Feeling a bit sad - ‘friend’ blocked and deleted me from fb.

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And I have no idea why! She was one of my very closest friends, we were having discussions about days out over the summer hols and I went to message her only to see that she’s blocked and deleted me. I just cannot understand it. There were no disagreements, it was all good when we saw each other. I genuinely thought we were best friends. Or at least very, very close friends. Even if she unblocks me the friendship is done, I can’t get past this 😔
Anyone had anything similar happen to them?

Frankly if this happened to me no way I’d be chasing after her. There’s a few steps to blocking someone so it has to be intentional.

If one of my best friends or close friends did something to upset me, I'd talk about it with them (as I value the friendship and my friends aren't horrible). If your friend can't even approach you to discuss a disagreement or fallout then unless you've done something really unforgiving like racist remarks or shagging her husband, then there really is no reason for her to just block you other than she's an immature woman who needs to grow up. In that case, you're better off without her.

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Which is why you need to phone her.

It sounds like she has form for treating people poorly if she's done this to others. I would stop wracking your brain about what you could have done. She's clearly a difficult person and it was always going to be your turn to be a victim of that at some point.

Thanks for all the replies, I feel a bit better now. I’ll try calling her tomorrow. I’ve already texted and asked why she blocked me but no response. I guess I am better off without her but I don’t have too many friends and she was important to me.

But that's what people like this do - they thrive on the knowledge someone else is suffering from being cut off and ignored.

Take absolutely no notice of her. She's decided to do it and there's no good reason. One day she'll be back with a shedload of excuses, but remember how you felt when she did it and don't let her back in.

Yep. My oldest friend and someone who had previously been a close friend, also friends with each other. Unfriended with no explanation. Didn’t ask why, don’t miss them now.

My thoughts exactly 😂

I was thinking this too 😅

I wouldn’t chase her as people suggest. If she’s ignored your text I wouldn’t give her the satisfaction frankly. You’re better off shod of her!

There has been one time in my life I did this (not blocked, but deleted and moved on from the friendship). Probably the two people in question have no idea what they did either.

When my DH died I realised they hadn't asked how I was doing during the year after. They were supposed to be close friends. I decided this behaviour meant they weren't friends at all, so cut them lose.

If you really think about it, there'll be something.

So she’s done this to other people. Why are you friends with her?

Why are you bothering anymore?

If she does this regularly it was only a matter of time before it was your turn.

Sorry OP, it’s a sad disorienting thing but for the best in the long run.

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This and that’s the view I have taken with a friend that I considered a close friend.
Long history and always supportive,she considered me a close friend until I forgot to ask after an important appointment she had . My defence was that the appointment sadly clashed with a traumatic birth of grandchild which was beyond terrifying ie didn’t breathe for 20mins and went to NICU . She hasn’t forgiven me despite a sincere apology…I now have given up TBH 🤷‍♀️

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She won't have many friends either soon if she carries on like this.
You sound like a nice person OP, I'm sure you will make other friends.

That's understandable. In my situation, removing a couple of friends who hadn't bothered to ask how I was doing for a full year after my DH died didn't need any conversation. If they'd asked me why, I'd have told them the truth, but they didn't ask. I did hear they posted a self-pitying spiel about how they try to be a good person and wah wah wah though. With a sincere apology I might have given them another chance. I didn't have the emotional energy for contacting them about it myself. Just decide a true friend would have asked, especially around the anniversary of his death. So just deleted quietly.

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Don't worry OP, some people are just hard to understand.
You'll feel better out of the friendship if she has a track record of doing this.

It’s cold. When I was 19/20 my best friend since secondary school just stopped taking my calls - I didn’t clock on that she’d cut me off until someone else she worked with picked up her phone and pretended I had the wrong number and then there was laughter. I was so hurt. Years later she reached out to me on a website called friends reunited and sent me a message to apologise “it wasn’t me,it was her”. We exchanged messages but we never really reconnected apart from on Facebook. It still pains me today when I think about it, it was cruel.

Yes This has happened to me and it sucks xx