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British men in hot weather

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gerispringer · 19/06/2025 14:58

Why do ( some) Brits ( men) strip off their tops the moment the sun is out? I don't want to see sunburnt beer bellies, multiple tats and baggy nylon shorts wandering around the supermarket. Men in France and Italy where its much hotter for longer wouldn’ t do this. Smart shorts and a polo shirt much nicer.

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Daffodilsarefading · 19/06/2025 20:01

I don’t live near the coast but have had the unfortunate experience of passing several out of shape, pink, bald, scruffy looking men walk past me in the town centre as I finished work. Non of them wearing sandals or anything you would class as summer footwear.
Strangely all the women I passed seem able to keep their clothes on.

sualipa · 19/06/2025 20:03

KPPlumbing · 19/06/2025 15:41

Men staggering about topless, severely sunburnt and 5-pints deep, is a vital element of British culture which we must protect. It's as British as cucumber sandwiches.

WeRGammon

Goldenbear · 19/06/2025 20:04

Daffodilsarefading · 19/06/2025 20:01

I don’t live near the coast but have had the unfortunate experience of passing several out of shape, pink, bald, scruffy looking men walk past me in the town centre as I finished work. Non of them wearing sandals or anything you would class as summer footwear.
Strangely all the women I passed seem able to keep their clothes on.

I think that is a bold look in a non coastal area.

yakkity · 19/06/2025 20:11

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Greenfields20 · 19/06/2025 20:13

Daffodilsarefading · 19/06/2025 19:56

Women wearing skimpy clothing is not the same as going topless.
I don’t wander around Tescos with my tits out, so I really, really don’t want to see some fat, scruffy minging man doing it.
It shouldn’t make any difference what sex you are. Men have sexualised women’s breasts.

And what if the man is not fat, scruffy and minging with a pair of tits?

MyHouseInThePrairie · 19/06/2025 21:06

Greenfields20 · 19/06/2025 20:13

And what if the man is not fat, scruffy and minging with a pair of tits?

Still not ok.

Fwiw these behaviours (esp from tourists) have become so bad countries/towns have actually had to put laws in place to say that going round topless (yes fir men too) isn’t lawful.

Thetes no need for that all.

Greenfields20 · 19/06/2025 21:14

MyHouseInThePrairie · 19/06/2025 21:06

Still not ok.

Fwiw these behaviours (esp from tourists) have become so bad countries/towns have actually had to put laws in place to say that going round topless (yes fir men too) isn’t lawful.

Thetes no need for that all.

Thanks but it was the other poster I was asking

BatchCookBabe · 19/06/2025 21:24

LSTMS30555 · 19/06/2025 18:02

Oh look another British bashing thread.

why do people who hate the British & hate the country not fuck off elsewhere? That’s what I want to know; not asking stupid fucking question like why someone would remove their top on a boiling hot day 🤨

100% this! ^

DillyBonks · 19/06/2025 21:31

I’ve learnt my lesson.

The other day I was cleaning and wearing a pair of crappy shorts and T shirt with my hair in a scrunchy. I then thought f*ck it, I need to go to Tesco, no one is going to see me.

Well, it was like “This Is Your Life” when I got there. People from my new job, friends, people from my hobby. They all looked shocked as I’m normally quite polished and I looked like Waynetta Slob.

Goldenbear · 19/06/2025 21:44

DillyBonks · 19/06/2025 21:31

I’ve learnt my lesson.

The other day I was cleaning and wearing a pair of crappy shorts and T shirt with my hair in a scrunchy. I then thought f*ck it, I need to go to Tesco, no one is going to see me.

Well, it was like “This Is Your Life” when I got there. People from my new job, friends, people from my hobby. They all looked shocked as I’m normally quite polished and I looked like Waynetta Slob.

Edited

😄, that always happens to me especially when I nip out at lunchtime when WFH as I wear very casual clothes. Also have covered up massive black rings under my eyes as working late and get asked if I'm ok by some in that tone that is genuinely worried for your welfare!!

waffleyversatile1 · 19/06/2025 22:23

DillyBonks · 19/06/2025 21:31

I’ve learnt my lesson.

The other day I was cleaning and wearing a pair of crappy shorts and T shirt with my hair in a scrunchy. I then thought f*ck it, I need to go to Tesco, no one is going to see me.

Well, it was like “This Is Your Life” when I got there. People from my new job, friends, people from my hobby. They all looked shocked as I’m normally quite polished and I looked like Waynetta Slob.

Edited

This is your life GrinGrin

ruethewhirl · 19/06/2025 22:53

Daffodilsarefading · 19/06/2025 20:01

I don’t live near the coast but have had the unfortunate experience of passing several out of shape, pink, bald, scruffy looking men walk past me in the town centre as I finished work. Non of them wearing sandals or anything you would class as summer footwear.
Strangely all the women I passed seem able to keep their clothes on.

Not sure having to see men in sandals is much of an improvement, personally...

mathanxiety · 20/06/2025 02:40

Goldenbear · 19/06/2025 17:54

Are you really arguing that Americans are all classy dressers and no strap less tops are ever worn, in fact, did Americans not event the notion of the permanently casual wear.

