What fairly normal things do you not let your DC do?

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I won't let my DC have candles, my 14 yo is not impressed. I also don't let them go on fairground rides, though I'm OK with permanent rides at theme parks. Are there things you don't let your DC do, that their friends seem to do?

That’s a strange response.
I explained in another comment that she hasn’t asked to have a play date, hence my “so far” in my original post. I wouldn’t say no if she asked.
And again, I said she doesn’t use her TV or tablet because she plays with her toys or reads.

My 12 year old is taller than me!

No fizzy drinks or piercing until secondary school.

They’re tiny my DCs but my rules will firmly be: no motorbikes, no jet skis, no tattoos, no facial piercings.

Aren't play dates just a fancy way of saying 'playing with' it never had such a formal feel about it when we were kids. You just went to your pals house & if they were allowed out you just played in the house or the garden

I’m old so kids were pre internet and trampoline park but my red line was no guns

No chocolate til they're 2, no McDonalds until they're 5

Curious, why no trampoline parks?

My 16 year old asked for a candle for their room yesterday- absolutely no way!

No TV during the week (weekends only).
We don't have tablets or video games and the kids aren't allowed to use our phones.
Diluting juice is a special treat.
Only fruit or veg for snacks at school (except Fridays).
They think shut up, oh my god and idiot are swear words (I have a mouth like a pirate so they know ALL the words, they just know not to say them).
Electronic devices are never used in a restaurant.
Only rear facing until 4.

My son's nearly 6ft at 14 😂

Why no play dates or sleepovers? Playdates? I don't understand this at all. That's how they learn social skills, sharing toys and about other families and cultures which broadens their minds.
They also have fun!

I was wondering the same. My 11 year old is the same height as me. By 14 I'd think he'd be pushing six foot. He'd be touching the roof!

He did use a booster in the back of our old car as it was van style and the seatbelts are high but when I put it in the front it didn't work at all.

No sleepovers at our home. We live in a postage stamp and its needs redecorating. No room for more than us.

15 yo had a phone/ipad curfew

No sleepovers. No drinking. No smoking. Prefer for their friends to come to ours.

Mine were both taller than me before they were 14, I can't imagine them in a booster at that age. Not sure it would be safe unless they're particularly small.

Gosh, some of you are very strict. The only thing I can of is that I don’t “allow” DD to take the bus to school - because she’s autistic and lacks the executive function to know what to do if it doesn’t turn up or is late. I’m hoping once her younger brother starts secondary in September they’ll get the bus together, as he’s much more practical and will realise they can get a different bus, or in a pinch call me, rather than just panicking and shutting down.

I suppose I’ve so far been quite fortunate in that neither of them have asked me to do something I wouldn’t want them doing.

Oh, actually, no phones upstairs or in bathrooms, and no food upstairs. I’d forgotten about that. Neither has so far been an issue though.

No screens. We don’t have a TV apart from in our room. I grew up without a TV so I’m used to not having one, I’ve kind of just never really bothered. We did get one for our room last year but it’s in a cabinet, I don’t think they know we have it. DD did get sus a few weeks ago though, “mummy who was that man swearing in your room last night?” … we were watching The Thick Of It before bed.

I might reconsider when they’re older, but I really don’t know. Definitely never in their rooms, but if they’re really lucky maybe one in the living room.

I dont let my kids go on fairground rides as the annual fair in our town had a defective ride that seriously injured several people, one of whom was a high school friend. I went on it about 10 minutes before the accident. My mother tried to make me wait and "go on it later", but I must have had a tantrum convinced her, so I went on it then. 80's and H&S was non existent really.

Candles, I dont use them except in a serious emergency, never mind the kids. Too many horror stories.

Grapes or mini eggs or cherry tomatoes or anything like that if I am not in the house. Its me and DD left (others have all left) and she is 14. Didnt happen until late last year when a friend in his 60's choked to death on a piece of sausage. I know it has no basis in logic (the fact it was a piece of sausage proves you can choke on anything) but luckily we are both ND and so indulge each others quirks.

No baths unless I’m at home .

Thé good thing about these threads is they make me feel like a really chilled out parent —and I’m a neurotic mess—

I don’t allow things like my 13 year old to drink, neither of my kids swear in front of us (eldest is 18), motorbikes no but no juridiction after 18!

Oh possibly a weird one - I’d be furious if they killed a spider for example.

i do allow:

ear piercing
nose piercing
hair any colour they like
TVs
smartphones
play dates and sleepovers constantly when they were wee
trampoline

No boiled sweets or lollipops (choking hazard) They're 16 and 13 😂 .
13 year old not allowed smart phone at bedtime.

Candles - I get
Trampolines completely get DS broke his leg on them
Drinking/smoking well yes but good luck with that my view is to try and teach DD sensible boundaries and educate her
sleepovers yes I understand but I think allow at some point with boundsroes

car seat age restrictions are ridiculous - I mentioned that my 11 (now 12) sits in the front seat and I was asked about safety. Yes it is safe he is taller and heavier than me - indeed it is safer for the taller and heavier person to be in the front rather than in the back. He is currently 5ft10 and well on his way to being 6 ft +He stopped car seat at 7 becuase it was unsafe. Size restrictions make much more sense

I still cut grapes in half and my eldest is nearly 12.

He does sometimes have them whole but has been drilled to bite them and not put them into his mouth whole. A child choked to death on them at a local childcare centre and it's never left me.

The kids know mini eggs weren't allowed and still avoid them.

I could claim I've not allowed them MacDonald's other than a once a year treat but that's really because we don't have any near us.