Feeling a bit sad - ‘friend’ blocked and deleted me from fb.

[GirlPolo]

And I have no idea why! She was one of my very closest friends, we were having discussions about days out over the summer hols and I went to message her only to see that she’s blocked and deleted me. I just cannot understand it. There were no disagreements, it was all good when we saw each other. I genuinely thought we were best friends. Or at least very, very close friends. Even if she unblocks me the friendship is done, I can’t get past this 😔
Anyone had anything similar happen to them?

You literally just click 'block'

I blocked my dad once by accident, I had no idea and he was too embarrassed to mention.

I know you want answers and a reason OP. But I would just let her crack on and ignore her completely. She has her reasons or she’s trying to get a reaction. Either way, if she’s not mature enough to have spoken about her issue with you instead of blocking you, she’s not mature enough for a friendship. Don’t chase her, reframe it as dodging a bullet and move on. If she gets in touch in the future, see her on your terms only. Don’t enable her flakiness.

I was going through a very bad time and didn’t reply to a friend’s text for a while. When I did reply all hell let loose and she told me never to contact her again.

I liked her and miss her company, but I also know that her reaction was completely OTT.

And there's your answer.

I once had a friend who laughingly told me about how she was freezing out some friends. I knew then it would only be a matter of time till she did it to me. And a few years later she did.

She's just someone who does this, and she has.

So FB could have done it rather than the friend doing it. Still the same result of feeling hurt.

@Onthegrassthat ‘friend’ is a total weirdo. You are well rid!

Honestly. It doesn’t matter what you have done. You will go over and over. You really have only two choices I’m sorry, so

1. you get ur head right up, you have done absolutely zero and your friend is a nutter with no respect for you and no guts to even speak about it to you. NOT A FRIEND.
2. you can ask a mutual friend to ask her what her problem is. Be prepared for lies tho or some proper stupid excuse that she has just been biding her time for.

she sound a bit of an idiot tho and for her to be your close friend shows she doesn’t care a thing about u if she can do this to you. Just remember it’s not you, it’s her. just stick your head up and get
onnwith your life. Put
lots
of good pics of urself of fb cos I promise, she will be stalking u on another
hidden account
somewhere. Make sure she sees u are totally unbothered even if ur hurting bad. Plenty more
better friends than ones like her pal

If shes a repeat offender your turn was going to come eventually, sadly. Some people dont emotionally mature beyond y9.

In that case she seems to not be able rational, sensible person or good friend to have.
Facebook blocking is utterly juvenile unless it's a stalker or someone causing you harm.

If she's done this to other people then she probably has deliberately done it to you. I know the type. The only surprise is that she didn't make sure you knew what you were supposed to have done with a big, flouncey announcement in public. People like this don't make good friends, so as much as you valued her, try not to think of it as a loss. You may well find there are other people who can relate to how she's treated you and that will bring you closer to them.

Im sorry you are feeling hurt OP.Some of these women never grow up! She sounds like hard work to me .If you have DC may they have fallen out do you think? Otherwise I would just accept she is a flaky friend.The fact she has blocked others doesnt bode well does it .Dont worry and move on

You didn’t think relevant to mention in your Op that she has done this before??!

I think its completely reasonable to want a reason and to understand why a friendship is being ended, social media has made people way to comfortable with blocking and ghosting people and for many its not 'protecting your peace' or having 'boundaries' its just rude.

She’s no friend and if you manage to speak to her, she will either see you as being weak and dismiss you or if she is weak herself she will lie and give some pathetic excuse and ‘I don’t mean it’ bollocks and then things will be back to normal but she will resent you and you will always be bowing down to her in case you offend her again.

Dont give her the satisfaction of going to her cap in hand, ‘Please miss, whatever I’ve done, I’m very sorry …’!

Just block her on everything and never acknowledge her again even in public, look straight through her.

I can’t imagine being best friends with someone who I know has form for randomly deleting and blocking people on FB for no good reason. Odd, childish and silly behaviour

If you’re close friends, why on earth are you communicating via Facebook?!

Read the Let Them Theory - honestly l have no capacity for this kind of drama these days but l understand why you are upset xx

I’m sorry this happened to you ❤️ unfortunately a lot of people are just so utterly self absorbed and don’t think much thought to others x

What the hell has this got to do with it?

I just checked on my phone and I needed to go to the person’s profile, then click on the three dots, then click block, then there’s a prompt before blocking. So it has to be intentional.

Exactly you cant block someone accidentally

I’m sorry - sounds brutal.
i would phone and ask what’s happened and if everything is ok. Then at least you will know.
Phone her mobile from a landline maybe. Hope it works out x

I don’t value the friendship any more. She’s obviously made a decision for some reason and even if she unblocked me it would never be the same again.

It just hurts because I WAS a good friend to her, supporting her through her dad’s final days and death, supporting her when her ex boyfriend (who she was still in love with) CS. I’m a member of David Lloyd and I paid for her to come with me a few times because she wanted to swim, use the hot tub and sauna, etc. Just lots of little things that I thought she appreciated. She even once said that she’d never forget my kindness when her dad was so ill.

I guess I’ll never find out why.

Thanks for all the messages, it does help to know others have been through the same thing. Although I wouldn’t wish this on anyone!

Bit of advice for the future op

don’t be friends, let alone best friends, with someone who has form for randomly deleting and blocking friends - as you knew your friend had done so in the past