No, Im not arguing any such thing.

What I'm saying is that Americans can deal with heat and humidity without indulging in performance toplessness, and those who can't will be denied admittance to a business premises.

Also, there's a difference between casual clothing and strapless tops/ toplessness. Casual clothing is classy more often than not. Strapless tops and shirtlessness are not.

We are anticipating temps of about 100°F here for the next few days, or at least the high 90s. I guarantee I will not see anyone wearing a tube/ strapless top or going shirtless.

Daffodilsarefading · 20/06/2025 07:51

It’s still not ok if the bloke looks like he’s stepped out of filming a Hollywood blockbuster. However, the day I see a male who I would regard as beautiful behaving like the uncouth slobs who wander about the centre of town topless, is the day I will walk around topless too. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
HTH.
Thus is why the British have a terrible reputation abroad.

Daffodilsarefading · 20/06/2025 07:59

The sandals comment was pointing out the fact that if they are that hot, then they would be wearing summer shoes, which they don’t. I’ve seen them in heavy footwear and socks.
A few years ago we were abroad and my dcs made friends with a German boy. The boy told his family we were an English. The dad told him he was wrong, that we could not possibly be English. None of us are mixed race. I gather we didn’t fit the stereotypical image. Quite grim really.

HangingOver · 20/06/2025 08:08

YouWillFindMeInTheGarden · 19/06/2025 19:18

I work in a men’s prison and they are not allowed out of cell without a top on….even on the wings right now where it’s stifling… most are ok with that rule

Oooh would you do an AMA?

Toastedpickle · 20/06/2025 09:45

I’m in air conditioned IKEA enjoying my free coffee, and there’s a guy here just arrived for breakfast minus his top.

Bababear987 · 20/06/2025 11:05

Shenmen · 19/06/2025 18:06

Wow. What a hideously snobby comment. Whilst I don't like the look, loads of blokes do it around here l and loads of them are decent. You sound horrendous. I know who I would prefer to live near!^^

I'd honestly rather be a snob than be married to a man with beer belly, tats and boobs out who spends half his time sweating down the pub

Shenmen · 20/06/2025 11:09

Bababear987 · 20/06/2025 11:05

I'd honestly rather be a snob than be married to a man with beer belly, tats and boobs out who spends half his time sweating down the pub

Are those the only options?
So one can with be a snob or married to a fat, topless man. It's worse than snog, marry, avoid.

I seem to have failed this life by marrying a working class man that keeps himself in a trim way, has no moobs or tatts.

YYURYYUCICYYUR4ME · 20/06/2025 11:25

Not seeing it locally, but they've always been bellies and bum cracks in the wilds of our streets, so maybe I no longer notice. However, I am seeing babies with limbs hanging out in the sun and children that seem a bit pink. Display your body as you like, just be sun aware.

K0OLA1D · 20/06/2025 11:56

Shenmen · 20/06/2025 11:09

Are those the only options?
So one can with be a snob or married to a fat, topless man. It's worse than snog, marry, avoid.

I seem to have failed this life by marrying a working class man that keeps himself in a trim way, has no moobs or tatts.

Ive got a wc man, no belly or boob's, but he does have tats and he does take his top off in the garden/camping/ the beach!

tobee · 20/06/2025 12:22

All this stuff about "they need their tops off it is hot" is ridiculous and doesn't survive light scrutiny. It's perfectly possible to not go topless in any weather for any person. It's only been a recent thing comparatively speaking.

The worst is someone on a packed tube wearing a vest top, holding a hand rail and glistening drops of sweat pouring off their hairy pits. But at least a vest top is better than nothing.

How is it exactly justifiable in any way to say "yeah men can do this but not women"; we're all experiencing the same weather

GoodVibesHere · 20/06/2025 12:39

BoudiccaRuled · 19/06/2025 16:42

I don't love seeing overweight women in strappy tops, wobbling all over the place either, but nobody's perfect.

At least they've got a top on though?

I hate seeing men's hairy belly button holes when I'm popping in to Tesco's to get my lunch. Peuk.

twilighteaser · 20/06/2025 12:50

Here in Italy some local councils have specific regulations that prohibit walking around without a shirt in certain areas, especially for reasons of 'decorum', such as in beach resorts or areas with a high influx of children. You can get a fine for it of up to €500- It is seen a very ill mannered to enter a restaurant with no top on or just in a bikini or costume. Flip Flops are for the beach only and are illegal to drive in, as are all shoes with no backs.

TheAmusedQuail · 20/06/2025 13:13

The only time I find seeing someone else's nipples acceptable is if they're children and therefore sweet and innocent, or a woman feeding her baby. Otherwise keep 'em covered. Urgh. I'm no prude (the stuff I've been up to would make hair curl) but unless it's a beach or a pool where everyone is partially dressed, cover 'em up!

Blokes wouldn't want to see MY elderly saggy nipples/boobs so I defo don't want to see theires.