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What’s going on in my Neighbours house?

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Ricepuddins · 03/07/2025 13:35

Before I’m told to mind my own business, these neighbours are making our life hell with the noise they generate so it’s hard to not notice the strange things going on there. I work from home and my desk overlooks the close.
its a couple aged around 40 living there, they had a baby around 2 months ago but it hasn’t been seen since they came
home from hospital. I saw the woman take a car seat out recently but it was empty, it was still empty when she returned. So if there is a baby she must have left it home alone. We heard a baby cry once but it sounded like a much older baby around a year old, definitely not a newborn.
There are people coming over at midnight every day, they are very loud and don’t leave until around 2am sometimes. There are often children with them and it’s a school night. Some of the people who enter the house I don’t see leave. I have a ring doorbell that unfortunately picks up everything as our front doors face each other. There was a woman who stood out as she didn’t look anything like the couple or their family who seem to be their only visitors, she went into their house around 11 and I never saw her leave. That was a week ago.
The woman rarely leaves the house herself and I can hear her vacuuming for hours at a time. I’ve never met her and they moved in a year ago.
They do their gardening in the dark, no lights what so ever.
The man used to say hello to my husband every morning when they left for work but now he looks at the floor and doesn’t acknowledge my husband since he asked him about the noise.
not only does their constant noise affect us it’s starting to make me nervous about what sort of people they are. Mentally unwell or criminals is my guess. My husband thinks they are swingers. Although this doesn’t explain the missing newborn that has never experienced daylight.
Does anyone have any idea? Lighthearted speculation welcome. But it’s a genuine post and I don’t know if I should do anything or forget it, it’s making me uncomfortable tbh.

OP posts:
Usernamenope · 04/07/2025 19:05

The above was supposed to quote another post but I forgotten which one.

LexiiRH · 04/07/2025 19:37

Wow! 🥴 This is wild to me.

Who can actually be bothered to keep this many tabs on their neighbours? Watching them at 2am, knowing everyone that comes & goes?! LOL wtaf.

There are so many people like you that are all up in other people’s business, it is utterly bewildering.

The fact that you’re using your Ring doorbell to help with your, practically staking them out, is unhinged. “I have a Ring doorbell that “unfortunately” picks up everything” 🤣😂 If you weren’t using it for keeping tabs you would adjust the motion perimeter & add a privacy band to stop it recording them… My advice to you - & all the other nosey bs keeping tabs on their neighbours - is, mind your own and worry about your own life.

Stop gossiping & caring about what others get up to.
It’s f***g weird.

Miyagi99 · 04/07/2025 19:49

Usernamenope · 04/07/2025 19:03

This always concerns me as I am sure I look deranged to others. Trying to leave my house several times as I always forget something or need to do one more check (or twenty). Running out half dressed with a rubbish bag as I have suddenly remembered it's bin day. Once I got quite ill and became a hermit. I'm sure people were questioning my sanity.

Someone once reported me to the RSPCA because I wasn’t walking my dog. She was going for an 8 mile run everyday with me but I left out the back down an alleyway!

August1980 · 04/07/2025 20:37

Is there an update? Is the baby ok?

Lilolily · 04/07/2025 20:39

Family and friends coming to check on them. Mum hoovering, dad putting his head down…
My first thought was that the baby passed away.

Therizinosaurus · 04/07/2025 21:05

I hope the baby is ok.

HelpMeGetThrough · 04/07/2025 21:32

Hopefully my neighbours aren’t nosy.

Up to this week I’ve hardly left the house for 6 months, am I ok? Yes thanks, just recovering from major surgery. None of my neighbours business.

Hmm1234 · 04/07/2025 21:51

The baby could either still be with the hospital or social services. Sometimes my ring camera doesn’t pick up when the person walks past again! Even when I’ve changed the sensitivity of detector.

pinkglitter12 · 04/07/2025 22:24

Ok so many questions! What time is this night time gardening? Cos in this inferno I have to water my hydrangeas once the sun has set!!
Is there a chance she's albino?
Are they practising vampires?
How do you know its a vacuum and not like a meat grinder?

