Would you complain about a neighbour's 7yo child naked in their own garden?

[Anon572747525991]

As title. Just wanted others opinions.

My 2 year old and 7 year old, have, while it’s been so hot, played in our garden naked. I absolutely wouldn’t let them out in public like it but think in the confines of our quite private back garden they are free to do as they please! Possibly one neighbour could see them from an upstairs window but I’ve no issue with them, their grandsons played round ours and are quite normal people.

Nah I've had my 8 yo son naked in garden before. He just wonders out the door and goes out to play. Back garden not front one mind. I think we've gone very prissy as a society.

What a sad world we live in to even discuss this!

Would I complain? No. Would I let my child walk around naked where others can see them? Definitely not.

Maybe just make the parents aware that their child is visible to others when playing in the garden just in case they didn't know.
This covers all bases and then allows the parent to make an informed choice over whether they continue the practice or not.

Oh my goodness, leave them alone. Parenting a child with additional needs is tough so if they have found something that contains the child safely and makes them happy, then Jesus don't spoil it. Don't make it so they have to wonder if you are looking/ going to comment every time they let the kid out.

Also all the people saying "I would make them aware people can see in their garden" - they KNOW. Assuming they have eyes and ears and common sense. And they have made a parenting decision which is different to yours, but within the window of normal parenting.

The only outcome of "just letting you know" comments like this is to make people look over their shoulders a bit.

I see plenty of parenting decisions on a daily basis that are way more harmful than letting a pre-pubertal primary aged child enjoy outdoor exercise. I would never e.g. give a 7yo a gaming console or a fizzy drink.

And you what I do when I see parents who do those things? I keep my damn mouth shut.

Grandkids should be told very firmly if they stare into the neighbours garden they won’t be allowed out there.

No, I wouldn't say anything. I'd be more pissed off about the trampoline to be honest, the noise would drive me mad, as would a kid bobbing up over the fence continuously! And before anyone jumps on me, I wouldn't say anything about that either!

No I wouldn't think twice about it - they are children having fun in their own garden and not doing any harm to anyone.

No

I would advise the person looking at a naked 7 year old child in their own garden to STOP looking at them

Hard to fully understand from the way you’ve written OP but if, as I’ve inferred, the naked child has been seen by the neighbouring grandchildren while neighbouring grandchildren have been bouncing on a trampoline, then the only conversation that should be happening is with the grandchildren about how flipping RUDE they are nosying into other people’s private gardens while on the trampoline. They would stop that immediately or the trampoline would be gone.

I agree. @Anon572747525991 If you could only understand just how hard it is to parent a non verbal child with SEN, Please don't even say anything to the parents. I'm sure they know. In this hot weather, especially, it can be so hard to get a child with sensory issues to keep their clothes on. I suspect it will have been a choice of letting the child play on their trampoline naked (which will help regulate the child) or keeping them indoors. The "insisting" the child wears shorts etc probably isn't going to work and the child has likely taken their own clothes off several times already. Please don't make life harder for them.

My DS is younger but had autism and is non verbal. He hates wearing clothes but he's still in nappies and will at least wear a pull up outside. It's not ideal as I know we are overlooked but it's that or no garden. I'd hope people wouldn't complain about it. Carers of SEN children have enough to deal with.

Still no.

My next door neighbour lets her son in the garden naked and he’s 8ish. He’s autistic and just makes noises when he’s out there. It grosses me out so badly as I do not want to see him naked and pulling on his bits. Of course we would be the bad ones if we dare complain about it. If I can see him so can anyone else. I view it as a safeguard issue and I judge any parent allowing their child naked outside the privacy of inside their home. You simply do not know who is looking.

No. But I'd probably complain if I witnessed someone watching a naked child from another house.

This.

No because my 7 year old (and 5 year old) love running around our garden naked. And slip and slide doesn't work as good with swimwear on

I’m hoping this is a joke. I work with children and I can assure you that trying to get SEN children to keep clothes on at the best of times is a struggle so why would you fight that fight in your own garden. As for the Grandchildren seeing a naked child perhaps they should take this as a lesson to be tolerant of others differences 🤬

I judge people who are judgemental about a perfectly innocent, autistic child having innocent fun in their garden. ‘You simply don’t know who’s looking’. In the case of your neighbours, it’s a judgemental person who is ‘grossed out’ by a naked human body. ‘Of course we would be the bad ones if we dared complain about it’. Yes, you would be !

Their house. No news.

Gosh, someone with absolutely no understanding judging the parent of an SEN child.

What a new and unusual take, it happens so rarely.

I hope they read this and keep their child indoors, heaven forbid you have to look in the opposite direction, it sounds so tough for you.

Exactly 💯

No. But I probably wouldn't look at them.