is clearly trying to be clever about a crazy MIL thread right now. Interesting to see though that not many posters could give examples of batshit things dil’s have said… but plenty can always give examples of batshit things their MIl’s have said, maybe there is some truth to the “prevalence of mil bashing”

Not understanding your intended point at all.

But whether it’s DIL or MIL, and whether you are the host or the guest, makes no difference. If a host knows one of their guests is vegetarian, it’s up to the host to provide a vegetarian option.

It wouldn’t have mattered if dil or mil it would be unreasonable to not cater for a vegetarian

If I invited a friend or family member to my home and I knew they were a vegetarian, I would certainly cook them a vegetarian meal. I’d probably just make the one meal so everyone had the same vegetarian meal. But I might do something where there were enough veggie bits that she could just not have the meat part and still have a satisfying meal.

Likewise when my coeliac friend comes over, I make a gluten free meal.

I’d consider NOT doing this to be some sort of pass-ag dig designed to make the guest feel uncomfortable and unwelcome.

Absolute nonsense thread, never happened, designed to whip up a storm. If it did, unlikely, the OP should be ashamed of herself.

As a vegetarian my mil and parents always cater for me. I also cook meat for all my family even though I don’t eat it. I cater for a gluten free friend, and vegan family member. It’s not hard 🤷‍♀️

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