Anyone free for a handhold? I’m losing my DM tonight 💔

[morecoffeeee]

4 years I have been her carer, she’s fought through so much but is not strong enough for anymore battles. I’m sat bedside and will stay firmly here for the night - I never knew the end would be so painful to witness. I don’t want to cry because I don’t want her to see, she’s already so distressed. There’s no-one that can sit with me and my heart is smashed into a 1000 pieces 😢

You can ask anything you like, I honestly dont mind talking about it. Registering her death was actually ok, there was a couple with a tiny baby also waiting to register the birth, circle of life moment.
Although my elderly father forgot to put his hearing aid in.... so the registrar and I both had to TALK LOUD! Hope it goes ok for you too, do you have someone to go with you? Xx

@morecoffeeee do you have the ‘tell us once service’ when you register the death. Makes things easier. Get a few copies of the death certificates 💐

Thank you both for the tips, I’m actually going alone - I seem to be a lot stronger by myself at the moment ❤️

@morecoffeeee good luck, will be thinking of you. Our funeral directors recommended that 3 copies of the certificate would be enough x

@morecoffeeee sending you love, and I’m sorry to read about your mum. Those firsts are awful, we’ve just had a one year anniversary of my mums passing. Please know, there’s no right way to grieve - just what’s right for you and that may look different depending on the day.
to answer your question, I found registering my mums death comforting - hard but there was a finality to it, and it felt like I was justified in my heartbreak saying to someone that she was gone.
Be kind to yourself. Grief ebbs and flows, there will be good and bad days ahead, just love yourself through it, OH can cope.