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Owner of Tattle Life named

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BeardofHagrid · 13/06/2025 18:18

The owner of hate forum Tattle Life has today been legally named as Sebastian Bond. He also goes by the alias Bastian Durward. He has tried to flee to Asia to avoid paying his legal costs.

https://goss.ie/featured/everything-we-know-about-the-owner-of-tattle-life-as-he-is-finally-named-423238

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ThatCyanCat · 14/06/2025 09:14

theyallwent · 14/06/2025 07:53

Lol at the mods being quick to act.

They always have been in my experience, including the time I unwittingly broke a rule myself (nothing to do with being rude to posters). I was surprised because it was nighttime in America.

LemonTT · 14/06/2025 09:18

The issue with Social Media is that allows huge numbers of people to instantly post anything and it will get read and shared and commented on. The reach on the big forums is way beyond Tattle and MN. They can’t or won’t police the content and users find lots of ways to defeat tools searching for hate, abuse and incitement.

There will be people posting here and there and everywhere who are doing so with deliberate malice and bad intentions. There will be delusional and manipulative people who use forums to perpetuate their self constructed narrative about themselves, because everyone in the real world has figured them out. There are vulnerable, angry and emotionally unintelligent people who react and respond to malicious posts who have their bias and ignorance validated.

There are definitely people on Tattle whose behaviour is as awful as the people they criticise. There is a hive mentality and pile on culture here and on Tattle - it is a byproduct of all mass social media.

Tattle was sued because they didn’t act to moderate in a lawful way. In other words they didn’t take down posts they should have when it was brought to their attention the posts were unlawful. They got their moderation wrong.

Really people need to think about their own behaviour on here and elsewhere. Ask yourself are your piling on, having your bias and prejudice reinforced, taking part in a pointless and divisive debate about something you know nothing about or just outright arguing the toss with a stranger - who is definitely winding you up.

theyallwent · 14/06/2025 09:22

DundeeCake58 · 14/06/2025 08:59

I don’t know if the tragedy you’re referring to is my cousin, the situation I’ve mentioned in an earlier post, but if not it seems anyone going through the agony of losing a child is fair game for them.

Id have to go back and look at the obituaries to see if that’s where donations in her daughters memory were to be sent.

It’s odd that over two years after this happened you’re still bringing it up on MN. I believe that your ‘cousin’ had a daughter who died in hospital. The posting history was suspect though and it wasn’t only Tattle who thought it was fishy.

People do have long, endless threads about terminal illness themselves or terminally ill loved ones that emerge to be a pack of lies. That’s been the case time and time again. In this case the actual event may have been true but there were a number of oddities in the posting history which people are super alert to because of the history around the ‘I’m dying / my relative is dying’ threads. That isn’t a tattle thing, it’s an internet thing.

As for the tattle mods I’ve no doubt they are super effective if a poster breaks a rule. They ignore children’s appearances being ripped apart through which is purportedly against the rules.

baggybags · 14/06/2025 09:29

speculating about all sorts and making pretty wild accusations. I

the threads on here about Nicola Bully were outrageous. It was like some people desperately wanted it to be a crazed murderer or blame the husband.

pimplebum · 14/06/2025 09:29

Can you explain please what is tattle life and what is the significance of the author being named?

FreeRider · 14/06/2025 09:31

TERFlawnBOY · 14/06/2025 00:33

If you want an example of how disgusting it is, check out the Katie Price thread. It’s full of nasty posts about her kids, including Harvey!

KP is obviously no angel, but her children are totally off-limits; they never asked to be (in)famous! How could any adult justify laughing at a disabled kid who can’t defend themselves?

Harvey Price is a 23 year old man, not a kid. Katie Price's two youngest children - who were taken off her for neglect - are rarely mentioned.

baggybags · 14/06/2025 09:31

People on here choose to be on here and choose to post any of their problems they are having, knowing they may get backlash. They can also decide not to come on. People on Tattle being posted about haven't chosen it, they haven't chosen for obsessed stalkers to tear their life to shreds

Donald Trump, Meghan Markle, Prince Harry choose to be on MNs?

cigarsmokingwoman · 14/06/2025 09:33

I thought I was the only one who found Georgia Tennant fkn irritating until I found similar people on Tattle. Same with the Marsh family.
I don't use it much but I don't think its a bad site.

DeepLimeBird · 14/06/2025 09:34

I found out my next door neighbours weren’t quite the wholesome family they make out to be through tattle. Stashing guns and dealing heroin.

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 14/06/2025 09:36

pimplebum · 14/06/2025 09:29

Can you explain please what is tattle life and what is the significance of the author being named?

It's a website
I believe who the owner of the website is has always been a bit of a mystery. I don't know why but I think it's not been easy to find.

That's the impression I've got from previous threads on here. It may not be correct though. But from the article linked to in the op it appears there was some sort of legal tussle to get the right to name him.

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 14/06/2025 09:37

Allswellthatendswelll · 14/06/2025 08:45

But they are choosing to be influencers and sometimes share a worrying amount of info about their children online to strangers.

Not saying this means there should be nastiness/ stalking. I (guiltily) enjoy the eye rolling at/ piss taking of certain influencers on tattle. Obviously the vitriol and trying to work out where they live is derranged!

⬆️ this.

baggybags · 14/06/2025 09:43

People do lie & if you have bought into that lie and believed it, then discovering lies makes some get very hurt and angry.

BIWI · 14/06/2025 09:48

Fupoffyagrasshole · 13/06/2025 20:42

Everyone on tattle is only being mean about people who post their lives in public

they users are mostly very nice to each other

unlike this site where people are vile and nasty to other users.

Not true. They have been completely and utterly vile about me. One user even wished physical harm on me.

