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ForTealSwan · 2025-05-21T00:54:50+00:00

Trying to think rationally and not jump to conclusion. Today my husband wore his work suit, that he hasn’t worn for a year. He asked me if I could check his back pockets as there was something there he couldn’t get out, and I pulled out condoms. He giggled at the sight of them and when I asked, he said he didn’t know why they were there. Could there any innocent explanation? It’s the same brand that we use, so it couldn’t have been handed at an event or whatever. Thank you

Zezet · 22/05/2025 12:26

The dripfeed is ridiculous.

The condom, so what. Left in a random suitcase, fell out on business travel, picked it up and put it away in a hurry as he left the room and didn't want the cleaner to see it. A hundred little scenarios for an unused, own-brand stray condom.

But no, then comes the sex addiction, the ex and the dodgy behaviour.

So, yeah, you have a problem. Unclear if the condom is part of it, but who cares.

DurinsBane · 22/05/2025 12:37

Boreded · 22/05/2025 00:22

Well this became quite the drip feed. I wouldn’t bother talking to him. Pack his bag and tell him to leave

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I hate people moaning about drip feeding. But in this case, the last line isn’t just a drip, it is a tsunami! 😀

Zonder · 22/05/2025 12:58

You don't have to put up with this behaviour.

SaintAgatha · 22/05/2025 13:11

Mate. Come on. Do you need our permission to leave? Cos if you do, it’s here.

AintNoPartyLikeANumber10Party · 22/05/2025 13:29

ForTealSwan · 22/05/2025 00:20

He said he doesn’t remember, I have already had a chat with him.

he also said that admittedly, if he had found them in my pocket he’d have been furious and thought I was cheating and maybe even left me.

I just don’t know. He’s not going to give me any explanation.

this isn’t the first time he can’t explain himself. He’s used “I don’t know” and “I can’t remember” many times before.

His ex worked next to his office. There was one time where he were planning on going out, him, myself, his ex, and his three other friends. I even picked the restaurant and everyone agreed.

he then told me the plan was cancelled and he was just going out with his two guy friends as a guys night so I didn’t need to come anymore, he also said they weren’t going to that restaurant but to a random place next to his workplace, turned out he lied to me and wanted to be with his ex and his friends alone.

he also has a severe porn and sex addiction and we have had countless arguments over him going to webcam girls.

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Oh @ForTealSwan he sounds like an absolute tool. You poor thing 💐

He needs to go. Please don’t make any rash moves - you need to get yourself sorted (check financials etc). But he isn’t to be trusted and your life will be better without him in the long term.
There are many ladies here who can advise on how to get your ducks in a row - and how to support your DC with autism too.
Please give yourself freedom from this awful man as the best birthday present ever.

FairyMaclary · 22/05/2025 13:32

Sorry you are in this situation op.

First question - do you have children together? If the answer is no, after your last update - don’t even consider staying. He has serial issues - so leave. Such a man isn’t worth staying for. No kids run away.

He is not a catch, he’s a loser. He may think he’s a catch but he’s very wrong.

chatgptsbestmate · 22/05/2025 14:04

You ask what you should do?

Based on the fact that I can't work out the point of the man, you should leave him

SussexLass87 · 22/05/2025 14:13

ForTealSwan · 22/05/2025 00:20

He said he doesn’t remember, I have already had a chat with him.

he also said that admittedly, if he had found them in my pocket he’d have been furious and thought I was cheating and maybe even left me.

I just don’t know. He’s not going to give me any explanation.

this isn’t the first time he can’t explain himself. He’s used “I don’t know” and “I can’t remember” many times before.

His ex worked next to his office. There was one time where he were planning on going out, him, myself, his ex, and his three other friends. I even picked the restaurant and everyone agreed.

he then told me the plan was cancelled and he was just going out with his two guy friends as a guys night so I didn’t need to come anymore, he also said they weren’t going to that restaurant but to a random place next to his workplace, turned out he lied to me and wanted to be with his ex and his friends alone.

he also has a severe porn and sex addiction and we have had countless arguments over him going to webcam girls.

