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What’s going on in my Neighbours house?

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Ricepuddins · 03/07/2025 13:35

Before I’m told to mind my own business, these neighbours are making our life hell with the noise they generate so it’s hard to not notice the strange things going on there. I work from home and my desk overlooks the close.
its a couple aged around 40 living there, they had a baby around 2 months ago but it hasn’t been seen since they came
home from hospital. I saw the woman take a car seat out recently but it was empty, it was still empty when she returned. So if there is a baby she must have left it home alone. We heard a baby cry once but it sounded like a much older baby around a year old, definitely not a newborn.
There are people coming over at midnight every day, they are very loud and don’t leave until around 2am sometimes. There are often children with them and it’s a school night. Some of the people who enter the house I don’t see leave. I have a ring doorbell that unfortunately picks up everything as our front doors face each other. There was a woman who stood out as she didn’t look anything like the couple or their family who seem to be their only visitors, she went into their house around 11 and I never saw her leave. That was a week ago.
The woman rarely leaves the house herself and I can hear her vacuuming for hours at a time. I’ve never met her and they moved in a year ago.
They do their gardening in the dark, no lights what so ever.
The man used to say hello to my husband every morning when they left for work but now he looks at the floor and doesn’t acknowledge my husband since he asked him about the noise.
not only does their constant noise affect us it’s starting to make me nervous about what sort of people they are. Mentally unwell or criminals is my guess. My husband thinks they are swingers. Although this doesn’t explain the missing newborn that has never experienced daylight.
Does anyone have any idea? Lighthearted speculation welcome. But it’s a genuine post and I don’t know if I should do anything or forget it, it’s making me uncomfortable tbh.

OP posts:
mezlou84 · 03/07/2025 15:56

You can ring 101 and tell them all of your concerns. The vacuum cleaner on for a long time could be there to cover up any sinister noises or it could be harmless. Just so many strange instances that I would want someone to check just in case if they were my neighbours. It was safer years ago because neighbours were neighbours and anything suspicious would be mentioned. Kids would play out all hours because everyone on the street watched them. If it's all innocent then you can put your mind at ease. If it isn't then you did your best to highlight what was going on

MrsAntiSocialonTheTyne · 03/07/2025 16:01

I would absolutely make on an anonymous referral to Children’s Social Care in your area. Lots of potentially worrying things - if it isn’t a worry they can explain and nothing is lost.

Tryingmum456 · 03/07/2025 16:06

This sounds so odd. Sorry I would report to social services

Vickij59 · 03/07/2025 16:08

Sounds like The Burbs (80s movie)
If you haven't watched it please do and confirm if any of that is going on 😂

HelpMeUnpickThis · 03/07/2025 16:08

RepoTheGeriatricOpera · 03/07/2025 15:19

Ah yes, I remember being pregnant and my nosy neighbour came out and told me all their speculation about my baby after she was born, laughing at their oh so hilarious conspiracies, especially as there was lots of people coming and going.

Until I told her that my daughters funeral was the following week.

She didn't find it so funny then.

@RepoTheGeriatricOpera

I am so sorry for your loss.

@Ricepuddins I know you said lighthearted but I also immediately thought that maybe their baby passed away.

AppropriateAdult · 03/07/2025 16:10

caringcarer · 03/07/2025 14:44

Very intreaguing. I'd be looking out the window waiting to see the next episode. 🤣

Oh, I think it’s clear the OP is already looking out the window 24 hours a day…

SaturdayDream · 03/07/2025 16:14

Unless you are permanently curtain twitching then you can’t possibly know there every coming and going.

I would hate to live next to someone like you who thinks they know their every move.

Lighteningstrikes · 03/07/2025 16:14

I think you’re right to be concerned. It’s not normal behaviour.

Goditsmemargaret · 03/07/2025 16:16

@RepoTheGeriatricOpera I'm so sorry for your loss. Unfortunately I did wonder if it was something like this.

NiceoneSonny · 03/07/2025 16:17

SaturdayDream · 03/07/2025 16:14

Unless you are permanently curtain twitching then you can’t possibly know there every coming and going.

I would hate to live next to someone like you who thinks they know their every move.

If her Ring doorbell picks up all the comings and goings 24 hours a day, and her work desk overlooks the close, she doesn't need to curtain twitch. In any event, it's a good job there are curtain twitchers where child welfare is concerned.

Ricepuddins · 03/07/2025 16:20

Well it’s not on purpose as I said I work from home and where I sit I can see everything, and my ring bell picks up everything too. I couldn’t care less what my neighbours do I don’t even know most of them but these people have been so strange it’s hard to not pay attention. Think of all the sad stories of children being harmed and neighbours saying they didn’t want to get involved..

I'm sorry for your loss of your beautiful baby, some people can be so heartless with assumptions.

I don’t think the baby passed, maybe it’s just me but I don’t think they’d continue as normal if the baby had?

Im not sure health visitors would come at
midnight.

laughing at the vampire comments.

