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My darling husband

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Stickygloop · 15/05/2025 16:38

He’s had a stroke following a number of open heart surgeries to repair and replace his heart valves. I can’t breathe, I overheard them say terminal stroke. I love him so much.

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Overtheatlantic · 15/05/2025 19:24

Sending a big virtual hug to you and your children.

MinkyWales · 15/05/2025 19:24

I’m so sorry. Many years ago I was the teenage child in that situation. I hope you manage to get some comfort from being together. As a previous poster mentioned, they may ask about organ donation. My mother was always sad that no-one asked her, as she said it would have been easier if some good had come of it. Sending love xx

nonevernotever · 15/05/2025 19:28

I am so sorry to hear this, and am thinking of you and your family.

rubicustellitall · 15/05/2025 19:28

I am so very sorry. I cannot imagine the pain you are going through right now. Stay strong OP so many people are counting on your strength and its that strength even though you don't feel it right now,.it is that strength that will get you and your family through. Again I am so very sorry x

FranksInvisibleLlama · 15/05/2025 19:29

I am so very sorry. Telling my DC that DH/ their dad had died suddenly and unexpectedly is the worst thing I have ever had to do. There is nothing I can say to make it easier for all of you at this point. The only thing I can say is that right now this all feels completely unreal and impossible, it probably will do for some time, but a few years later, DC and I have survived despite many days I didn’t think I would.
MN can be amazing. There are people here 24/7 when you need someone, some of us have been there and others just care and will try to help.

ContraryNoodle · 15/05/2025 19:29

So very sorry to hear this. Sadly, this happened to my beloved dad. He passed away very young. There really is nothing one can say but hope your children and family can be support to you.

Whatwouldnanado · 15/05/2025 19:30

Sending love. Don’t give up hope. Hopefully you will be with your family soon x

FloofyKat · 15/05/2025 19:31

This sounds so incredibly hard. I’m so very sorry x

PopThatBench · 15/05/2025 19:32

I’m so sorry OP 💛 sending you all the love to you and your children x

tarheelbaby · 15/05/2025 19:34

Sending you huge hugs. These are tough days.

Just over a year ago, in Feb 2024, I was explaining to my teen DDs. DH was in hospital and hospice for about 4 weeks but it was still somewhat unexpected. He had been so strong.

Take your time to process and function as best you can but brace yourself for the crazy. When it happens, just take deep breaths.

On the day my DH died, his parents/brother went into overdrive. It was incredible and horrible. They did whatever they wanted without asking and seemed to think I was on board. DD1 actually went back to college to avoid them ... I went to the neighbours' and DD2 hid in her room.

PartySuziPlease · 15/05/2025 19:34

Such sad news. I am thinking about you. I'm so sorry this is happening

WearyAuldWumman · 15/05/2025 19:35

I am so very sorry.

Otterseatpuffinsdontthey · 15/05/2025 19:35

💐 For you and your children 💐

2025willbemytime · 15/05/2025 19:36

I'm so sorry to read this. I'm sure you're in lots of posters thoughts tonight 🌷

Redglitter · 15/05/2025 19:36

So sorry. Thinking of you and your children

Sunnywithacoolbreeze · 15/05/2025 19:36

You are in many thoughts and hearts including mine. x

Freyer · 15/05/2025 19:38

Oh @Stickygloop, I am sending you so much love, a giant hug and a tight handhold. I am so, so sorry 🌷

SadTexanChick · 15/05/2025 19:40

Stickygloop · 15/05/2025 16:38

He’s had a stroke following a number of open heart surgeries to repair and replace his heart valves. I can’t breathe, I overheard them say terminal stroke. I love him so much.

I am so, so very sorry OP. My heart can't even imagine what you are going through right now. I know you have to be there for your kids, but know we are all here online to support YOU and be there for YOU. Lean on your friends and family as well, and remember to pray. Everything is in God's hands. Pray to Him and ask for His love to help you as well. Faith moves mountains, remember that!

Growsomeballswoman · 15/05/2025 19:40

Can you be with him tonight?

SockHop · 15/05/2025 19:41

I’m so sorry op.
I lost my similar aged husband a few months ago - very suddenly and unexpectedly just like you. We have an 11 year old. Telling them was so tough. You are all in my thoughts right now.
if you want to make contact please DM me. I will keep an eye out for your posts. If I can be of any support or offer any advice I am here for you in solidarity.
Thinking of you.

FloraBotticelli · 15/05/2025 19:42

Sending you love, so sorry you’re going through this, and so young. I’ve been there. It’s utterly shit and no doubt your world is completely spinning right now.

Try to look after yourself as best you can - sleep, eat. The world will gradually right itself again, and (you might not want to hear this right now, but hold onto it for later) you’ll find your footing and new anchors with time.

Purplebunnie · 15/05/2025 19:42

Handhold and hugs x

I am so so sorry

YorkshireLass2012 · 15/05/2025 19:44

I am so so sorry OP. Sending much love and light to you.

141mum · 15/05/2025 19:47

This is so sad, can’t imagine the shock you must be in. 😘

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Stickygloop · 15/05/2025 19:48

I must look such an idiot sobbing my heart out on the train xxx

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