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Owner of Tattle Life named

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BeardofHagrid · 13/06/2025 18:18

The owner of hate forum Tattle Life has today been legally named as Sebastian Bond. He also goes by the alias Bastian Durward. He has tried to flee to Asia to avoid paying his legal costs.

https://goss.ie/featured/everything-we-know-about-the-owner-of-tattle-life-as-he-is-finally-named-423238

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CandiedPrincess · 18/06/2025 15:09

It absolutely would be a huge GDPR breach to release the email addresses so it will never happen. Email addresses are personal data and identify people. The only way that data could ever be released is as part of a legal investigation, which is highly unlikely to happen. All the influencers making little gleeful videos about it happening, need to move on, they look silly.

Remmy123 · 18/06/2025 15:10

Of course the can't release email addresses and peoples identities!

Roobarbtwo · 18/06/2025 15:14

You can police speech if someone is defamed and has the resources to take the person responsible to court.

Roobarbtwo · 18/06/2025 15:20

Remmy123 · 18/06/2025 15:10

Of course the can't release email addresses and peoples identities!

They aren't going to release them - but if someone's been defamed and gets a court order - anyone can be traced by a court order. It's not quite the same thing but police can trace people who make offensive tweets - why would people think that a court couldn't trace someone who posted defamatory content about someone online?

HolaEspanola · 18/06/2025 15:21

Roobarbtwo · 18/06/2025 15:14

You can police speech if someone is defamed and has the resources to take the person responsible to court.

I agree and I’ve never disputed this. What they’re confusing is the unkind words etc which you can’t do much about except ignore.

Roobarbtwo · 18/06/2025 15:24

HolaEspanola · 18/06/2025 15:21

I agree and I’ve never disputed this. What they’re confusing is the unkind words etc which you can’t do much about except ignore.

There's been far more than unkind words on more than one thread on tattle over the last few years.

HolaEspanola · 18/06/2025 15:26

If and when it has crossed into law breaking such as stalking and libel etc then absolutely they can take the site owners to court to do something about it- as the Irish couple did 2 years ago.
I totally agree there is some really hateful stuff on there and that’s why I agree it needs to go. It’s been very damaging to a lot of people.

Sasssquatch · 18/06/2025 15:44

TERFlawnBOY · 17/06/2025 21:50

Whatever TL’s website’s future, they need to ban ANY discussion of ANY child. Full stop. Disgusting that it’s allowed in the first place.

Could this also be applied to Instagram / tick tock etc? A ban documenting a child’s behaviour, preferences, health, homes.

Change9944 · 18/06/2025 16:28

Sasssquatch · 18/06/2025 15:44

Could this also be applied to Instagram / tick tock etc? A ban documenting a child’s behaviour, preferences, health, homes.

It should be yes. Influencers should not be posting anything to do with their kids. I would imagine they won't like that though.

ElizaTh0rnberry · 18/06/2025 17:27

So from the mainstream media articles I've read today, not one of them have really mentioned anything about going after users. It's all about getting the site taken down and getting better laws in place.
I personally think that's a reasonable argument and I don't think the average tattler needs to worry too much.

scoopoftheday · 18/06/2025 18:11

I saw a post by Dr Jessica who was on Lorraine talking about seeking out stalkers from tattle.

I haven't seen any of her threads on there but I take from that it crossed the line from posting online on to stalking?

And did she not recently take someone to court/get them struck off for calling her names?

HolaEspanola · 18/06/2025 19:40

scoopoftheday · 18/06/2025 18:11

I saw a post by Dr Jessica who was on Lorraine talking about seeking out stalkers from tattle.

I haven't seen any of her threads on there but I take from that it crossed the line from posting online on to stalking?

And did she not recently take someone to court/get them struck off for calling her names?

Don’t know- don’t know anything about her tbh.
But deffo if people have exhibited stalking behaviours etc then that should totally be called out. I just don’t understand how they have not done this before now?
It’s all now come off the back of HIM being identified and they’re using it as momentum to bring it to the fore and force a shut down. Will be interesting to see what happens.

FirstTimeMum0 · 18/06/2025 19:59

Is it true the sight can only be viewed if you have an account? And didn’t you need an invite code to make an account anyway?

scoopoftheday · 18/06/2025 20:31

You can view the website without an account.

You can't post or like posts without an account.

nipersvest · 18/06/2025 22:18

scoopoftheday · 18/06/2025 20:31

You can view the website without an account.

You can't post or like posts without an account.

Sounds like it might be a bit scant in terms of likeable posts 😉

ElizaTh0rnberry · 19/06/2025 07:55

Well it seems as though there was some drama yesterday. People being doxxed on influencers accounts and the main two saying they are going after everyone who ever wrote about them on the website. Tattlers seem to think it's fine and everyone is just getting on with it.

What is happening with the world atm? Like we're literally a second away from world war 3 and now everyone who has ever written on a gossip site is going to be exposed 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️

TheFormidableMrsC · 19/06/2025 08:08

ElizaTh0rnberry · 19/06/2025 07:55

Well it seems as though there was some drama yesterday. People being doxxed on influencers accounts and the main two saying they are going after everyone who ever wrote about them on the website. Tattlers seem to think it's fine and everyone is just getting on with it.

What is happening with the world atm? Like we're literally a second away from world war 3 and now everyone who has ever written on a gossip site is going to be exposed 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️

I came to post same. I presume it’s the most prolific and nasty trolls. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes 🤷🏻‍♀️

scoopoftheday · 19/06/2025 08:31

Isn't doxxing illegal?

