Random Man, Stupid Comment

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Bit of background: I've been struggling with disordered eating and calorie restriction for the last few months. I'm on the waiting list to be assessed by the doctors etc.

Today I had a moment of rationality and decided to go to Costa and have a hot chocolate and a slice of cake. Random Man in the queue next to me decided that it was his place to comment on my cake and said 'OOOh naughty but nice!'.

FFS.

I don't know why someone posting about being offended on mumsnet has some people desperate to use it as proof that "The UK has weird social mores" or "They don't talk to strangers "Down south." Or "young people are offended by everything nowadays."
But there we go. I guess people are desperate to group large swathes of the population into a single entity.

It sounds like the kind of thing i would say and I'm a middle aged women. Honestly, I'm scared to open my mouth anymore, there's always someone waiting to get offended by the tiniest little thing!

I’m a man. It’s not unusual for women to make friendly comments like this in passing.

op I understand you’re more sensitive to this than others would be. That’s understandable. I don’t believe there was anything in the comment that was problematic though. A person was trying to be friendly.

A random woman commented on my macaroni cheese the other day in Costa, she was right it was nice.

oh you know him?

I believe he likely would. It happens a fair bit and friendly people make comments like that to men and women

The idea that food is "naughty" is fucking annoying. (sorry)

Shrug it off. it isn't worth getting upset about.

Were you around when the advert used to air?

Someone makes a benign comment to pass the time of day, and you want to knee him in the balls.

Lovely.

OP you are being ridiculous. Honestly I don't know what planet some of you are on, "only a man would comment on a woman's food". In my experience these types of social chat come mostly from woman anyhow, either way its just friendly banter. It's no wonder so many people here struggle with social skills and friendships when every little social interaction is treated with hostility and suspicion.

Good idea. Then we can have some more online threads bemoaning why everyone is so unfriendly these days.

It sounds like a comment from a man who can't bear the sight of a woman enjoying her own company when she could be paying attention to Him.

It only sounds like what you said if you're majorly paranoid and need to get a grip.

Wow @WellDoneThatSupremeCourtif that’s your genuine belief I have no idea how you navigate life.

Seriously, what a bunch of snowflakes. OP I'm sorry for your disordered eating, but the world does not revolve around you and people will always offend you unless you lighten up

Sometimes when I’ve been offered cake at a friend’s I’ll say ‘ooh naughty but nice’. It’s one of those ad catchphrases that have stuck through the years. Maybe you have to be a certain age to get the reference and not take offence. I’d have laughed and agreed but I don’t have food issues, but I can understand that someone else might.

Well, I could not believe the cretin at the bus stop who waggled his fingers as I ate..... an apple!

Bit of a reach there 🥴

I find telling such random men to piss off, or fuck off, (or choose your expletive of choice) and leave me alone effective and makes me feel better. Alternatively just ignore idiots.

His wife might have been sitting at the table while he got the stuff?

Only like woman on checkout asking if I'm on a diet because a bought two cans of weight watchers soup.
They shouldn't comment.

Honestly, someone engages you in benign chit chat and you go ‘fuck off’??

Bet you don’t. Bet you a million.

Its a quote from an old advert... for double cream or something.
FFS. No wonder people dont speak to each other or pass the time of day anymore...

Now I don’t like men being obnoxious with their cheer up darlin crap but the men haters seem to be out in force today.

how the absolute fuck do you extrapolate that?