Would you complain about a neighbour's 7yo child naked in their own garden?

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As title. Just wanted others opinions.

sen, probably loves being naked and hates clothes

who would you complain to?

No, of course not. What a SEN child does in their own garden is no one else's concern

Your grandchildren need to understand that some people are different and have different needs.

You do realise OP said that grandchildren were making the comments, not the non verbal 7 year old……

No I wouldn't even mention it.

A child with severe SEN will likely have sensory issues hence the nakedness and trampoline.

The child is in their own garden, having fun, and their world will already be quite small as it is.

Rubbish.

So your neighbours grandchildren have seen your child naked trampolining?
I can understand why that might be a little uncomfortable for them. In their shoes, I wouldn't have said anything. I can also understand that others might though.

Assuming this is happening in the back garden, then of course no normal person would report the child. I think you and your grandchildren should mind your own business.

I think it’s easy to judge without knowing the full story. Potentially 7 year old has sensory issues, hates clothes so whilst the weather has been nice her parents are happy to let her in garden to play without clothes on. Being 7 she’s not exactly “too old” to be outside in her personal garden without clothes.

Would I want my 7 year old naked in garden? No, because I’d worry about “bad” people. But it’s easy to say when your child isn’t SEN.

Hand gestures. Makaton. Comments can be made with this language.

So have your grandchildren been jumping on their trampoline and looking into neighbour's garden, or has the neighbour's child been jumping on a trampoline in the neighbour's garden? Too many thems and theirs.

No. Report to who? Or have they mentioned to you that they can see your kid naked in the garden?
Sorry it‘s a bit confusing tbh.
but no, what someone is doing in their garden (so long as it’s not illegal!) is their business. I couldn’t see anyway unless I was looking out of an upstairs window. And if I saw someone naked I’d avert my gaze - surely everyone would just do this rather than get het up about it?

No. I wouldn’t be looking to be honest

I don’t think I’d say anything, just avert my eyes. However my 3 year old darted out the house naked not long ago and despite there being a 6 foot fence between us and neighbours, there are gaps and they have a 12 year old son so I immediately brought her in so no-one was uncomfortable.

Does neighbour know you can see them? If not definately tell them. If so, I don't think it's exactly right, I might allow a 2-3 year old out naked on a hot day, but not a 6-7 year old. However with severe SEN and by the sounds a severe problem with communication, I would let it go. Obviously not all children who are non-verbal have severe learning difficulties, but it's probable this child does. Or maybe they are autistic and also have severe sensory aversion to clothes. Honestly it's probable that getting them dressed ever is a battle, and their parents/carer probably knows that it's not ideal, but has decided that no-one is in danger by them being naked, and it's not worth fussing about.

Would only comment to help them out, just in case there is a dodgy neighbour the other side

What the hell!?

No. SEN child might have sensory issues and feel good about being naked on the trampoline. Hopefully if others can see they won’t gawk and could be kind and understanding.
Once the child hits puberty then, if still inclined to play in the nude, either persuaded otherwise or bigger fences.

I read it as the grandchildren had been making comments, not the child on the trampoline.

If the garden is overlooked then there's potentially a safeguarding issue in as much as we can't know what other people might do in this scenario.
However, equally, people should be perfectly able to enjoy their own gardens as they see fit. A child with SEN who is non-verbal and who hates clothes puts a tricky slant on the situation.

This.

No It really annoys me that innocent behaviour is sexualised and taken offence by neighbours or others these days
These poor innocent children
Mine did a midnight rain dance after a dry period of weather

Oh don't be that Mumsnetter 🙄

Id knock and mention that their child's visible from my garden/windows etc but wouldn't complain, more just to make the parent aware so they can maybe get some bigger plants or something idk

No! Of course not.

Why?

No

its for you to discuss with your grandchildren that not everyone is the same

and let the child next door enjoy themselves