Would you complain about a neighbour's 7yo child naked in their own garden?

[Anon572747525991]

As title. Just wanted others opinions.

I think so too. My daughter suddenly takes her clothes off now in summer at home, she´s 7. You suddenly see this white butt and tanned legs turn a corner.
OP leavet he kid be and explain to your grandkids.

And who is paying for this new higher fence? They are council tenants next door and I do not have the money to buy and pay someone to erect a 6ft fence with a trellis on top just so I am not subjected to a naked older child bouncing in the air. How about his parent actually parent him and stop his nudity and stop letting him be above the fence line while bouncing on a trampoline!

OP is the pearl-clutching grandmother next door to the child.

He’s only 7!!! He’s in his own garden and allowed to be nude. If he is autistic (I’m not sure - just this was floating around) or another LD, he may have sensory needs and prefer not to be clothed. I’ve seen made threads with adults sunbathing naked in their garden! (Also not a problem).

I could, but I don't think it would add anything to the discussion. I'm either disgusted and clutching my pearls or livid that someone is complaining about a severely disabled child. Either way there seems to be a general consensus - even if its just that trampolines are the devil's work

@Anon572747525991 so you’re the neighbour.

I’d ask you to think about what kind of life the parents of that child have. Because there’s not a lot of fun there.

And whether you might try to get over yourself for 5 fucking minutes whilst a disabled child has some joy in a life which will be immeasurably more difficult than yours.

Sorry, I don't understand what you mean?

Absolutely. I could see nothing going on in gardens either side because we all valued privacy.

That's the solution, I'm afraid. It's not your neighbours' fault that neither you nor they can afford a fence that would give you both privacy in your own gardens.

Aside from the naked trampolining (and tbf, I almost always think trampolining is unreasonable, they're using their garden in a perfectly acceptable way. Any arrangement where neighbours can see into each other's gardens from ground level is suboptimal and the neighbours just need to accept that will bring various annoyances.

Weird you care so much what a 7 year old does...

I don't unless they are bouncing on a trampoline and looking in my garden or bothering me while I'm in the garden 🙄

Anon, I cannot see anywhere in your posts where you have said you are a council tenant. I assumed you were a home owner which is why I suggested a higher fence. I'm sorry if I got it wrong. It's expensive for a home owner too but usually achievable.

Presumably your young grandchildren whom you say can see the naked child from the house, are not with you all the time. The child won't be out in the back garden all the time, the weather won't be warm indefinitely. By next summer they may well have outgrown this phase.

I checked: "In the UK, council house tenants can typically erect fences up to 2 meters (approximately 6.5 feet) in the back garden and 1 meter (approximately 3.3 feet) in the front garden without needing planning permission. However, if the fence faces a road or public path, the 1-meter limit applies even for the back garden. If a tenant wants a fence taller than these limits, they will likely need to apply for planning permission from their local council".

It looks as though a council tenant can put up a high fence and could probably have wire trellis on the top of it. Yes it costs but there are plenty of people around who would like to do a job like that and the tenant could buy the materials. Some tenants can do it themselves! I'm just saying it's not beyond the realms of possibility for many people though I don't think the op is a council tenant.

This is a modern thing. When I was a kid most fences were 4 foot and neighbours used to chat over them. Before everyone became antisocial and barricaded themselves in

Older child? I thought you said he was 8.

Anyway. You need to understand the difference between "things I don't like" and "things that are illegal", and accept that feeling entitled to something - in this case, entitled to dictate how someone else uses their home - does not actually mean that you are entitled to it in reality.

Sounds hellish.

You want to complain about a Sen 7 year old playing in the relative privacy of their garden in the noddy? Who too?

RubySquid · Yesterday 23:27
This is a modern thing. When I was a kid most fences were 4 foot and neighbours used to chat over them. Before everyone became antisocial and barricaded themselves in
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Not that modern. I'm 75 and have always had decent fencing. Requiring privacy is not being antisocial.

I'd love a 6' fence but it would ruin our garden. We have a 4' fence between us and our neighbour but the garden is only 8' wide so it would be like a tunnel as we wouldn't get any sun. We get on well with our neighbour and it works as we'll both say hi when we see each other and then get on with whatever we are doing. If she ever moves I'd probably want to put up a 6' fence, especially if the new neighbour had kids.

It really wasn't. People used to be friendly then. Obviously you are one of the anti social lot

Is that modern . I'm 20 years younger than you.

I cannot imagine anything worse than going out into my garden and having neighbours talking to me over the fence (me doing the same). It is seriously chavvy.

@LBFseBrom

if you dont want to talk to your neighbours that's fine but to suggest it's 'chavvy' is ridiculous.
Social isolation is becoming a serious issue in this country. As a single person going out for my daily chat with my elderly single neighbour during covid kept us both sane.
Im very grateful to the neighbours who did similar for my parents and who continue to do so now they are increasingly frail and confined to the house.

That's ridiculous.

Great post. People, judging by MN anyway, are getting more and more insular - never answering their door except by appointment, never letting anyone near their baby, not taking in parcels, complaining about children playing in the street, never chatting to their neighbours. They call it 'having boundaries' but it's destroying any idea of community.