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What’s going on in my Neighbours house?

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Ricepuddins · 03/07/2025 13:35

Before I’m told to mind my own business, these neighbours are making our life hell with the noise they generate so it’s hard to not notice the strange things going on there. I work from home and my desk overlooks the close.
its a couple aged around 40 living there, they had a baby around 2 months ago but it hasn’t been seen since they came
home from hospital. I saw the woman take a car seat out recently but it was empty, it was still empty when she returned. So if there is a baby she must have left it home alone. We heard a baby cry once but it sounded like a much older baby around a year old, definitely not a newborn.
There are people coming over at midnight every day, they are very loud and don’t leave until around 2am sometimes. There are often children with them and it’s a school night. Some of the people who enter the house I don’t see leave. I have a ring doorbell that unfortunately picks up everything as our front doors face each other. There was a woman who stood out as she didn’t look anything like the couple or their family who seem to be their only visitors, she went into their house around 11 and I never saw her leave. That was a week ago.
The woman rarely leaves the house herself and I can hear her vacuuming for hours at a time. I’ve never met her and they moved in a year ago.
They do their gardening in the dark, no lights what so ever.
The man used to say hello to my husband every morning when they left for work but now he looks at the floor and doesn’t acknowledge my husband since he asked him about the noise.
not only does their constant noise affect us it’s starting to make me nervous about what sort of people they are. Mentally unwell or criminals is my guess. My husband thinks they are swingers. Although this doesn’t explain the missing newborn that has never experienced daylight.
Does anyone have any idea? Lighthearted speculation welcome. But it’s a genuine post and I don’t know if I should do anything or forget it, it’s making me uncomfortable tbh.

OP posts:
Tiredandtiredagain · 03/07/2025 16:55

treacletoffee23 · 03/07/2025 15:51

Please ask the Police if a welfare visit is an option. I would rather be wrong,and to upset the neighbours, than think of a defenceless child suffering

This

Christmasbird · 03/07/2025 17:00

Gardening in the dark- burying drugs to keep them out of the house in case of raid either by police of other drug dealers

HunnyPot · 03/07/2025 17:00

Another vote for calling for a welfare check. As far as your concerned the baby is still in the house and is either being neglected or subjected to who knows what. It’s better to be wrong. Remember their behaviour is strange enough to raise your suspicions.

Northerngirl821 · 03/07/2025 17:01

Not the point of the thread but if your ring doorbell is recording activity on their property then you risk being in breach of privacy laws!

Twoleggedhorse · 03/07/2025 17:02

In your situation I’d report for a welfare check. Children going at night sounds concerning, gardening at night… plus the hoover to possibly cover up noise? I hope theres an innocent explanation but at this point it all sounds very odd.

Boomer55 · 03/07/2025 17:03

RepoTheGeriatricOpera · 03/07/2025 15:19

Ah yes, I remember being pregnant and my nosy neighbour came out and told me all their speculation about my baby after she was born, laughing at their oh so hilarious conspiracies, especially as there was lots of people coming and going.

Until I told her that my daughters funeral was the following week.

She didn't find it so funny then.

Yes. Sometimes it’s just about it being a sad explanation. 💐. As with my grandaughter.

Still, I’m sure the neighbours etc in these situations get a lot from a gossip and laugh. 🤷‍♀️

NotPerfectlyAdverage · 03/07/2025 17:03

I think there's a time and place for nosey neighbours.

Taking in too many Virgin wine delivers? No

Concerns about kids? Yes

As a child with a children with disabilities SW you'd be shocked at high the bar is for SC. Mine didn't do anything when I phoned up in tears saying I couldn't cope anymore. Literally no follow up.

Also when my mum died I popped into her neighbours. They said they was saying how they hadn't seen her a while. They normally saw her daily. Because she was dead and rotting in the kitchen. Who knows how long she been on floor before she died.

MackenCheese · 03/07/2025 17:06

RepoTheGeriatricOpera · 03/07/2025 15:19

Ah yes, I remember being pregnant and my nosy neighbour came out and told me all their speculation about my baby after she was born, laughing at their oh so hilarious conspiracies, especially as there was lots of people coming and going.

Until I told her that my daughters funeral was the following week.

She didn't find it so funny then.

Oh, I'm so sorry sorry 😞

lindajack · 03/07/2025 17:12

That sounds really unsettling. It’s hard when you want to respect privacy but can’t ignore worrying signs—especially with a missing baby and strange behavior. Trust your instincts, and if you genuinely feel something’s off or a child might be at risk, it’s okay to contact local authorities or child services to check—better safe than sorry. Your feelings matter, and you deserve peace in your own home.

theDudesmummy · 03/07/2025 17:19

I would absolutely call SS if I was seeing a lot of a house where I believe there is a newborn baby and the baby never seems to come out. No harm done if it is looked into and there has been a tragedy or its all innocent. But it could be if there are child protection issues being missed.

