Random Man, Stupid Comment

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Bit of background: I've been struggling with disordered eating and calorie restriction for the last few months. I'm on the waiting list to be assessed by the doctors etc.

Today I had a moment of rationality and decided to go to Costa and have a hot chocolate and a slice of cake. Random Man in the queue next to me decided that it was his place to comment on my cake and said 'OOOh naughty but nice!'.

FFS.

Lol. If you knew me you'd know its quite likely I'd tell a random man to f off if he made any comment towards or at me that wasn't of the "what a lovely day" type. Why should women just accept men making comments about what they wear, what they eat etc?

It was cream cakes I think.

I'm in Ireland, wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

Not that different. It's a normal, friendly comment.

Massive defensive overreaction!
I was a flirty comment, nothing more

It was most likely an off the cuff comment because it’s a very famous slogan to certain age groups. If she’d ordered a soup he probably would have said nothing.

I went to the post office as I had some parcels to send. The man behind the counter asked me if I'd sold them on eBay so I followed the advice of Kardamyli2.

Can someone let me have the name of a good solicitor - I am being charged for threatening behaviour.

Telling a man to "f off" because he makes an innocent comment about a cake is not going to endear him to women, maybe he'll tell the next woman who speaks to him to f off, then you can complain about how vile men are, "speaking to a woman like that"

Goes away to shake her head and wonder about the world.

Exactly, she needs to lighten up, it’s people like her that stops people from making friendly chit-chat with strangers…..they get defensive and jump down people’s throats over every little comment, then come on MN seeking validation

It was a reference to an old advert from the 1980's.
I'm as feminist as they come but you're just being aggressive here...

Dear oh dear Norfolk, if you can't distinguish between a question from a man serving you in the post office and a personal comment from a random stranger you need help.

I have no idea how some people get through life - fancy being offended all the time, how bloody exhausting.

Aggressive? Seems a reach, but I guess if you don't mind random men making personal comments you'd think that. I take your word about the advert, though I don't recall ever seeing it.

Please just go away and Google Naughty but Nice advert .

It wasn't a personal comment.

And if you can't tell the difference between offensive misogynists / perverts and slightly clumsy men who try a bit of idle chit chat and it's a bit "off" you need help.

And that's assuming OPs bloke was a bit off... I think avoiding food is a VERY good idea in idle chit chat, but it was hardly outrageous.

Please just go away and Google Naughty but Nice advert. They're on YouTube.

It really wasn't a personal comment...

I agree - but then I suppose the MN boards would be very quiet if innocuous, throwaway comments from people who are just making small talk weren’t seized upon and ruminated over as examples of micro aggressions, discriminatory behaviour, and the patriarchy in action.

There ya go.

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You get the gist..... he was quoting a fucking advert. FFS

Yes - it's me that needs help 😀

It's a wonder anyone talks to anyone any more. This is just a social comment in a coffee shop. Ignore him if you don't want to engage.

and some!!

Don’t you mean ‘fuck off Pagan’? As that seems to be your response to perfectly ordinary conversational gambits.

A time when you were permitted to have a sense of humour, sigh.