Feeling a bit sad - ‘friend’ blocked and deleted me from fb.

[GirlPolo]

And I have no idea why! She was one of my very closest friends, we were having discussions about days out over the summer hols and I went to message her only to see that she’s blocked and deleted me. I just cannot understand it. There were no disagreements, it was all good when we saw each other. I genuinely thought we were best friends. Or at least very, very close friends. Even if she unblocks me the friendship is done, I can’t get past this 😔
Anyone had anything similar happen to them?

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You say she has done it before to other people - then it's a 'her' problem not a 'you' problem. Leave her to it and don't let it take up space in your head. Don't bother asking why. That will only feed the crazy.

Agree with this.
Anyone that has a friend like this has to be aware that one day it will be their turn!
My mum had a friend that did this to her recently (She has had loads of friends over the years in a way I could never manage as I'd find it too hard to manage the different levels of closeness with them all) and I remarked that she didn't seem to be bothered. She shrugged and said, 'I'd heard from others that knew her before I did that she could be difficult.'

Being blocked with no explanation and no real reason, messes with your head. She has form. Like fuck would I bother with her from now on, if she wants drama, keep her hanging. If she wants to block, block her back and cut all ties. People who treat others like they are still in Year 6, are not worthy of your time.

Hi OP, I also know how this feels, my best friend of many years blanked me one day all of a sudden, and it hurts. I find it hard to trust people but now it feels like who can you trust? I still often think about her and know exactly how you feel, it’s really not nice- I’m thinking of you❤️

Well there it is.

If you know she has done it before, what where her reasons then?

I wonder if she is something of a "new life, chuck out the old" type of person. Is she the sort that always has a drama in her life that she needs help with?

Have you recently been hacked or anything like that? I delete and block anyone who has dodgy posts or messages until I know they’re safe. I don’t want to be hacked by association 😄

Maybe she’s the same.

Give her a phonecall, are you near enough to walk over and knock on her door?
It is possible to unfriend by accident or if you happen to let your children use your phone.

same or similar situation with me, i got permission to text on facebook watsapp etc, we spent many a dinner hour talking and me eating etc.

i presumed she was one of my trusted friends or at least we were building the friendship.

did the custom have a good weekend text to a few people including this friend then blocked, then i did the text to ask why and silence.

overall its still a mystery

the only think i can think of was due to factors outside my control i did distance my self for a bit and went cold, but then when i was in a better perspectives about things i figured id pickup where the friendship left off. but nope blocked and no reason why

i would not have minded so much if they said eg the texts are too many etc but when i asked about the texts they said they were ok etc

so realisticly what else could of i had ?

overall it hurt because i thought i could trust them

I think you've nailed it. You went cold for a while. Most people don't want friends that run hot and cold (which is different than just having periods of less contact). You never know where you stand with them, or if they are reliable or not happy with you, or something.

ill admit that did seem to be the main point when running the analysis.

Maybe she is one of these unstable people who gets huffy over the slightest little thing. I knew a bloke once whose girlfriend blocked every woman he knew on FB. She made friends with us first and then blocked us. She was a nutter and he looked like Captain Mainwaring from Dad's Army. Not exactly James Bond.

GirlPolo in heaven's name please call her, go round to her house, write to her, anything that isn't SM related, which is so arms length and impersonal There are times to use texts and times to communicate directly to the person so they can react in person.

if you have done nothing of concern, said nothing that could have caused her offence, then there is no reason why she has gone out of her way to block you especially if you are close friends. It depends how much you value her friendship as to the effort you will go to, to sort this out.

are you afraid of what she might say, is that why you're only communicating electronically ?

people can just block you for any reason, or no reason

nowadays people will describe someone they met for half an hour at a BBQ as a friend, they have 500+ friends on Fb, in those instances yes, it is easy for someone to block you without a care in the world, for no reason whatsoever.

If @GirlPolo is a close and longstanding friend of this person and they have a shared history, there is much more likelihood that being blocked is for a reason, even if it's saying something daft on SM. they're never going to find out the reason using texts though!

dont people talk anymore 😆

ETA I notice that the title says 'friend' - how close is this friend? You say you're very close but why do you refer to them as a "friend"

Just the time to organise a terrific garden party with BYO picnic at a majestic Botanical Garden.
You will bring the bubbly and cake if friends will bring a glass.

All invitations out via social media and hoping all your friends can join you for a belated Summer get together..

Sorry to hear this OP. I had a friend ghost me once - it was really odd because we live in different cities, there had been no ‘drama’ at all, we had a very relaxed and calm friendship up until that point.

I can say with absolute confidence that it wasn’t anything I ‘did’ - I spent so long questioning it. Haven’t ever found out the reason and it still bugs me now tbh!

Hahaha, this was the first thing that came into my head to!

I think you are right to try to call and get an explanation, OP. I wouldn't just leave it either.

It's not an error, Facebook do social experiments for research purposes to guage reactions/online responses. So they can block a friend, or add new friends, hide posts from certain friends etc.

@hadenoughnows when you say these people didn't ask how you were, do you mean they didn't check on you at all in your first year after being widowed?

just trying to clarify as that's so awful.

till recently, I'd have interprted your post as them not specifically asking how you are.

but given what's happened to the idea of friendship over the last few years, I'm now not sure.

@GirlPolo if she has form, you have your answer. I feel for you 💐

This has happened to me. 20 year friendship and she stopped replying to me about 2 years ago. We left on good terms. She hasn't blocked me and watches my social media but never replies to my messages. I'm torn between keep trying or taking the hint.