I don’t think it’s drug related, I’ve never seen or smelt anything to make me consider it.

it does give the image of bodies in the garden since I read back what I wrote 😬 I hope it is all innocent but it’s impossible to know for sure. They aren’t friendly people and as I said they are very noisy and rude, I don’t think they speak English very well so communicating makes no difference.

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RepoTheGeriatricOpera · 03/07/2025 16:29

I don’t think the baby passed, maybe it’s just me but I don’t think they’d continue as normal if the baby had?

Bereaved parents still need shopping, and have appointments, and jobs. What do you think happens?

In that situation it would be 'normal' to do things at night, like have visitors, hoover for ages or do gardening, because your mind can be somewhat occupied during the day, but at night you're just left with your own thoughts.

Not saying that it is the case here, but it sounds a lot like my own experience.

Changetheguardsboots · 03/07/2025 16:30

Are you going to report to the correct authorities or not please?

BarMonaco · 03/07/2025 16:31

Pitch black gardening isn't really a thing. Does it sound like they're digging holes or something?

Imisscoffee2021 · 03/07/2025 16:32

This sounds incredibly dodgy and chikdren involved means I'd be contacting the police with the latterns you describe and have them out on their and social services radar for sure.

Jasmin71 · 03/07/2025 16:35

Please report this. You could ask for a simple welfare check regarding the baby.

PinkLeopard8 · 03/07/2025 16:36

I'm wondering if the baby or mum are unwell and they are using the vacuum to soothe the baby. It's inconsiderate to do it in the night, but it was very effective for one of my babies, I never used the vacuum at night to soothe him, but I did have it running quite often when he was young to get him off to sleep in the daytime, much to the frustration of everyone else in my household.

Maybe the visitors you have mentioned are family going to help, they are coming at antisocial hours because of shift work. If they aren't English nationals and not speak much English maybe they don't have much support.

The gardening in the middle of the night is odd.. perhaps it's either - a hobby they can partake in whilst they have their mystery visitors over to help with the baby? Or they are houseproud and don't want to neglect it?

It's a shame the baby hasn't got outside more. Does your ring doorbell cover their entire garden?

Sunshineismyfavourite · 03/07/2025 16:42

If there are kids involved in situations that concern you then I would definitely report to 111 or SS. Children being in a noisy house at 2am is a safeguarding concern. I would call 111 if I heard this. It could be something hideous or it could be something innocent.
It is our social responsibility to report these concerns involving children, not to try to fathom out what we think is happening - just report it. It could be a small piece of a large puzzle. Also police reports always go to the HT of the child's school so that is another lead for schools to follow and keep updated with if they too have concerns for a child.

Ohtobemycat · 03/07/2025 16:46

Well gardenng in the dark, people enterimg but never leaving. I think it's time to call the police... it's clearly a satanic cult where they are sacrificing adults and babies and hoovering up the evidence.

Miyagi99 · 03/07/2025 16:50

Is there a back door? I never leave my house via the front door.

herbalteabag · 03/07/2025 16:51

When I worked in a pub many years ago there were some customers who were often in there late with their children on a school night. One day, one couple just randomly decided to drive to Wales in the early hours of the morning with their child instead of going to school. It was a 6 hour drive at least. They didn't care at all about the child's welfare, they only cared about their own hedonistic lives and alcohol and drugs consumption. They also didn't feed the child properly, just bought cheap burgers.
So the fact that children are present in the middle of the night is a red flag.

PopeJoan2 · 03/07/2025 16:51

Cattery · 03/07/2025 14:48

I find it fascinating to watch what the neighbours are up to. Love trying to work it all out. My dh has no interest whatsoever. I say to him “do you not want to know who walks amongst us?” He says “no”. Strange

I hate the idea of the neighbours watching me.

A delivery guy once told me that my naeighbours reckoned they hadn’t seen me for a whole month. I had gone to ground because I was writing up my dissertation. I
was a bit miffed that no one had asked the police to do a welfare check.

Flamingoknees · 03/07/2025 16:52

What sort of gardening are they doing in the night? Mowing the lawn? Just wondering how you know they are gardening in the dark.

lifeonmars100 · 03/07/2025 16:53

I have neighbours from hell, constant noise, fly tipping, drug dealing, overcrowding, verbally abusive to me, used my address to comit fraud, broke into my back yard, wrecked the communal entry gate then broke the lock on the new one. Comings and goings and noise at all hours of the day and night. I have reported it to the police and the council and guess what it hasn't made one jot of difference. Council says there are serious issues and they are taking action, this was 2 years ago and fuck all has happened. After the most recent incident the police have said that what is going on is "unacceptable" but yet again fuck all has been done. I know that local services are under immense pressure but don't hold out hope that things will change. Do report your concerns and keep a record of everything (that is what I have done) so that at least you have proof.

Nowimhereandimlost · 03/07/2025 16:55

Please report, this sounds really strange

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