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Based on your update why are you with him?! He sounds so careless with your feelings.

LT1233 · 22/05/2025 14:21

ForTealSwan · 22/05/2025 00:20

He said he doesn’t remember, I have already had a chat with him.

he also said that admittedly, if he had found them in my pocket he’d have been furious and thought I was cheating and maybe even left me.

I just don’t know. He’s not going to give me any explanation.

this isn’t the first time he can’t explain himself. He’s used “I don’t know” and “I can’t remember” many times before.

His ex worked next to his office. There was one time where he were planning on going out, him, myself, his ex, and his three other friends. I even picked the restaurant and everyone agreed.

he then told me the plan was cancelled and he was just going out with his two guy friends as a guys night so I didn’t need to come anymore, he also said they weren’t going to that restaurant but to a random place next to his workplace, turned out he lied to me and wanted to be with his ex and his friends alone.

he also has a severe porn and sex addiction and we have had countless arguments over him going to webcam girls.

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Your last paragraph is the issue here, and it's known pretty obvious this man isn't someone you should be married to xx

LT1233 · 22/05/2025 14:26

Jujujudo · 22/05/2025 11:16

It’s horrible. I found condoms hidden away a while back and after an entire day of utter devastation, I got myself together and quietly told him I’d found them. I diff do not ask questions, I just waited. He immediately said without shock or hesitation that he uses them when he wanks so it doesn’t make a mess, and he hides them so the kids don’t find them. I had no reason to suspect anything until then, and I had to believe him or start an argument. Try the same technique. Just wait quietly for him to tell you and decide if you believe him. What a horrible situation, it’s extremely upsetting.

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Did you have a thread on here? There was one similar and I can't remember if it had a conclusion. Either way, are you cool now? Did you believe him?

Jujujudo · 22/05/2025 14:35

LT1233 · 22/05/2025 14:26

Did you have a thread on here? There was one similar and I can't remember if it had a conclusion. Either way, are you cool now? Did you believe him?

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No, it wasn’t me on that thread. I believed him because the alternative was him having sex with someone else.. and I genuinely don’t think he is. I don’t think I can ever know for certain, but there have never been any other signs and I’ve not mentioned it again.

Blushingm · 22/05/2025 14:36

Were they actually in date or expired. If they were stuck goodness knows how long they’d been there

Fairyladyonwheels · 22/05/2025 14:42

Leave, he is a jerk

Blackdow · 22/05/2025 15:04

ForTealSwan · 22/05/2025 00:20

He said he doesn’t remember, I have already had a chat with him.

he also said that admittedly, if he had found them in my pocket he’d have been furious and thought I was cheating and maybe even left me.

I just don’t know. He’s not going to give me any explanation.

this isn’t the first time he can’t explain himself. He’s used “I don’t know” and “I can’t remember” many times before.

His ex worked next to his office. There was one time where he were planning on going out, him, myself, his ex, and his three other friends. I even picked the restaurant and everyone agreed.

he then told me the plan was cancelled and he was just going out with his two guy friends as a guys night so I didn’t need to come anymore, he also said they weren’t going to that restaurant but to a random place next to his workplace, turned out he lied to me and wanted to be with his ex and his friends alone.

he also has a severe porn and sex addiction and we have had countless arguments over him going to webcam girls.

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You’re a fool, OP. He has a history of deceitful behaviour around women, he goes behind your back for cam girls (that’s a divorce for a lot of people but you’ve stayed) and now you’ve found condoms which he 100% didn’t have to use with you. And you’re just… accepting it? The guy sounds like a total letch. Not just for this. Why aren’t you leaving him? Is it desperation for a man? Because there are other men.

dottydaily · 22/05/2025 15:17

he was planning for all eventualities on his farewell party a year ago.

retirementrocks · 23/05/2025 15:04

Just ask him why they were there! Speculation is pointless!

retirementrocks · 23/05/2025 15:05

Ignore that last message! Just seen that you already have asked him. Sorry you're having such a shit birthday.

