What’s the most controversial opinion you hold?

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Do you want to share any opinions you have that are (or may be) seen as controversial?

Mine are probably around the severity of criminal punishment the courts should be giving out for certain crimes and what kids should do in the event of physical violence from peers. Both subjects can be quite provoking for others.

What are yours?

Most people say this because they weren’t able to breastfeed themselves and they are bitter.

Do you also think that men should be forced to have a vasectomy if they father more than, let's say, 3 children and leave/don't pay for them?

I wouldn't say it's exclusively an autistic trait, but I agree with you.
I think the dysphoria felt is to do with how the brain of someone who is autistic is developed in utero.

Send men down the mines and give them all a curfew.

Oh here’s a controversial one: part of the reason why maternity services are struggling is because people don’t manage to go through labour and birth the way they used to approach it, because of modern life and modern society where it’s all about comfort and me me me

I doubt anyone knew. I didn’t do it in public. Even if he’d felt the need to discuss his bedtime routine with his friends (I can’t imagine he would though - he mainly liked to talk about superheroes, football and poo at that age) then he would just say “then I have milky before I go to bed”.

He is 12 now and doesn’t really remember anything from that age (he had a really lovely teacher who he adored but he doesn’t remember her at all 😢) although I have probably told him. He likes “when I was little” stories.

Like I say - it really wasn’t a big deal. I planned to stop around the time he turned 2 (as I did with his sister) but he felt very strongly he wanted to continue and his desire to continue was stronger than my desire to stop. (I might have re-thought if I had known just how many fillings my - up until then - pretty perfect teeth would need over the last few years. Apparently 9 years of calcium deficiency - pregnancy, breastfeeding, pregnancy, more breastfeeding - is not great for the old teeth.)

Dogs are domesticated though, they wouldn’t survive in the wild - not that that’s a counter argument in itself, but it’s either dogs as pets or v few dogs at all.

I have a controversial autism opinion. I’m autistic, as are my children, most of my family and friends.

I used to go by the theory that only autistic people are on the autism spectrum, but I’ve changed my mind.

I think far more people in the population have the genetic potential to be autistic, but if they somehow make it through school ok and find themselves in careers/friend groups/families where they can thrive they’ll never know. There are more and more of us diagnosed now and seeking diagnosis because modern life is getting harder and harder to cope with. I predict that in 5/10 years if we carry on on the same trajectory there’ll be far more seeking diagnosis (and far more posts here about the problem with overdiagnosis 😏).

This plays into a previous comment about having separate diagnoses for severely autistic people who need 24/7 care and those who can kind of muddle through.

What's fun about a controversial thread if it doesn't cause some types of discussion?

Just opinion after opinion isn't fun.

My controversial opinion… children cant refuse to eat anything but smiley faces and chicken nuggets if they were never fed them in the first place. Kids eating poor quality food with low/no nutritional value is completely on the parents.

We would all be better off if we collectively rejected social media. I think evidence will come out (it already is) that shows that it is bad for our brain. I hope this happens one day and we all retreat back into growing real life communities and nobody will be too busy scrolling on their phones to pick up the phone when a friend is calling.

Yep. The diagnosis of Classic Kanners Autism has always stood my 33 year old son in very good stead and anyone who tries to get me to use a different term can stick it up their bum.

‘Influencers’ that share their children on their social media pages are shit parents.
there should be laws about monetising from them.

This is an excellent idea.

It could be forced to have a pill implant though, so if they turn their lives around they could come off it.

I’d make it after 2.

This could fly..

Yup totally agree!

Or couldn’t be bothered to breastfeed and don’t want to have to feel guilty about it

Really? My kitten doesn’t cry daily for his mum. And she is having a well deserved rest after being used for breeding endless litters of kittens until she was eventually abandoned. He doesn’t belong to us. He’s part of our family. Comes up to us for endless lap cuddles and purrs constantly. Definitely not traumatised by his experience in our home.

Phase them out and let the rats and mice spread diseases then they can wring their hands and woe is me about what to do about them if only there was a natural predator to keep them in line....oh wait we let them die out

"But songbirds" humans and their land grabs have done more to decimate birds than cats because we rip down the trees they used to be able to fly up to yes cats can climb but the average well fed cat goes after easy prey they won't bother chasing a bird in a tree when they can grab a mouse in a bush 😉

And turn the fucking Internet off.

I never understand the people who voluntarily join a greatly enjoyable but hardly essential-to-life internet forum, and then bang on about how we should switch off the internet.

It's a bit like fulminating on how evil it is for humans to eat animals, and how it shouldn't be allowed, whilst tucking into a juicy steak.

My elderly MIL would be quite content to see the internet turned off, but she isn't a hypocrite and doesn't use it except for essential purposes where there's absolutely no alternative (usually with a bit of help). Even she doesn't rail against other people being able to use it, though.

No one has the right to have a child, fertility treatment shouldn’t be funded on the NHS.

Humans are the worst animals on Earth and the sooner we are extinct, the better off the planet will be.

Until then, I'd like all paedo's and rapist's cock and balls routinely smashed between two fucking huge bricks.

Being a SAHM is not a "job".
Having a joint bank account with your spouse doesn't make you more of "a team" than those who have separate finances.
Womens football is shit.

I don't like dogs and don't think they should be allowed inside places that serve food.

I think the vast majority of women are misogynists too and are blind to it.

I recently saw a psychiatrist say there is both an under and over diagnosis problem. It's a tale as old as time - those who have the means will get a private diagnosis, those who don't, or don't realise due to lack of awareness or resources, won't - and some of those kids will really need one.