Whereas saying someone should have put "ad" on a video, isn't?

NeelyOHara · 19/06/2025 08:37

Roobarbtwo · 18/06/2025 15:24

There's been far more than unkind words on more than one thread on tattle over the last few years.

About you? Why do you keep on looking? If it upsets you to the point it does?

2018SoFarSoGreat · 19/06/2025 08:55

I’ve hesitated to post here, since whenever my situation is mentioned there is an influx of malicious and hurtful posts continuing to spread lies and nasty gossip.

I posted on MN for support . I got that, thank you to all the very kind posters. I also got ridiculed and indeed doxxed on Tattle (and I believe Reddit, but nobody shared that with me and of course I have not looked.). The level of vitriol was astounding, and downright cruel. It continues, indeed they call me ‘Clurr’s Mam’ I’ve been told, and raise it whenever they feel inclined. As you can in this thread, one poster here (perhaps the one who chose to post a derogatory and horrendously cruel comment on the public obituary is page?) there was much research and time spent to hurt and shame me and my family.

We are regular people. I’ve used MN for many years. I asked for nothing but support. Instead, anyone who looks can see a two year long campaign of bile about me. The distress this has caused is enormous, and ongoing. I’m constantly on edge, waiting to see who will bring it to my attention next. Losing a child, whether adult or a newborn, is pain enough. I don’t know what pleasure those posters got from this, only they do. Perhaps @theyallwent can elucidate? How spewing such hate has been necessary or fruitful?

I have consulted a lawyer. This clearly falls under the Malicious Communications Act. Tracking my work place and posting pictures of me from there, posting on the obituary, reviewing my Facebook. This was intentional and sustained- and illegal.

My mental health and that of my family have suffered enough. Please, stop.

kirinm · 19/06/2025 08:58

Funny how many people defend that toxic website. The parents of azalea- the baby who died of leukaemia at 9 months old - got constant harassment from that website for months both before and after her death. Parents of a small child were reported to the charity commission. Accused of stealing money donated. Accused of all sorts actually and it was utterly disgusting.

The sad little posters had horrible nicknames for them. How anyone thinks they can justify pages and pages of hate is beyond me.

I do, however, think @mumsnetis not too far away from tattle when it comes to the Prince Harry / Meghan markel forum (let’s not pretend it’s a forum about the royals). The posters on there seem unhinged.

Roobarbtwo · 19/06/2025 09:10

NeelyOHara · 19/06/2025 08:37

About you? Why do you keep on looking? If it upsets you to the point it does?

No. About lots of people. I don't "keep on looking".

kirinm · 19/06/2025 09:27

So fucked up.

Owner of Tattle Life named
scoopoftheday · 19/06/2025 09:47

2018SoFarSoGreat · 19/06/2025 08:55

I’ve hesitated to post here, since whenever my situation is mentioned there is an influx of malicious and hurtful posts continuing to spread lies and nasty gossip.

I posted on MN for support . I got that, thank you to all the very kind posters. I also got ridiculed and indeed doxxed on Tattle (and I believe Reddit, but nobody shared that with me and of course I have not looked.). The level of vitriol was astounding, and downright cruel. It continues, indeed they call me ‘Clurr’s Mam’ I’ve been told, and raise it whenever they feel inclined. As you can in this thread, one poster here (perhaps the one who chose to post a derogatory and horrendously cruel comment on the public obituary is page?) there was much research and time spent to hurt and shame me and my family.

We are regular people. I’ve used MN for many years. I asked for nothing but support. Instead, anyone who looks can see a two year long campaign of bile about me. The distress this has caused is enormous, and ongoing. I’m constantly on edge, waiting to see who will bring it to my attention next. Losing a child, whether adult or a newborn, is pain enough. I don’t know what pleasure those posters got from this, only they do. Perhaps @theyallwent can elucidate? How spewing such hate has been necessary or fruitful?

I have consulted a lawyer. This clearly falls under the Malicious Communications Act. Tracking my work place and posting pictures of me from there, posting on the obituary, reviewing my Facebook. This was intentional and sustained- and illegal.

My mental health and that of my family have suffered enough. Please, stop.

I don't understand.

Are you saying they took your posts from here and put them on tattle?

So you're not in the public eye? You're not an influencer/public figure?

You posted on mumsnet for support and theublifted your posts from here and pisyed about them?

And from those posts they tracked your workplace and took photos?

I'm so sorry that happened to you, particularly when you were dealing with your grief too.

It's yet another reminder that anything we think we post anonymously isn't anonymous at all 😞

HolaEspanola · 19/06/2025 09:53

Yeah there’s many many examples of awful behaviour which I’m surprised, hasn’t caught up with the instigators of it by now.
I am glad I’ve never commented on the Sands! But I still think by now if they could have gotten everyone who wrote about them, their details thru legal means, they would have? Heck, Tattle could have handed them over without Seb even needing to be named surely?! They still sued the business running tattle didn’t they?
Again I maintain my stance that it’s all about keeping momentum and scare tactics so that people delete their accounts and he removes the site. Then it’s all gone and they get their threads down and no costly and timely legal action.
Because this furore has happened in 2021 and 2023. The latest is just knowing who he is and how the Sands who won their case can get their money off him cos he’s been denying it all hasn’t he? I’d assume they hope by getting reporting restrictions lifted it would mean he would finally pay up.