Would you complain about a neighbour's 7yo child naked in their own garden?

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As title. Just wanted others opinions.

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I read it that the grandchildren were on the trampoline, and that's how they saw him over the fence.

@iciclemelts its not a public decency issue if they’re A CHILD in their own garden though, although you could be considered a voyeur for looking…

Being naked in public is only illegal if there is the intention to cause 'alarm and distress'. Clearly that's not the case with your neighbour's child - perhaps you should just stop looking.

Why is that so unbelievable? One of my grandkids did at that age

No, it’s a child in their own garden.

I wouldn’t complain, but would definitely be judging. If private enough that no other houses are overlooking the garden, then fine. But if there are houses nearby where the garden can be seen from widows, low fences etc, then it’s inappropriate. There’s a lot of horrible people who live amongst us - you just don’t know who’s watching, or even secretly photographing.

No I wouldn't say anything. My own kids have been stripping off and jumping in and out of the paddling pool the past few weeks. We are in a quiet road with 6 foot fences enclosing our garden, which is overlooked by 2 back bedroom windows in the opposite houses only. You'd have to be deliberately looking out of one of those windows into our garden to see our children, so I think I'd suggest blinds if the neighbours had a problem.

If it's the neighbour's grandchildren who are jumping on the trampoline (unclear), than the neighbour has a trampoline placement issues. Trampolines should never be positioned so that the jumpers overlook neighbouring gardens in an intrusive way. If there isn't space for this, then you don't have room for a trampoline.

Oh! I see. Then, no. It’s none of my business.

It is entirely normal for a child to be naked in their garden. What makes you think it isn't? Serious question.

The only comment the parent of the naked child deserves is some recognition of the difficulties they face every day and perhaps the offer of some help. Maybe they'd like to play with the grandchildren.

Waiting for the drip-feed update that OP lives next door to Farage...

thats utter rubbish. If I am sat in garden and a child is naked on a trampoline next door pulling on his bits at age 8 making noises that doesn’t make me a voyeur to look when the trampoline is now making said child higher than the 4ft fence dividing the property. He won’t be a child forever and will still be SEN when he’s a teen. Why is it ok at age 8 and not ok at age 13 or older? Why am I not able to enjoy my back garden without this going on next door? If I bounced on a trampoline naked it would be considered public indecency. I don’t go out my way to look but it’s practically impossible to not see this behaviour right next door.

So, this is interesting.

My son has severe intellectual disability, autism and is non verbal. He is 11. During the heatwave he was in our paddling pool naked, the happiest he has been in a very long time. Utter joy! He'd get out and run round the garden then get back in. If anyone knocked on my door or sent me a letter etc, I'd be telling them to sod off.

Firstly, I'd suggest that they educate their own grandchildren that they shouldn't be staring into someone else's garden, not least via a trampoline. Nosey or what?! Can you imagine if someone sat and stared through a hole in the fence at you/them. It's not dissimilar.

Secondly, it was in our garden is because it's OUR space. I certainly wouldn't take him to a public place and let him do that! We have a wall and fence and as far as I'm concerned, as long as its not out in the street it is literally no one's business.

Even the most innocent of children can't enjoy simple pleasures because some busybody takes offence by looking at something (aka a garden) that's not theirs.

Their comments should well and truly have been nipped in the bud.

Very different if the child has SEN, their opportunities for enjoyment are limited and its probably hard enough for the parents as it is so personally I'd let the child be happy and not comment. At the end of the day what actual harm are they causing if playing in their own garden? (Assuming its a back garden). Good opportunity to educate grandchildren about disability rather than harass parents who will already be run down I think!

I am not the Op. The naked child next door to me is 8 or probably closer to 9. A toddler I can understand not this age.

I have a five year old sen child (autism) she can speak but at a toddler level. She likes to go in the paddling pool naked in the back garden. Neighbours wouldn't be able to see her unless they were looking into my garden from their upstairs windows. My neighbours are aware that she has additional needs. I would be horrified if someone complained about her being naked in her own garden! Parents of a child with additional needs have a hard enough time without people adding to it by complaining. This is a difficult situation for a parent to deal with, without someone adding to it my complaining. The child could have sensory issues and can't cope with clothes, it might be the only time they are happy and content. If they aren't allowed in the garden to suit others this could result in a meltdown.

Probably a good time to remind everyone that sharing information about naked children on this thread might not be a great idea.

Nakedness in gardens is fine. Trampolines (whether jumped on by the naked child or others) are the real issue here.

Sounds like this needs reporting to SS. Gross.

I’m actually wondering if you’re complaining about my son.

If so I’m afraid I’ll tell you to get lost.

I don’t really understand. You’re going to have to explain the garden set up. Do you mean the grandchildren are also on the trampoline? Or are they looking over a fence? How old are they? I mean either way if a child is naked in their own garden there is absolutely nobody anyone could complain to.

No I wouldn’t care and would tell DS not to be looking

It’s still not your right to not have to see it.

And you think this 8 year old is trying to cause you alarm or distress?