Owner of Tattle Life named

[BeardofHagrid]

The owner of hate forum Tattle Life has today been legally named as Sebastian Bond. He also goes by the alias Bastian Durward. He has tried to flee to Asia to avoid paying his legal costs.

https://goss.ie/featured/everything-we-know-about-the-owner-of-tattle-life-as-he-is-finally-named-423238

Lol at the mods being quick to act.

Nope. Don't try to accuse me of being misogynistic. That's projection 😂 I'm just sane enough to realise both godawful men and women exist. (And since you were replying about this thread, they were pretty obviously women.)

Blaming the other person/gender for your own bad behaviour is something 6 year olds do and yet is something I see a lot on Mumsnet

I think it’s fair to disagree with information etc, but it’s how personal it gets on there. I’ve seen them calling kids ugly and giving them horrific nicknames etc. Obviously the influencers shouldn’t be showing their kids, but it’s not the kids’ fault and it’s hypocritical to act concerned for showing kids but then to tear the kids apart too - shouldn’t say “don’t expose your kids because we’ll attack them”.

Yes, a pearl clutching thread about Tattle and how 'vile' it is appears at least every few months.

I don't have a Tattle account but I do occasionally enjoy reading the discussions there. Some of them can be brutal, but as an above poster said, unlike here the posters are usually nice to one another. I don't see the passive aggressive 'Well you sound nice!' or 'Have a word with yourself!' that you get here. Nor have I seen entire threads derailed so that posters can throw insults at each other.

Tattle is more honest in its bitchiness, if that makes any sense.

Is there anyone in the public eye that they don’t call out? A stopped clock is right twice a day.

They had info on people long before it made the press - Schofield and Huw Edwards being two.

Because it's targeting specific people relentlessly. This is an anonymous site. No one can tear apart someone's looks, body, kids, clothes, call their work to report them, call social services or kids school, look up their turnover on companies house, post their home/kids school address, slag their kids and call them brats.

They can probably see your IP address so if you did something illegal I suppose the police could trace where it was posted from. Also, some people probably only have an email address with their name in it and sign up with that one.

Given that the poster told us that the experience of being posted about left her feeling suicidal, I would probably be a bit more sensitive about digging into why or what people posted. It sounded like a really awful experience.

Utterly deluded, and misogynistic, you poor thing. I’m not blaming any gender because I honestly couldn’t give a toss about a Tattle thread, that made you very upset. I was stating that there are men on Tattle. That is a FACT.

slag their kids and call them brats.
😂😂😂😂

That happens on every other thread. For a parenting site MN hates anyone else's kids.

There have been many brutal threads, mainly on S&B where a poster has put up a picture of their new outfit and has their arse handed to them. Often with delightful comments about their weight/appearance that they didn't even ask options on.

And whilst no, people can't ring SS directly on someone on here there is often threads where some is posting judgement about another mums parenting choices (nothing abusive, just different) and being egged on to call SS.

I like MN and tattle', I've been here for years, have had some excellent advice and support at times and often roar with laughter at some of the epically witty women posting. But let's not pretend that it's some delightfully utopian safe space because like anywhere on the internet it is not.

Tattle is more honest in its bitchiness, if that makes any sense.

It does @IcedPurple and I agree with you.

@SardinesOnGingerbread we dont know what's true or what's not on quite a lot of the internet

I think MN & Tattle can be just as bad as each other - especially certain threads.

I’ve been on Tattle for years, but I’m more of a silent reader. Depends what you are interested it, it can be an incredibly supportive place or just total disgusting hellhole.
The General section is brilliant for discussing any topic or getting some advice and users are really nice and supportive to each other, respecting each others opinions.
Influencer section however…I occasionally follow one influencer family only because my baby and theirs was born with 2 week difference and the things they say about that little kid are sometimes purely disgusting.
They call him goblin, dwarf, discussing how ugly he is - nothing to do with their parents or their parenting way. And it’s done in a really mean way. He’s 4 FFS!

I don’t know whether you mean Tattlers or Ashley James is sad, sick and lonely as hiring a PI to track someone down who may have legitimate concerns about your children is way more unhinged than anything I’ve seen on Tattle, and is closer to actual stalking and harassment which the influencers are alleging.

People on here choose to be on here and choose to post any of their problems they are having, knowing they may get backlash. They can also decide not to come on. People on Tattle being posted about haven't chosen it, they haven't chosen for obsessed stalkers to tear their life to shreds. They can't escape it. There's a difference.

So, like MN?

But people would actively have to go on to Tattle, search for their name and choose to read about themselves.
It is not like Twitter where they are tagging people so that they see.

But it’s not just gossip. People have been followed and threatened. Fake accounts made and things posted about people.

But they are choosing to be influencers and sometimes share a worrying amount of info about their children online to strangers.

Not saying this means there should be nastiness/ stalking. I (guiltily) enjoy the eye rolling at/ piss taking of certain influencers on tattle. Obviously the vitriol and trying to work out where they live is derranged!

I’ve been on MN since the very beginning. You need a thick skin if you’re going to post about yourself on here generally speaking. The deliberately obtuse, goady, passive aggressive, and unkind among us aim their vitriol at other posters. Whereas on TL it’s actually quite remarkable how supportive and kind posters are towards each other. I enjoy both platforms. It’s the internet though and not everyone should be actively partaking in it. We need to take responsibility for ourselves. If something isn’t doing you good, withdraw from it.

I feel like this has been a long time coming. Regardless of what you think about tattle, you can't host a website where people are allowed to defame others. Hasn't Mumsnet got into trouble before with Gina Ford?

It's one thing to talk about how much you dislike someone but another to post things about them that may not be true. I like a nose on Tattle from time to time and there are people who are calling out shitty behaviour by influencers and exploitation of kids and there are people who are taking the ball and running with it...speculating about all sorts and making pretty wild accusations. If the owner had bothered to moderate properly he wouldn't be in this mess.

They don't all eventually pretend to die after a few years by posting as their "husband" like this woman. Obviously, this upsets people.

I don’t know if the tragedy you’re referring to is my cousin, the situation I’ve mentioned in an earlier post, but if not it seems anyone going through the agony of losing a child is fair game for them.

Id have to go back and look at the obituaries to see if that’s where donations in her daughters memory were to be sent.