Anyone free for a handhold? I’m losing my DM tonight 💔

[morecoffeeee]

4 years I have been her carer, she’s fought through so much but is not strong enough for anymore battles. I’m sat bedside and will stay firmly here for the night - I never knew the end would be so painful to witness. I don’t want to cry because I don’t want her to see, she’s already so distressed. There’s no-one that can sit with me and my heart is smashed into a 1000 pieces 😢

It’s a very strange time, my mum took longer than they said, a lot longer and it was incredibly hard. Thinking of you still.

I’m glad you felt able to go home for a little break. It’s so important to care for yourself too!
The nerves and anxiety will come from the fact that you are waiting - anticipation of the unknown because (hopefully) you’ve not been in this position before.
Is there a favourite book or perhaps some poems you could read out loud? Or some favourite music to listen to? Then you’re still together and you’re sharing something but you break the intensity.
Still here with the virtual hugs 💜

After reading through your thread OP I just wanted to sign in & say I’m so very sorry you’re going through this 😞 your mum sounds amazing as do you 😌 I was where you are now back in April with my dad & it’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever done but at the same time I feel so honoured to have been able to be there with him as he took his last breath 👼💙 you’re gonna be ok OP your mum is so proud of you & I have no doubt she knows you’re there with her 😌❤️ try to
talk to her & hold her hand it’s not an easy road but I promise you’re gonna be ok 😌 sending love to you x

My beautiful little Mum died today, just me and her there, having a cuddle as she gently slipped away. It was so peaceful and calm, I will miss her for the rest of my days until we’re together again 💔

I hear you. It's the most painful loss. You never truly get over it. You were there to love her to the end and she knew it .

@morecoffeeee I've been thinking of you this whole time. I am so sorry for your loss 💔.

I know it doesn't feel it but its good that you were with her and she went knowing that she was truly loved and safe.

May she rest well and be pain free and at peace until youre reunited, many years from now. And may those years be filled with love and joy at her memory, as she watches over you.

Do tell us about her if it helps

❤️

My heart breaks for you.

You just did the hardest thing you will ever do. But you did it. And you will cry and cry and cry. And then one day you will feel better. I promise you 💓

I have watched this thread and read all of your updates OP. I think you have done your lovely Mum proud, what comfort and love you have offered to her in her final days. Sending love and condolences to you, I hope you manage to get some much needed rest and peace now. I will continue to think of you in the coming days. You have been an admirable daughter x

Many condolences on the loss of your beloved Mum. 🌹

I’m so sorry OP. It’s devastating. You’ve done a wonderful thing for her by holding and comforting her. Sending love your way.

So sorry for your loss op 💔 💐

I’m so sorry @morecoffeeee . She will always be part of you, I’m sure you’ll hear her as clearly as if she was in the room. God bless x

I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope that, in the coming days, weeks and months, you will be able to take comfort in knowing that you gave her the best end and she passed enveloped in your love ❤️

I'm so sorry @morecoffeeee

It was clear that you really loved her very much.

I am so sorry but glad you were able to be there and that she was at peace.

So very sorry, it’ll hurt and even when things feel a little better, grief will catch you in the most unexpected moments. Sending you lots of love and thoughts.

So sorry for your loss 🩷

I'm so sorry for your loss, OP. You write so beautifully about your mum. Remember, grief is not linear.

Bless you and your mum OP. You were an amazing daughter until her last breath. Cherish your memories. I’m in awe of you. I sat with my mum in hospital for 18 hours, and the doctor had given her meds to help her settle, but it was heartbreaking. She lasted longer than expected, and doctor insisted I went home because I hadn’t eaten for all that time. So doctor got me a cup of tea and biscuits, and said to go home, because nothing would happen overnight. Against my instinct, I left. Doctor promised they would call me during the night if things changed. I spent a sleepless night waiting for the call, and when it came it was too late. I should have stayed, I regret this. A nurse was with her, it was quick at the end and peaceful. But I should have been there.

Bless you both x

My heart goes out to you.

A huge heartfelt hug to you ❤️

Thinking of you, OP. I’m glad you were there with her.

After my mum died, I found for a time I would get flashbacks of those last minutes, images of leaving her on the bed to go home popping into my brain, but over time they have lessened and I am just immensely glad and grateful I was there holding her hand and with her as she began her journey somewhere else. I hope it’ll be the same for you in time, but be kind to yourself and trust that time is really the greatest healer and you will feel happy again, probably sooner than you think. Just be present in your feelings now and let them in, it’s the start of a process and one that isn’t linear.

Wishing all the best in the days, weeks and months ahead. Your mum was fortunate to have you and vice versa.

Look after yourself x

I’m so sorry for the loss of your mum. Love to you

I am so very sorry for your loss @morecoffeeee it is now time for you to rest. You were an amazing daughter to her in her hours of need. She passed peacefully with you beside her. That is the nicest thing any of us could wish for. Now you take care of YOU.

I'm so sorry love. Look after yourself now, you have done everything you could for your Mum x