Anyone free for a handhold? I’m losing my DM tonight 💔

[morecoffeeee]

4 years I have been her carer, she’s fought through so much but is not strong enough for anymore battles. I’m sat bedside and will stay firmly here for the night - I never knew the end would be so painful to witness. I don’t want to cry because I don’t want her to see, she’s already so distressed. There’s no-one that can sit with me and my heart is smashed into a 1000 pieces 😢

Handhold for you and wishing you strength. That beautiful advice above to take it slowly is perfect. I was there for both my parents and understand your feelings. You will always be glad that you cared for her right to the end.

Thinking of you and your Mum tonight Op. It sounds like your dear Mum brought a lot of joy and fun into your life. You will have wonderful memories like the ones that you shared with us. Lots of love to you both x

I’m so sorry, sending you love and strength x

Handhold, OP ❤️ I sat with my DM when she passed last year. There’s no pain quite like it, but it was the biggest privilege and the biggest heartbreak to be with her. Sending you so many hugs, love and light xx

My DM passed away this day 21 years ago. Across the water in hospital with members of the family but some of us had to wait to get flights by which time she was gone.
@morecoffeeee hold her hands tightly and I wish you strength. 💜

I’ve done with with both of my parents. It’s the hardest thing but the last thing you can do for your mum and a privilege. Sending you love and strength.

How beautiful, and so true. This quiet time is a gift, being with someone you love as they move on from their life. I remember sitting with my Dad while the nurse made us tea, and later soaking up the warm dawn light as the doctor left, and feeling at peace, for him and for me. I hope your Mum goes peacefully, knowing that you are both loved.

Your mum sounds like she is an amazing woman. You are both so lucky to have each other. It is very clear that your mum is very, very loved.

@morecoffeeee I't been more than 19 years since I sat with my Mom as she passed away.

Sending a hand-hold and many {{HUGS}} your way as you go through these last hours/minutes/days.

Keep talking to her, hold her hand, and remember the love.

Sending love and strength to you ❤️

Oh OP. I'm so sorry 😔 Sending you so much love ❤️🙏

Ah. I'm so sorry. Watching my loved ones die had been the most haunting thing I've ever experienced. But the ultimate service you can give your mum now. The most intimate, loving act of care and something you will have forever.

Your mum sounds so fantastic and you two must have been so close. Particularly with four years of caring. I hope you find real life support; it's massive.

The distress is awful to watch. The sedatives she'll be offered may make her lose consciousness; there was something shocking about that for me and I didn't expect, so just to warn you.

You are giving her everything you can. Not everyone feels love like that and it'll be the last thing she knows. Let that be a comfort to you.

Sending you a huge hug. It's an incredibly difficult thing to go through alone. As hard as it is, you will not regret being with her through to the end. Your presence and loving words will be a comfort to her.

How are you doing @morecoffeeee? my mum died a few weeks ago so I totally understand how you are feeling but I hope that your mum is peaceful and calm on her final moments

Your mum sounds absolutely amazing and so much fun. I will be thinking of you today x

I have been thinking of you today. Lots of love and strength.

Sending love. I recently sat with my DF as he died. I’ll always treasure that moment and be grateful I was there for him.

I have prayed for you and your mother 🙏
May her passing be peaceful and I hope you find some comfort from all the love in this thread ❤️

She sounds wonderful. I've just asked Alexa to play 'Never too much ' and have had a dance around the kitchen for your mum. I hope your night wasn't too horrible.

just wanted to send some love. ❤️

I've been thinking of you all day OP.

Our family always say ‘May the crossing be kind’ - I wish that for you and your dear mum, OP.

We sat with my mum until she took her last breath and - as unbelievably hard as it was - I am so, so glad that we did. They were the most peaceful and calming moments I have ever experienced in life.

Sending the biggest hug to you. Your mum sounds like a beautiful person and her energy, happiness and love will live on in you and your children.

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Here to handhold OP.
This too happened to me in 2007.
You will be OK.
Iam here to send you love ❤️ and hand hold OP

Your mum sounds wonderful OP.

I recently sat with my lovely grandma as she passed away. At the end me , my wife and my own mum were with her and it was a very sad but precious time.

what a lovely daughter you are. I believe she will know you are there and be comforted by this.

i love the poem the PP shared. I couldn’t agree more with allowing yourself some precious moments when she does pass. When my grandma died we sat with her for ages before calling the nurse. We were at home so a bit different.

then we sat with her for the rest of the night after she had passed. It felt right. We had tea and toast and talked about her life.

holding your hand and thinking of you OP xxxx