Condoms in husband’s work suit

[ForTealSwan]

Trying to think rationally and not jump to conclusion.

Today my husband wore his work suit, that he hasn’t worn for a year. He asked me if I could check his back pockets as there was something there he couldn’t get out, and I pulled out condoms.

He giggled at the sight of them and when I asked, he said he didn’t know why they were there.

Could there any innocent explanation?

It’s the same brand that we use, so it couldn’t have been handed at an event or whatever.

Thank you

“His ex worked next to his office. There was one time where he were planning on going out, him, myself, his ex, and his three other friends. I even picked the restaurant and everyone agreed.
he then told me the plan was cancelled and he was just going out with his two guy friends as a guys night so I didn’t need to come anymore, he also said they weren’t going to that restaurant but to a random place next to his workplace, turned out he lied to me and wanted to be with his ex and his friends alone

he also has a severe porn and sex addiction and we have had countless arguments over him going to webcam girls”

Oh, @ForTealSwannone of this sounds good, or innocent. I don’t think he understands or respects fidelity/monogamy and unless he gets some serious therapy and you feel you can forgive/forget past transgressions I think your marriage is over.

That is exactly what he did. This is a sign of a sociopath. There will be more games to come.

So sorry OP you are definitely having a bad week. Your partner does not sound like a genuine, caring, responsible husband or father.
How is he with his child, does he have a good relationship and get stuck into parenting?
I don’t want to just assume the worst, but his timing the day after a diagnosis is a bit suspect. It’s also a real coincidence that your row (he caused) is just as your birthday approaches.

It’s so easy to say LTB, but your life just doesn’t sound happy or joyous. I hope you have family and friends you can chat this through with irl.
I do think you deserve better.

Hes innocent if he.asked you to check the pockets.
The issue is if he explained any reason he had them a year ago. Could be for you and him but he should explain.

Why not just ask him and maybe trust him??
Or divorce him and take him to the cleaners without even trying to find out

So sorry you've got this dilemma xx maybe the condoms were ones you used? Your son getting this diagnosis may seem such a shock to you but it will be good in the long run 💜💜

How convenient that he has such a “bad memory”.

@ForTealSwanyou know what you need to do. How can you trust someone who disrespects you this much and lies to you?

Do what you should have done long ago and kick him out.

There comes a point at which giving someone the benefit of the doubt is just self-sabotage and denial of reality.

Why would she trust a serial liar?

The husband has arrived.

Did he ever wear his suit somewhere with you where he might possibly need condoms? Sounds a really stupid question, doesn't it? If you can't think of a time when that happened, then he didn't intend to use them with you. You need to put him on the spot.

Sounds like he's trying to sabotage your relationship to me. Before my ex and I divorced he would gaslight me with those sort of curiosities. My child is autistic and it is a gift that I would never ever change. Can be challenging socially but all shall be well and is well. Let your birthday be mark to move on, don't be in this same spot of wonder next year 💜

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Me three, I need to always state that I come off as a jerk to begin with but trust me my jerk vibe comes from a good place (sounds so upside down, I get it) .. I just hate for anyone to be taken advantage of, I have so much pain in retrospect and never want anyone else to feel that is what is meant..
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Or a sociopath who wants to fuck with her head

That escalated quick. Bad experience?

The fact that they're the same brand that you use for marital sex makes it sound like he's trying to suggest sex with you, rather than he's 'playing away' albeit in a rather odd way, like he's expecting you to drop everything (literally, in this case) immediately for sex.

Nah but a friend who has