Alliod40 · 23/05/2025 15:15

So basically cause you were having a shitty day because of your sons autism diagnosis you read more in to the condoms that was needed..if he had anything to hide he would have acted differently,the women on here are all mad to split up families,just speak to him if you think he's cheating or cheated,if not just move on and don't listen to these crazies on here and be happy

Dingalingalong · 23/05/2025 15:18

ForTealSwan · 22/05/2025 00:20

He said he doesn’t remember, I have already had a chat with him.

he also said that admittedly, if he had found them in my pocket he’d have been furious and thought I was cheating and maybe even left me.

I just don’t know. He’s not going to give me any explanation.

this isn’t the first time he can’t explain himself. He’s used “I don’t know” and “I can’t remember” many times before.

His ex worked next to his office. There was one time where he were planning on going out, him, myself, his ex, and his three other friends. I even picked the restaurant and everyone agreed.

he then told me the plan was cancelled and he was just going out with his two guy friends as a guys night so I didn’t need to come anymore, he also said they weren’t going to that restaurant but to a random place next to his workplace, turned out he lied to me and wanted to be with his ex and his friends alone.

he also has a severe porn and sex addiction and we have had countless arguments over him going to webcam girls.

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Wow, this is a massive drip feed!

I'd have left him the time he lied to me about the cancelled meal and went alone with his ex and friends (do you actually believe the 2 other friends were even there and not just the ex?!?!).
I also couldn't live with an addict, specially not a porn addict.
And, in my books, using webcam girls is cheating, so again, big reason for me to leave. I know we all have different boundaries, but mate, it sounds like you have none!
The condom found is the smoke of the massive fucking fire that's been destroying your relationship, caused by that pyromaniac you call your partner. Sorry to be so blunt.

Dingalingalong · 23/05/2025 15:20

Alliod40 · 23/05/2025 15:15

So basically cause you were having a shitty day because of your sons autism diagnosis you read more in to the condoms that was needed..if he had anything to hide he would have acted differently,the women on here are all mad to split up families,just speak to him if you think he's cheating or cheated,if not just move on and don't listen to these crazies on here and be happy

Read all OP's posts, yo! Just click on "See all" under her post and get updated.

Nanny0gg · 23/05/2025 15:31

ForTealSwan · 22/05/2025 00:20

He said he doesn’t remember, I have already had a chat with him.

he also said that admittedly, if he had found them in my pocket he’d have been furious and thought I was cheating and maybe even left me.

I just don’t know. He’s not going to give me any explanation.

this isn’t the first time he can’t explain himself. He’s used “I don’t know” and “I can’t remember” many times before.

His ex worked next to his office. There was one time where he were planning on going out, him, myself, his ex, and his three other friends. I even picked the restaurant and everyone agreed.

he then told me the plan was cancelled and he was just going out with his two guy friends as a guys night so I didn’t need to come anymore, he also said they weren’t going to that restaurant but to a random place next to his workplace, turned out he lied to me and wanted to be with his ex and his friends alone.

he also has a severe porn and sex addiction and we have had countless arguments over him going to webcam girls.

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Oh please

What the hell are his plus points?

What are you doing??

Nanny0gg · 23/05/2025 15:32

Alliod40 · 23/05/2025 15:15

So basically cause you were having a shitty day because of your sons autism diagnosis you read more in to the condoms that was needed..if he had anything to hide he would have acted differently,the women on here are all mad to split up families,just speak to him if you think he's cheating or cheated,if not just move on and don't listen to these crazies on here and be happy

Read all her posts

thismummydrinksgin · 23/05/2025 15:38

His reaction doesn’t seem one of guilt? Could it be there for when you two have been away or at a wedding?

smallstitch · 23/05/2025 15:40

Well that’s the biggest drip feed ever. If this is a genuine post then yeah, you should’ve left a while ago by the sounds of it.

crumblingschools · 23/05/2025 15:41

I’m struggling to see any good points about him