Kittycatkin · 04/07/2025 22:25

I water my garden very late at night in hot weather, it is the best time because plants soak up all the moisture, as soon as I start watering next doors lights go on and they are all at the window. I have very nosey neighbours, they watch my every move. I’m not running a cannabis farm or doing anything sinister. I’m an owl I often clean my house late at night and do my office work, I like the night, it is peaceful with no interruption, some people go against the norm and may seem a bit odd to some.

ThistleTits · 04/07/2025 23:46

Could it be one of those "baby new borns?" I saw a neighbour with one in a car seat. If she hadn't been in her 70s, I'd have thought she had a baby.

HarkerandBarker · 05/07/2025 00:47

HelpMeGetThrough · 04/07/2025 21:32

Hopefully my neighbours aren’t nosy.

Up to this week I’ve hardly left the house for 6 months, am I ok? Yes thanks, just recovering from major surgery. None of my neighbours business.

A lot of elderly people die at home on their own and sometimes are not found for weeks. Someone showing concern or heaven forbid, particularly in this, doesn't effect me, not my problem, no sense of community age we live in, even noticing that a neighbour hasn't been seen for a while, is not always because they're nosey.
It's human nature to become accustomed to routine and patterns so if something disrupts that thing which we don't notice most of the time as it's normal, it's easy to see why alarm bells go off. On basic terms, you don't notice anything when all seems normal. Only when something feels off.

llizzie · 05/07/2025 01:36

Ricepuddins · 03/07/2025 13:35

Before I’m told to mind my own business, these neighbours are making our life hell with the noise they generate so it’s hard to not notice the strange things going on there. I work from home and my desk overlooks the close.
its a couple aged around 40 living there, they had a baby around 2 months ago but it hasn’t been seen since they came
home from hospital. I saw the woman take a car seat out recently but it was empty, it was still empty when she returned. So if there is a baby she must have left it home alone. We heard a baby cry once but it sounded like a much older baby around a year old, definitely not a newborn.
There are people coming over at midnight every day, they are very loud and don’t leave until around 2am sometimes. There are often children with them and it’s a school night. Some of the people who enter the house I don’t see leave. I have a ring doorbell that unfortunately picks up everything as our front doors face each other. There was a woman who stood out as she didn’t look anything like the couple or their family who seem to be their only visitors, she went into their house around 11 and I never saw her leave. That was a week ago.
The woman rarely leaves the house herself and I can hear her vacuuming for hours at a time. I’ve never met her and they moved in a year ago.
They do their gardening in the dark, no lights what so ever.
The man used to say hello to my husband every morning when they left for work but now he looks at the floor and doesn’t acknowledge my husband since he asked him about the noise.
not only does their constant noise affect us it’s starting to make me nervous about what sort of people they are. Mentally unwell or criminals is my guess. My husband thinks they are swingers. Although this doesn’t explain the missing newborn that has never experienced daylight.
Does anyone have any idea? Lighthearted speculation welcome. But it’s a genuine post and I don’t know if I should do anything or forget it, it’s making me uncomfortable tbh.

You could write to your GP about this. The surgery is unlikely to send a response to your letter, but they would be in a position to do something about the baby at least, as the surgery would have health visitors and nurses, who would be in a position to visit.

Then you will have to leave it to them. If they are concerned, they are the best people to inform other authorities.

JohnnysMama · 05/07/2025 14:12

Ricepuddins · 03/07/2025 13:35

Before I’m told to mind my own business, these neighbours are making our life hell with the noise they generate so it’s hard to not notice the strange things going on there. I work from home and my desk overlooks the close.
its a couple aged around 40 living there, they had a baby around 2 months ago but it hasn’t been seen since they came
home from hospital. I saw the woman take a car seat out recently but it was empty, it was still empty when she returned. So if there is a baby she must have left it home alone. We heard a baby cry once but it sounded like a much older baby around a year old, definitely not a newborn.
There are people coming over at midnight every day, they are very loud and don’t leave until around 2am sometimes. There are often children with them and it’s a school night. Some of the people who enter the house I don’t see leave. I have a ring doorbell that unfortunately picks up everything as our front doors face each other. There was a woman who stood out as she didn’t look anything like the couple or their family who seem to be their only visitors, she went into their house around 11 and I never saw her leave. That was a week ago.
The woman rarely leaves the house herself and I can hear her vacuuming for hours at a time. I’ve never met her and they moved in a year ago.
They do their gardening in the dark, no lights what so ever.
The man used to say hello to my husband every morning when they left for work but now he looks at the floor and doesn’t acknowledge my husband since he asked him about the noise.
not only does their constant noise affect us it’s starting to make me nervous about what sort of people they are. Mentally unwell or criminals is my guess. My husband thinks they are swingers. Although this doesn’t explain the missing newborn that has never experienced daylight.
Does anyone have any idea? Lighthearted speculation welcome. But it’s a genuine post and I don’t know if I should do anything or forget it, it’s making me uncomfortable tbh.