TimeForABreak4 · 03/07/2025 17:23

I don't know what they are doing but I do know my ring doorbell often doesn't pick up one of us leaving if we leave within a certain time frame of other activity so the woman likely has left.

Rainbows41 · 03/07/2025 17:28

Cattery · 03/07/2025 14:48

I find it fascinating to watch what the neighbours are up to. Love trying to work it all out. My dh has no interest whatsoever. I say to him “do you not want to know who walks amongst us?” He says “no”. Strange

🤣🤣🤣

TwigletsAndRadishes · 03/07/2025 17:29

Ricepuddins · 03/07/2025 16:20

Well it’s not on purpose as I said I work from home and where I sit I can see everything, and my ring bell picks up everything too. I couldn’t care less what my neighbours do I don’t even know most of them but these people have been so strange it’s hard to not pay attention. Think of all the sad stories of children being harmed and neighbours saying they didn’t want to get involved..

I'm sorry for your loss of your beautiful baby, some people can be so heartless with assumptions.

I don’t think the baby passed, maybe it’s just me but I don’t think they’d continue as normal if the baby had?

Im not sure health visitors would come at
midnight.

laughing at the vampire comments.

I don’t think it’s drug related, I’ve never seen or smelt anything to make me consider it.

it does give the image of bodies in the garden since I read back what I wrote 😬 I hope it is all innocent but it’s impossible to know for sure. They aren’t friendly people and as I said they are very noisy and rude, I don’t think they speak English very well so communicating makes no difference.

I don’t think they speak English very well so communicating makes no difference.

I knew that was coming from the very first post.

Miyagi99 · 03/07/2025 17:34

You could phone 101 to report the unusual behaviour and your concerns.

blackbirdevensong · 03/07/2025 17:36

I'd also suggest a welfare check. Do you have any other neighbours that know them on slightly better terms, and if so, could you ask them to ask the couple?

Doseofreality · 03/07/2025 17:38

My speculation - they think you are a nosy twat and are doing it all to wind you up.

chunkybear · 03/07/2025 17:41

Sorry not read all the thread but watch The Burbs film and you may get some help 🙀🤪

fuzzyfeltfan · 03/07/2025 17:48

Can I ask if they are of non British heritage? I ask because there are a few families like this near me and they seem to live nocturnally, even taking their young dc to the supermarket at 3am. the children are never seen during the day, never play out during the lovely summer days. They also seem to have many night time visitors well into the early hours of the morning. Strange but suppose we all live differently.

TwigletsAndRadishes · 03/07/2025 17:54

fuzzyfeltfan · 03/07/2025 17:48

Can I ask if they are of non British heritage? I ask because there are a few families like this near me and they seem to live nocturnally, even taking their young dc to the supermarket at 3am. the children are never seen during the day, never play out during the lovely summer days. They also seem to have many night time visitors well into the early hours of the morning. Strange but suppose we all live differently.

That will be it, exactly.

Sugardown · 03/07/2025 17:54

You must be home the same amount as her to know she “never leaves the house”?

StrokeCity · 03/07/2025 17:55

I knew someone who used to live next door to an African family who would hold religious ceremonies around 11pm each night. They would purposedly wake their young children up to participate in them, and would sing and drum for a couple of hours. They sometimes had visitors who joined in, so my bet is this is what's happening. No idea what religion it is, would love to know

sandrafarringdon66 · 03/07/2025 17:59

@Newblackdress If my neighbour was regularly getting visits in the middle of the night from adults bringing children with them, I would report it to the police and/or social services. It is hard to think of an innocent explanation.

Super weird, and not in a good way. I would make notes of all these strange things I see (specially when there's children involved) and once I have some solid evidence of "something really not right" I would go to the police and have a chat. They could be a cult too.

Or they could be African or Arab or another culture that is completely different from yours which is perfectly normal. Don't want to sound racist but Africans are quite loud.

Gastons5dozenEggs · 03/07/2025 17:59

I think there's drugs involved

Utterlyconfusednow · 03/07/2025 17:59

Sugardown · 03/07/2025 17:54

You must be home the same amount as her to know she “never leaves the house”?

Ring door instead of movies/tv.

TaupeMember · 03/07/2025 18:00

What a surprise they've turned out to be dodgy foreigners 🙄

People going in and never coming out again?
Missing babies.
Night-time gardening in the dark?

Sure it's not you on drugs?

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