Anyone free for a handhold? I’m losing my DM tonight 💔

[morecoffeeee]

4 years I have been her carer, she’s fought through so much but is not strong enough for anymore battles. I’m sat bedside and will stay firmly here for the night - I never knew the end would be so painful to witness. I don’t want to cry because I don’t want her to see, she’s already so distressed. There’s no-one that can sit with me and my heart is smashed into a 1000 pieces 😢

Your mum sounds fabulous and you sound lovely, i’m so sorry you’re going through this but I’m sure you’re giving her so much comfort being by her side. Sending love and support

Thinking of you OP ❤️

Sending you all the love. I wish I could be there just to hold your hand. You’re doing so amazingly well ❤️❤️❤️

When I sat with my mum as she was dying I was told to keep talking as hearing is the last sense to go . I hope your mum is calmer now . My thoughts are with you x

Oh you poor thing. It’s so hard watching them at the end. ❤️

OP, I am so sorry. These things are hard, and your reactions are completely normal and understandable. Be kind to yourself, spend some time away from your lovely mum’s bedside and breathe. Walk around a garden or somewhere outside if you can.

If it helps, and you’re not already doing this, you could sit by your mum and read aloud to her. And tell her that it’s ok for her to go, that you love her and will miss her but that it’s ok for her to slip away. Do get up and leave her side every so often - some people say they think this space gives the dying permission’ to leave us.

Still thinking of you OP. How are you today?

I’m so sorry. She’s so very lucky to have you.

she sounds like a very good mum.

I get them impression she maybe isn’t that elderly?

Lots of sympathy xx

Sending so much love morecoffee, reality can be so far removed from our expectations. You are doing the very best you can for her, so be kind to yourself and give yourself some breathing space when you need it - it’s what she would want for you too.

Try and get some sleep, and some food, and know so many strangers are thinking of you and her and wishing you both peace.

❤️

Thinking of you OP. Take deep breaths, have a few moments out occasionally. Try reading to her, it might help.

Im so sorry it's your turn to experience this. As you know, so many of us here have too experienced it.

You will be okay. I promise. Once she has passed you will be able to grieve. Once the shock has passed. It doesn't matter how prepared you thought you were, you are still in shock.

You can do this. Ride through it all and stay strong. Sending so much love.

Sending love to you OP

@morecoffeeee still holding your hand, allow yourself to step out and take a break if you need to 😘

Stay strong lovely, you're doing her proud ❤️

Sending lots of love. You will get through this xxx

Thinking of you! I hope you’re okay at this difficult time

❤️

Still here for you❤️

Thinking of you too still ❤️

Thank you all, I can’t tell you how comforting it is to read your messages ❤️ I’m still here, I went home early this morning for the first time since Sunday, had a bath and hugged my babies. Back at her bedside now, I feel like I haven’t got any tears left - I’m just filled with nerves and anxiety, I can’t even explain why.

Bless you OP, it is such a stressful time for you. Look after yourself, I think having time at home is much needed .I send hugs across the internet.

Anticipatory grief and anxiety is torture. No wonder you’re feeling dreadful. Your mum must be very comforted by your presence. We are all thinking of you.

Thank you for updating us.
You have been in my prayers today @morecoffeeee.

Its such a difficult time, it’s ok that you can’t explain or describe the feeling… anxiety and nerves and fears and any and all feelings are all totally normal at times like this. Allow yourself to just feel what you are feeling.

You are doing so well xxx

Oh sweetheart. You are doing the most wonderful thing.