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Why are there so many men on this site?

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19ptrialprice · 01/07/2025 21:32

There seems to be an increasing number of men on this website. These men appear to present themselves as straight cisgender men. This isn’t a trans issue. I don’t understand why a website that was created specifically for mums have a large number of men on it.

I understand why childfree women join as there are a lot of threads that are not about parenting. Childfree women will also use the site to get advice on TTC or miscarriage which are women exclusive, in the sense that women are the ones that give birth and also have to go through miscarriage. Men of course will experience child birth and grief but it’s the women, whose bodies have to experience this. Women have a shared experience of being a woman for example starting your period, growing breasts, TTC, miscarriage and menopause. Something that men’s body will never experience. Of course men are entitled to use this site but why should women have to put up with the men that are making sexist goady comments, which they are a lot of.

Should say this post is influenced by a man who told me to fuck off on this site after I called him out on his sexist behaviour.

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Goldenbear · 07/07/2025 20:22

330ml · 01/07/2025 21:49

I don’t understand why a website that was created specifically for mums have a large number of men on it.

This where you are going wrong. This website wasn’t created specifically for mums.

I'm not a mum - can still I join Mumsnet?
We hope Mumsnet isn't exclusive to mums and indeed we know we have a number of dads who log on and contribute. If it doesn't sound too pompous we think the concept of “mumming/mothering” goes beyond gender so don't feel Mumsnet is too exclusive. We did think of calling the site parentsnet.com but it just sounded so hideous.

https://www.mumsnet.com/i/faqs#:~:text=We%20do%20have%20Dadsnet%20specifically,having%20a%20male%20joining%20in.

Back in the day I don't recall seeing that statement, I thought the idea behind Mumsnet was very much about being a Mum.

pressthreelines · 07/07/2025 20:25

SpuytenDuyvil · 07/07/2025 19:31

This thread is not about the sex topics. It's about why men colonize this mainly woman space. See above.

It is interesting that the men who have replied have basically said sexsexsexwhyaminotgettingmoresexsex

TooBigForMyBoots · 07/07/2025 21:02

Eric1964 · 07/07/2025 14:55

One of the reasons I'm here is because a brilliant forum I was on, aimed at men, folded. It was called something like "Married Man Sex Life", obviously centred around sex within relationships, and was based in the US. A feature that made it so good was that it was heavily moderated: despite it being used mainly by men who were unhappy with their sex lives within an established relationship, there were very strict rules: no whingeing, no disrespect towards women, no promotion of infidelity, etc etc. These rules were strongly enforced. Unfortunately, the guy running it became ill and decided he couldn't maintain it. There were women on that site, and their comments and perspective were always valued. I came to MN to discuss what I'd been discussing on that site and have found MN to be pretty good, on the whole. If the rules changed and men were no longer allowed here, I'd leave without complaint. I appreciate all the feedback I've had from people (mainly women) here but I understand the annoyance some feel about the presence of men.

Thank you for making your contribution and proving at least one(?) of my points.
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SpuytenDuyvil · 07/07/2025 22:07

@TooBigForMyBoots Exactly.

TheAutumnCrow · 07/07/2025 22:45

SpuytenDuyvil · 07/07/2025 22:07

@TooBigForMyBoots Exactly.

Double exactly.

ranthanbore · 08/07/2025 00:26

Eric1964 · 07/07/2025 18:14

And another thing....

Sorry, I fell to ponderin'. One of the threads I've contributed to here is the Sexless Marriage Support Thread. If there were a similar thread on Dadsnet (which I didn't actually know existed) I don't think I'd learn anything from it. A load of blokes, moaning. However, listening to women's stories actually teaches me something - mainly that a woman in a sexless relationship feels just as bereft as a man. So, whaddya know! We've got something in common!

More generally, for every contribution I make, I read ten or more posts from women, and that can only be a good thing.

Read the room Eric.

Disturbia81 · 09/07/2025 20:19

ranthanbore · 08/07/2025 00:26

Read the room Eric.

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Nagginthenag · 11/07/2025 10:33

I've been reading a few politics threads over the ladt couple of days, and enjoyed myself playing 'spot the bloke'.

PapaPerspective · 12/07/2025 21:59

Disturbia81 · 09/07/2025 20:19

😂👌🏼

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