Condoms in husband’s work suit

[ForTealSwan]

Trying to think rationally and not jump to conclusion.

Today my husband wore his work suit, that he hasn’t worn for a year. He asked me if I could check his back pockets as there was something there he couldn’t get out, and I pulled out condoms.

He giggled at the sight of them and when I asked, he said he didn’t know why they were there.

Could there any innocent explanation?

It’s the same brand that we use, so it couldn’t have been handed at an event or whatever.

Thank you

I giggle when I'm nervous so that might explain the giggle.

What's the use by date on them? Do you regularly use condoms? If there's no reason for him to have them in the suit, I would be going mad.

When there's doubt, there's no doubt.

If he hasn’t worn that suit with you then it’s pretty obvious he’s using them with someone else.

Yes, and presumably you live together in a home so why would he need to put condoms in a suit pocket.

The use by date is September 2026

It’s the “giggle” I’d be unable to get past. A man giggling? Wanker

What do I do now? Do I just leave? I’m so confused

Ok so they usually last 2-5 years. I'm just thinking if they were old maybe they were from when you were together previously. Do you currently use condoms? Sorry very personal question.

Laughing is one thing but giggling?

All seems rather odd to me was he pranking you or something? I’d imagine a grown man who giggled would be up for some brainless pranking.

There is history of him being a bit dodgy about things.

Do you trust him? If you don't trust him end the relationship. Life is too short to be looking over you shoulder wonder who you husband is up to his nuts in.

Grasping at straws, a stupid workmate put them there as a prank ? I've known them do worse things. Presumably they are available elsewhere ? Though your riders do make it all very fishy, did you ask him why they were there ?

There are several steps before leaving.
I'd say you want a proper conversation with him. He's telling you lies - or rather not telling you anything at all.

He needs to be honest with you. Condoms don't usually find themselves in a back trouser pocket of a suit for no reason. If it's a pack of 3, rather than 3 single ones, it suggests he bought them for 'short term' use, maybe from a machine.

You don't need to leave- he does if he's had an affair and you're unwilling to try to mend your marriage.

Have you been to a wedding? Formal function etc where he might have hoped …. ? Not sure how long dates are though

You need to have a proper conversation with him and see what reason he comes out with and decide if you trust him or not. Depending on the outcome of this then you decide whether to leave or not

Well, no. You get him to speak to you properly and try to get to the bottom of it.

Oh come on.

If that was the case, he would remember, not look all guilty and giggle.

And if they don't use them anyway why would they use them at a wedding?

Oh god what a birthday
it you don’t use condoms then they are for him to have sex with someone else, go jump to conclusions because it’s the only conclusion.

Does he work in product testing? Condoms make surprisingly good emergency covers for some leaking liquids bottles…. I tend to carry condoms (extra large size, extra strong), baby bottle disinfectant and electrical tape in my work bag… none of them ever used for their intended purpose

You think he changes brand for each woman he sleeps with?

No I would be so shocked if I found condoms in my work clothes

Why would you? Has he said he was intending or has used them? I don't think he'd giggle unless it was innocent tbh.
But you know him, what's he like as partner and Dad?

Giggling sounds like a nervous "oh shit I've been busted" sort of moment and definitely not what you need with everything going on with your DS,my son was diagnosed with autism and whilst going through that the break up of me and his mum with me moving out of the family home really affected him.good luck with your son and hopefully you find answers what dh was doing

I would be suspicious about that. Sorry, probably not what you want to hear, but I think his giggle came from a place of sheer panic.

I'd be very suspicious - he has the opportunity and now you've found he's taking condoms with him. The giggling is awful.

Do you have kids together?

you will likely never know if there were more and he used them, but thats not really important daft as that sounds.

What you DO know without a shadow of a doubt was that the last time he wore that suit, you were a long way away and he was anticipating a situation where he may need them.

Those are the facts. There is no other explaination that works. No man ever saw condoms in his drawer and thought "Oh I had better keep them safe, I know I will pop them in my pocket" did they?

What happens now is up to you. But be prepared for the fact that he will lie lie and lie again.

I think that the giggling is indicative too. When we get caught out there are usually the same few reactions....anger, withdrawal or rabbit in the head lights panic. He was rabbit in the headlights, didnt know how to react so it came out as a nervous "Oh my, how did they get there?!" knowing deep down that it is obvious that they didnt just jump into his pocket of their own accord.

He knows he has screwed up here.....how he acts from now on will be telling. I suspect he has spent all day coming up with some ludicrous explaination, that wouldnt fool a concussed toddler.

Oh and to add.....yes men can be that fucking stupid.

My ex asked me to wash his trousers in which was his secret second phone with no lock on it........he used to keep it at work but had forgotten it was there. And no, he really didnt want me to find it.