Whatacircus · 14/06/2025 09:49

baggybags · 14/06/2025 09:31

People on here choose to be on here and choose to post any of their problems they are having, knowing they may get backlash. They can also decide not to come on. People on Tattle being posted about haven't chosen it, they haven't chosen for obsessed stalkers to tear their life to shreds

Donald Trump, Meghan Markle, Prince Harry choose to be on MNs?

It's more contained on here but equally vicious. Wander on the royal family section and some posters are batshit. Even those that regularly name change are easily identifiable. All rumours, even the most outrageous, especially about Meghan very quickly transcend to being the truth, the whole truth etc. Most threads in that section are about her and her family such is the obsession.
To be fair, Trump only has to open his mouth to draw attention to himself. Someone with his power has to be open to scrutiny.

Mummy2Sienna · 14/06/2025 10:05

It was a while ago so I can’t remember the details but it was definitely an NHS service or charity. The people on tattle were absolutely gleeful that they’d found ‘proof’ it was all a scam, despite the fact that they’d actuallly proved that the daughter really did die and it wasn’t all lies as they’d been insisting.

oh and to the poster above who said the story was ‘full of holes’, er, no it wasn’t! Just clearly a mother going through absolute anguish.

there is an account on instagram that outs tattle users and it’s actually quite sad to see who these people really are but I guess unsurprising. You’d have to have some things seriously wrong with your life to need to spend so much of it pointlessly posting about people you will never meet. It does make me feel a lot better about myself though so there is that!

Codlingmoths · 14/06/2025 10:08

baggybags · 14/06/2025 09:31

People on here choose to be on here and choose to post any of their problems they are having, knowing they may get backlash. They can also decide not to come on. People on Tattle being posted about haven't chosen it, they haven't chosen for obsessed stalkers to tear their life to shreds

Donald Trump, Meghan Markle, Prince Harry choose to be on MNs?

Why on earth would you list trump? He’s destroyed countless lives, separated thousands of children from their parents many never to find them again, and signed a death sentence for thousands with his aids cuts. There isn’t enough nasty to say about him, on any site anywhere.

brunettemic · 14/06/2025 10:13

CocoLocoPocoMoco · 13/06/2025 20:39

I’ve never been personally victimised here - and I’m talking ‘in real life’ situations where my safety has been a concern. I have from tattle. Mumsnet hasn’t made me suicidal. Tattle has.

That’s like saying “[insert name of something bad] hasn’t happened to me so it’s ok”. I’ve never been punched in the face in a bar but doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen.

baggybags · 14/06/2025 10:16

Why on earth would you list trump?

So it's ok to tear apart someone who is a bad person or has done bad things? I think Trump is awful but does that mean it's ok to pick his appearance apart whereas I think it's wrong to do it to Meghan?

baggybags · 14/06/2025 10:18

I mean people were on here wishing Trump had been shot. Is that ok because he is a bad person? Posters have said it was ok to murder Brian Thompson because of his job? Is that fair on his loved ones?

baggybags · 14/06/2025 10:22

there is an account on instagram that outs tattle users and it’s actually quite sad to see who these people really are but I guess unsurprising. You’d have to have some things seriously wrong with your life to need to spend so much of it pointlessly posting about people you will never meet.

Who is behind the instragram account? Are they posting about people they have never met? Whats the difference?

I only discovered Tattle after that midwife influencer scandal. I didn't see any difference on the threads here and there.

DundeeCake58 · 14/06/2025 10:34

It’s odd that over two years after this happened you’re still bringing it up on MN

There’s nothing odd about it at all. I bring it up every time there is a thread on the vileness of Tattle (and the posters who were going between the 2 sites) but I can understand why you’d like it to be just a shameful memory never to be mentioned again if you had any part in the vile behaviour.

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 14/06/2025 10:37

baggybags · 14/06/2025 10:22

there is an account on instagram that outs tattle users and it’s actually quite sad to see who these people really are but I guess unsurprising. You’d have to have some things seriously wrong with your life to need to spend so much of it pointlessly posting about people you will never meet.

Who is behind the instragram account? Are they posting about people they have never met? Whats the difference?

I only discovered Tattle after that midwife influencer scandal. I didn't see any difference on the threads here and there.

That's the unmasked one, isn't it?

baggybags · 14/06/2025 10:38

@Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast the one posting on it herself and trolling other ones or something.

adviceneeded1990 · 14/06/2025 10:40

MyRootinTootinBaby · 14/06/2025 07:56

I think it’s fair to disagree with information etc, but it’s how personal it gets on there. I’ve seen them calling kids ugly and giving them horrific nicknames etc. Obviously the influencers shouldn’t be showing their kids, but it’s not the kids’ fault and it’s hypocritical to act concerned for showing kids but then to tear the kids apart too - shouldn’t say “don’t expose your kids because we’ll attack them”.

Yeah I agree, I don’t think anyone should be being negative about the children because they haven’t asked to be exposed online. Unfortunately though lots of them do expose kids in a way that they are going to be targeted in real life - Part Time Working Mummy, for example, who I know has a particularly nasty tattle thread, tells everyone about her children’s periods and cycle lengths and that her teen stepson went to an STI clinic and uses the pull out method and her teen daughter gets BV. None of those things are reasons to name call anyone but imagine the other people at school or college or your part time job knowing that about you. I strongly believe sharing under 18s on an open profile should be banned, as should sharing private information about anyone, your children or not!

baggybags · 14/06/2025 10:42

I do think it's wrong to criticise dc and some of the comments you see on the Beckham kids here and the Daily Mail are awful but why do parents expose their dc to this criticism, I have no idea. Most famous people keep their dc out of the spotlight.