Why are there so many men on this site?

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There seems to be an increasing number of men on this website. These men appear to present themselves as straight cisgender men. This isn’t a trans issue. I don’t understand why a website that was created specifically for mums have a large number of men on it.

I understand why childfree women join as there are a lot of threads that are not about parenting. Childfree women will also use the site to get advice on TTC or miscarriage which are women exclusive, in the sense that women are the ones that give birth and also have to go through miscarriage. Men of course will experience child birth and grief but it’s the women, whose bodies have to experience this. Women have a shared experience of being a woman for example starting your period, growing breasts, TTC, miscarriage and menopause. Something that men’s body will never experience. Of course men are entitled to use this site but why should women have to put up with the men that are making sexist goady comments, which they are a lot of.

Should say this post is influenced by a man who told me to fuck off on this site after I called him out on his sexist behaviour.

It's sport to them. They think they are being clever trolling the site, poor things.

I think a lot of women have. If dads want genuine parenting advice I have no issue with that. But why comment on posts about a woman’s appearance? Hence the man I’m on about did. Just seems like an excuse to spur on the woman who made the thread making sexist comments by making his own sexist comments.

To be honest I find it more annoying that we seem to have been joined with lots of right wing bots. I can handle different view points, but when the DM thing happened it changed this site for the worse.

Op you sound like you are just looking for trouble tbh

Yup. Go on a male website. Why do you think women care?

I think google directs a-lot of traffic to mumsnet and obviously it doesn't discriminate who it sends here

Ok. Explain how I’m how I’m looking for trouble?

Oh not sure if pompous is the word I’d use…. But it wouldn’t be a flattering word Mumsnet.

Ah the bi monthly why are men on here thread. We had why is everyone a thick fucker one this morning.

We're missing one for the hat trick.

How on earth have you reached that conclusion?

Its clearly not a parenting site although it started that way

I'm female and not a parent. I come here because it's good to have a place with majority female membership and discussion. That's something I haven't found elsewhere. It's very different from e.g. Reddit and Twitter.

Oh OP you pesky woman you. Looking for trouble there… expressing an opinion. Honestly, what ARE you like?!

Good job that most of the men that post aren't cisgender men, just men.

Also the tag line when its there says by parents for parents or something similar.

Yes, PigletJohn is the exception. He's always helpful and he's not a bellend.

I pretty much peg anyone who uses the word cisgender, despite knowing it's not allowed and winds people up as someone who wants to stir up the hive.

I am male, gay, no children (I really don't like children)...I just find this site relaxing and fun. Especially when it all kicks-off, usually between the women. It's like an authentic soap-opera.

A woman expressing an opinion 😂I reckon this poster is either a man or women living pre-vote.

I'm male. I've also been here over a decade. I made an account because over the course of about 3 weeks I googled for info on a plumbing issue, some information on ISAs, and something about a holiday destination (I forget exactly what) and all 3 times I found useful info on Mumsnet.

I don't often start my own threads (although the advice I got here when DD started her first period while DP was out of the country was absolutely invaluable), but I do post on others quite frequently. Generally I don't even mention I'm male, although I will "Man here!" if its relevant. I'm a regular voice on any threads about erectile dysfunction for instance, because its something I have direct experience of that the majority of posters here won't. I also generally won't contribute to threads and topics that I reckon a male voice wouldn't be welcome in (although I've learnt a spectacular amount by being a spectator in the Feminism boards over the years.)

I do get what you mean OP that there seems to be an increase of male posters recently, and I do think thats a shame, because the fact that the majority voice here is female is what makes this site unique. And I also get that thats rather hypocritical. But as long as Mumsnet itself says I'm welcome here, then I'm going to take advantage of what is an absolutely fantastic resource.

I don't really give a shit what someone has between their legs.

What they have between their ears becomes far more apparent on most threads.

Ok, so out of everything I said, including a man telling me to fuck off, your issue is cis-gender? I don’t think this thread is for you if you can’t understand the point. Byeee 👋🏾

So because you've been challenged, the person must be a man (again the worst thing someone can be accused of on here!!)

Quite honestly, a huge amount of posters on here are idiots, me included, so why men get singled out for being the same I dont know.

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Aren't women so FUN!

They are.

I skip the posts that are written by men, there seems to be a theme of men slagging off their ex partners or writing explicit posts about sex. No thank you