Report to the police. If you have some worry that some dodgy things might be going on, and you heard children but never saw them, it’s best to report it without hesitation . Let them do a welfare check or something.

ToadRage · 05/07/2025 14:50

Cattery · 03/07/2025 14:48

I find it fascinating to watch what the neighbours are up to. Love trying to work it all out. My dh has no interest whatsoever. I say to him “do you not want to know who walks amongst us?” He says “no”. Strange

I'm the same and so is my husband, we've been speculating for weeks about where our neighbours husband has gone. Not enough drama in my own life obviously!

SplendidUtterly · 05/07/2025 20:09

ToadRage · 05/07/2025 14:50

I'm the same and so is my husband, we've been speculating for weeks about where our neighbours husband has gone. Not enough drama in my own life obviously!

I've been wondering where one of my neighbours wife has gone. The weird thing about it is, is that there is now another women living with him and she is driving the original womans/wife's car!

stample · 05/07/2025 21:01

Cuckooing potentially?

OhcantthInkofaname · 05/07/2025 22:56

What type of noise are they making?

tallache1 · 05/07/2025 23:06

Some cultures have a confinement period after birth where mum and baby stay in and rest. With you saying they look Asian this could fit into that as I know East Asian cultures follow this?

mycatismyworld · 06/07/2025 01:16

HarkerandBarker · 05/07/2025 00:47

A lot of elderly people die at home on their own and sometimes are not found for weeks. Someone showing concern or heaven forbid, particularly in this, doesn't effect me, not my problem, no sense of community age we live in, even noticing that a neighbour hasn't been seen for a while, is not always because they're nosey.
It's human nature to become accustomed to routine and patterns so if something disrupts that thing which we don't notice most of the time as it's normal, it's easy to see why alarm bells go off. On basic terms, you don't notice anything when all seems normal. Only when something feels off.

This,I reported possible people traffickers to nspcb and they didn't want to know, said there didn't appear to be any concerns. I beg to differ but they did a moonlight flit. These charities are only that on paper. Social services can as bad, talking from experience

HarkerandBarker · 06/07/2025 03:31

mycatismyworld · 06/07/2025 01:16

This,I reported possible people traffickers to nspcb and they didn't want to know, said there didn't appear to be any concerns. I beg to differ but they did a moonlight flit. These charities are only that on paper. Social services can as bad, talking from experience

Absolutely 💯

WaterOfADucksBack · 06/07/2025 14:29

Crime stoppers is so easy to do. You can go into every detail and still not give your name. Just say local enough to see.
At least you have passed it on then and someone will do a welfare check, as not sure if crime stoppers tell police or ss. As you go on to the form, it gives lots of options to tick and plenty of boxes for mass writing.
Personally id rather report it and be wrong, then read it in the paper one day and wish I had.

Alliod40 · 06/07/2025 14:41

No harm just getting someone involved especially since you're concerned about the baby..

GaqiNa · 06/07/2025 15:12

Well, you're absolutely awful plus racist because they speak a foreign language. You need to get a life because clearly haven't got one since you have the time to monitor what your neighbours do 24/7. I have an obese neighbour myself who stays home all day long, divorced with 2 children and probably is on benefits. One time I had an argument with my husband and she called the police. It was a 5 minutes' argument for something really small and I started shouting. We've never argued before with my husband and that cow took the opportunity to call the police over something so small because she has no life. How about you get a life and leave your neighbours at peace?

MyTwinklyPanda · 06/07/2025 15:45

I'd suggest a call to social services may be worthwhile.

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