Actually you would find that most people with disabilities support proper reform based on tangible consultation and based on medical expertise. Too many people are living without the support that they should be entitled to because the system is too hard, or the DWP assessors know better than the horde of medical professionals working with an individual over years. The problems cut both ways. Nobody is going to deny that a small number of people play the system - it would be stupid to because we do come across them. But balance that against the people who can't and I think you would find that there are more who aren't getting benefits they should be entitled to than getting benefits they shouldn't be entitled to.
But I am going to disagree with you - if it isn't hatred it is hard to find a better word. The vitriol, misinformation and lies about our benefits are excessive, and not seen against anyone else else receiving publically funded benefits such as childcare. Look at all the helpful threads about how desperately someone earning £100,000+ needs childcare money because they managed to give birth. There aren't 3 threads a day just on the unemployed or decrying excessive childcare benefits - it appears that only people with disabilities who are unemployed (when many of us aren't) are the problem. If it were only MN then I'd put it down to simply keyboard warriors, but actually the world might be politer about it, but until you have lived with a disability you really don't get it. At best we are invisible - even when HIGHLY visible. Slam the door in my face because I am too slow, put your bin in the middle of the pavement blocking my scooter, and another thousand obstacles and barriers every single day. If not hatred, it's complete disregard of our existence - which is just as offensive and hurtful. Yes people will know someone with a disability. Most of the people posting vitriol on these boards will. They don't care.
But you know what? I have worked all my life, retiring last year. I have paid huge amounts of tax and still pay tax. I also worked in public service, with the most disadvantaged and vulnerable in society across the world. For the latter part of that time, after being injured in the line of duty, I have continued to work due to the PIP and a supportive employer. I am not wealthy, and my PIP enables me to have a life. My car enables me to get out and have some social life despite that being very restricted now. It enables me to also have a mobility scooter. And to have the heating on in winter. It's small potatoes for the daily pain I have, which there is nothing doctors can now do about it; or for the fact that my legs won't support me after a few minutes standing due to spinal damage. I now volunteer using my skills and experience to support the vulnerable and make a positive contribution to society. I can volunteer because I have PIP!
Despite all this, I no longer care. My PIP is now safe. So is that of the majority of people trying to explain to you all just what living with disability is like - whether or not you are able to work. I would wish for a fairer and better system, but I'll be damned if I am going to do anything about that now. You know why? Because it isn't going to happen, and the people who will be getting exactly what they want - disabled people living in poverty - will actually be the people that get what they want, literally. What people seem to have missed is that it isn't just us fighting for us. We were also fighting for you. For those not currently disabled. Because over the next years many of you will be the ones depending on the benefits that you are rubbishing. These are not nuanced debates - they are attacks. The message is clear - pay for childcare, pay for tax cuts, pay for what "I want", and to hell with people who are disabled. One day, the chances are that the disabled person will be all of you, and there will be no support, no benefits and nobody left to fight for you.