Page 17 | Feeling a bit sad - ‘friend’ blocked and deleted me from fb.

GirlPolo · 2025-08-17T20:13:42+00:00

And I have no idea why! She was one of my very closest friends, we were having discussions about days out over the summer hols and I went to message her only to see that she’s blocked and deleted me. I just cannot understand it. There were no disagreements, it was all good when we saw each other. I genuinely thought we were best friends. Or at least very, very close friends. Even if she unblocks me the friendship is done, I can’t get past this 😔 Anyone had anything similar happen to them?

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GirlPolo · 27/08/2025 10:48

Well she’s unblocked me from fb. A friend of mine has created a group for the quiz we sometimes go to and she’s in it along with others because I always used to invite her. I can see her profile pic and profile now. Is this the beginning of crawling back??

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GirlPolo · 27/08/2025 10:50

My mindset remains the same btw. She is no longer a friend, regardless of how she behaves from now on.

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SquishedMallow · 27/08/2025 10:50

GirlPolo · 27/08/2025 10:48

Well she’s unblocked me from fb. A friend of mine has created a group for the quiz we sometimes go to and she’s in it along with others because I always used to invite her. I can see her profile pic and profile now. Is this the beginning of crawling back??

Nows your opportunity to ask her..

custardcreme77 · 27/08/2025 11:09

SquishedMallow · 27/08/2025 10:50

Nows your opportunity to ask her..

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I wouldn’t bother with her anymore. No messages, nothing.

No one needs a ‘friend’ like her who will drop someone on a whim without any explanation.

Someone2025 · 27/08/2025 11:26

GirlPolo · 27/08/2025 10:48

Well she’s unblocked me from fb. A friend of mine has created a group for the quiz we sometimes go to and she’s in it along with others because I always used to invite her. I can see her profile pic and profile now. Is this the beginning of crawling back??

Don’t let her crawl back, who the hell does she think she is that she can treat people like that

GAJLY · 27/08/2025 12:08

custardcreme77 · 27/08/2025 11:09

I wouldn’t bother with her anymore. No messages, nothing.

No one needs a ‘friend’ like her who will drop someone on a whim without any explanation.

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Agreed.

IamJacquelineHigh · 27/08/2025 12:32

GirlPolo · 27/08/2025 10:50

My mindset remains the same btw. She is no longer a friend, regardless of how she behaves from now on.

I think that's the right approach.
If she can't even apologise and explain, but simply unblock you (& what? hope you didn't notice?) then forget her!

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GirlPolo · 27/08/2025 12:33

Oh I won’t be letting her crawl back. I don’t care what her reasoning might be.

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Someone2025 · 27/08/2025 12:38

GirlPolo · 27/08/2025 12:33

Oh I won’t be letting her crawl back. I don’t care what her reasoning might be.

I would completely ignore her at the event and act like you couldn’t care less that you are not friends anymore

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GirlPolo · 27/08/2025 13:38

Can’t imagine that she’ll turn up tbh.

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Booksnbels · 27/08/2025 13:47

SquishedMallow · 27/08/2025 10:50

Nows your opportunity to ask her..

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Her former friend behaved badly if she wants to explain herself, maybe this is her oppportunity to do so. OP shouldn’t bother initiating anything.

@GirlPolo I let a now former “best” friend walk out my life and come back into our social circle like a year or two later.

She never explained why she did so but I was trying to be gracious and embraced her without demanding an Explanation (big mistake) and convinced the others to let her back into our circle too.

She ghosted me again about 5 years later. I was in my 20s but I’d never tolerate that behaviour now. So yeah I agree with your decision to not let her crawl back!

SquishedMallow · 27/08/2025 14:07

Booksnbels · 27/08/2025 13:47

Her former friend behaved badly if she wants to explain herself, maybe this is her oppportunity to do so. OP shouldn’t bother initiating anything.

@GirlPolo I let a now former “best” friend walk out my life and come back into our social circle like a year or two later.

She never explained why she did so but I was trying to be gracious and embraced her without demanding an Explanation (big mistake) and convinced the others to let her back into our circle too.

She ghosted me again about 5 years later. I was in my 20s but I’d never tolerate that behaviour now. So yeah I agree with your decision to not let her crawl back!

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Actually, I do agree yes. You're right. No point "chasing" a drama llama, it only rewards their poor behaviour.

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GirlPolo · 27/08/2025 14:10

Well I’ll let you all know if she does turn up!

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Someone2025 · 27/08/2025 14:48

SquishedMallow · 27/08/2025 14:07

Actually, I do agree yes. You're right. No point "chasing" a drama llama, it only rewards their poor behaviour.

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Exactly

Myjobisridiculous · 27/08/2025 17:00

GirlPolo · 27/08/2025 12:33

Oh I won’t be letting her crawl back. I don’t care what her reasoning might be.

No. Quite right. There are no excuses

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GirlPolo · 27/08/2025 23:19

UPDATE (kind of)

So Lisa (quiz friend) messaged Emma (ex friend) outside of the group chat because I said that you prob won’t hear from her because of what’s happened. Turns out that ‘something happened’ and Emma couldn’t rule me out (sadly, in her words), that I’d had something to do with it so she had to delete me off fb. I have ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA what she’s talking about. None. So I asked Lisa to message something to that effect. Basically, have passed on what you said and Sarah has no idea what you’re talking about. Sorry this is pretty muddled, I had three glasses of wine at the quiz. I’m not going to message her. I could. But I’m not going to get caught up in some drama and I’m still so hurt that she didn’t come to me and just bloody ask! She’d rather write the friendship off. So, anyway, still done with her but just thought I’d post an update.

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PyongyangKipperbang · 28/08/2025 01:24

GirlPolo · 27/08/2025 23:19

UPDATE (kind of)

So Lisa (quiz friend) messaged Emma (ex friend) outside of the group chat because I said that you prob won’t hear from her because of what’s happened. Turns out that ‘something happened’ and Emma couldn’t rule me out (sadly, in her words), that I’d had something to do with it so she had to delete me off fb. I have ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA what she’s talking about. None. So I asked Lisa to message something to that effect. Basically, have passed on what you said and Sarah has no idea what you’re talking about. Sorry this is pretty muddled, I had three glasses of wine at the quiz. I’m not going to message her. I could. But I’m not going to get caught up in some drama and I’m still so hurt that she didn’t come to me and just bloody ask! She’d rather write the friendship off. So, anyway, still done with her but just thought I’d post an update.

Sounds a bit (without being horrible to you) Wagatha Christie.

Someone has shared/done something so she decided to do a full dramatic Colleen Rooney. Ridiculous.

As you say, the easiest thing to do would be to contact you directly, but she has decided to be dramatic about it. Give it six months and I daresay she will be back in touch with some convoluted explaination once she realises that she has no friends left.

The sensible thing to do would be to block her in anticipation, but if you cant (I wouldnt out of curiosity!) then if/when she does get back in touch, hear the story then reply with "Get Bent".

pictoosh · 28/08/2025 06:33

'something happened'

Yes it did...this woman has main character syndrome and likes a mysterious drama to star in. That's what happened.

Pathetic.

Mary46 · 28/08/2025 18:11

Ah very hurtful isnt it. Keep yourself busy op. It was done to me too it did sting. Feel Im slow to make friends now