What fairly normal things do you not let your DC do?

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I won't let my DC have candles, my 14 yo is not impressed. I also don't let them go on fairground rides, though I'm OK with permanent rides at theme parks. Are there things you don't let your DC do, that their friends seem to do?

I'm certainly not middle class, but I don't know about DH, perhaps he's Italian middle class? They're all farmers, some make their own wine and grow their own grapes. It's just a different culture, food and wine are Important.

I’d rather not give my kids ‘the rules of the club’ , if they come into contact with ‘the club’ I’d quite like them to stick their middle finger up at it and run away laughing tbh.

I’d rather give my children the rules and try to parent them so they can make their minds up in any situation about how they choose to behave - in line or otherwise.

It’s a different world now the elite are global / international so linguistics like this are just quaint. Ideally you would want your child to be able to fit in socially anywhere. Randomly one of mine gone strateospheric with her social circle but seems to be holding her own. Why would you want your child to be rude to / not socialise with extremely wealthy and successful people ? As long as they are nice obviously

They can do that whether they know the rules or not. But if they do know the rules they can make an informed decision about who they stick their middle finger up at. I like to give my kids all the tools I possibly can

Yeah fair enough, good point. Maybe what I want is just that, know the rules but know they’re also essentially bullshut. But my kids have/will have strong regional accents so maybe they’re at a disadvantage- maybe not, the way society/trends in media are going now.

@CurlewKate - there's a big difference between teaching them the rules and letting them decide - and not letting them use the words toilet and pardon (which you and some other posters said).

Same here! We knocked the door, asked if X was coming out and that was that!

There are lots of things that once they were grown up they chose for themselves but while they were children I decided for them- eating greens, wearing pants, swearing, playing GTA, saying loo……

Going by this thread, they’re probably 27.

My 16 year old niece has a record player…she got it last Christmas. What’s making laugh??

My school has trampolines for PE- would you say they can’t use them?

Yes Vinyl ia in again. Dd and her friend bought record playets last year. Also queue at record shop for record store day.

Same but these days, where I live anyway, the children all seem to live further apart. We live in an estate of around 30 houses and we are the only ones with DC so no one close for them to knock for. My DD’s friends are scattered all around the town, same for my DS, he has a friend relatively close who he could feasibly knock for as he is 12 so can walk a bit further but that friend is not allowed out to play (at 12!) but can come to ours if I go through all the rigmarole of organising it with his Mum.

We lived in a long street with lots of families….we knocked on the doors and gathered up our pals as we went! Admittedly, that was a long time to go! Play dates hadn’t been invented! I was of the generation that we went out to play and came home when the street lights came on!

Sugary, colourful breakfast cereals. Froot Loops, etc. I know they aren’t as bad as the US versions with artificial colours. But still, why start the day with a bowl of sugar and highly processed ingredients.